If someone's behavior is annoying you, what do you normally do?

Answer 1

get away from them.. but if u gotta live with them, just put them on the 'mute' button mode... ignorance is bliss

Answer 2

Depends on who they are and how annoying it is. For instance:

Situation 1: I go to Texas A&M. Seven years ago, there was a tradegy at my school involving our bonfire and 12 students died. It's still a very emotionally charged time of year every year on the anniversary and was (and is) a huge, huge deal at the university. I was at a dinner at my church and a man came and sat down at our table. When he found out I was from A&M, he said, "Oh, ho, talk about those Aggies! Some engineers, huh? Can't even build a bonfire!" I was so annoyed (read: outraged) that I couldn't even say anything. I just shot him what I hoped was a biting and horrible look, got up, and left the table. My family followed and he was left with an empty table.

Less extreme would be situation 2: A guy who lives near me is kind of socially awkward and I get the feeling he doesn't hang out with people much. We are trying to go on a road trip and are in a hurry, but he won't leave. We get in the car, turn the car on, even start to back out of the drive and he's still talking to us. In this situation, because we are still friends with the guy, he just doesn't take social clues well, I assisted him. I gave him an obvious clue: "Thanks, but we really have to go now." And I meant it, because even though it was a bit annoying, his heart was okay. It's not his fault he didn't receive proper socialization training from his parents.

So it depends. If it's a social faux pax I'm usually much more forgiving and patient and try to help them understand (without actually saying it) why what they did was unacceptable socially (who knews what kind of situation they had growing up, they obviously don't have social skills for a reason and probably need someone to help teach them) than if someone is just downright rude or mean.

Answer 3

Look honestly at my part first. What am I annoyed at? Is this reasonable or not? Does the other person have the right to do this? Am I being unreasonable? Does what is coming out of my mouth say, I want, I want. If I am imposing my wants on them, I'm wrong, I let it go, and get over it.
If my moral values are challenged then I look further.
If I assume they are wrong, and at this point it is still an assumption, and they are not going to be violent, I calmly ask them for coffee, and talk about the situation, assuring them that I am curious why they did this. In hearing their answer and stating my beliefs we then have all the information out in the open, and can then decide together who is wrong thinking. Usually if they are they will admit it. If they are not wrong you are, apologize and again, get over it. If they are, you've figured it out together, be willing to forgive. Then accept the amend if it is forthcoming. If not, and they want to continue the behavior, agree to disagree and live with the difference, or limit / end the friendship. The choice is yours.
Oh there is one other choice, it's called denial and that just keeps you annoied and them annoying you. Not very healthy.

Answer 4

Don't pay them too much attention. There's nothing worse than being told you're annoying, so I'd avoid that (there's no need to bluntly chastise or humiliate them)

Is it a long or short term annoyance?

If it's short term (ie someone talking rubbish loudly and irritatingly) Try and initiate a change of subject. Change the tone to something more serious... or if they persist start looking disinterested and try to initiate a conversation with someone else.

If it's long term (ie a boyfriend/girlfriend who's too clingy or leaves the toilet seat up etc.) confront them on their own about the issue. Be civil and try and make the annoyance a weakness in yourself i.e. "I know I'm being silly but sometimes I feel crowded if spend too much time with someone etc."

Most people get the hint. If they really really don't as you get more and more obvious about the fact their behaviour irritates you it might be worth being totally honest, but prepare yourself for a defensive backlash...

Answer 5

Ignore them. Unless you care about this person, best to ignore their annoying behavior.

The people who really count are those you care about.

Maybe you can sit down with this person and tactfully share how you feel when they do certain things. Try to point out diplomatically that this behavior may also annoy others.

Answer 6

Make big hints they are annoying me. If they don't pick up on that.
As in they don't want to pick up on a hint, or they are too thick to pick up on the hint.
I would say in there face, whatever it was that they were doing was annoying me, could they be quieter or do it later or leave me alone..

If that doesn't help depending, if i can move away from the person or not. I would try and move away..

If not i would point out that its not nice to put others through this and if it was very annoying i would get agitated..
and verbalize my request again.

Answer 7

You should be clear - and respectful.

"I feel irritated when you are constantly asking me things" is less likely to start a fight than "You really bug the cr*p out of me!"

But, be honest. Sometimes people don't realize what they are doing is annoying. Sometimes they are even totally unaware.

And, don't wait until you are super-annoyed to talk to the person. Ask them if they can help fix the situation.

If all that doesn't work - you can try to avoid them.

Best of luck!

Answer 8

If i can i try to go away but if that doesn't work I look at them like i'm paying attention to them when im really thinking of how this person needs to get a life and stop annoying me.

Answer 9

Generally, I'd get away from them. If they were in my space bubble I'd find a way to get them out of it. If they were bothering someone else I'd generally ignore them.

If they were really doing something that was directly affecting me I'd either leave or politely ask them to stop doing the thing.

Answer 10

It depends on the severity of the annoying behavior.........I try to egnore it if it something they dont know they are doing or cant help but if it intentional rudeness or disreguard i may say something depending on the situation

Answer 11

It depends. If a good friend or my kid's behaviour annoys me - we can talk about it & I have no other option but to tolarate it.
If a person I don't care much about behaives unapropriately & I do not have to tolarate their behaiviour I usualy avoid them.