when 2 lovers do that - will they always depart after that or they will come closer than b fore?it seems once its done usually the guy looses interest first to continue the same relationship? if so then y guys r doing this and there r very few cases only where the girls r loosing interest. so guys pls answer what makes u loose the interest in ur girl after this and y ? this is a very biggest mystery i ever wanted to know about the human psychology...
2006-12-05 18:34:56 · 16 answers · asked by ROCK 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
It's the "mission accomplished" feeling I guess. Aboriginal, primitive instinct. Nothing wrong with that…
2006-12-05 18:41:44 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 2⤋
I don't know if you are the guy or the girl, but this is from the girl's perspective:
People like to think that sex changes everything in a relationship, but it does not necessarily change anything. You should not expect that sex will force a couple apart and you should definitely not expect it to make people closer.
They guy only loses interest if he was only interested in sex, and not the girl. If he was only interested in the conquest, yes, he might lose interest. Girls often like the security of getting physically closer to someone, so they are less likely to lose interest.
The problem for young couples just starting out having sex is that girls have a really difficult time knowing whether the guy is interested in the girl or the sex. With young guys, most of them have nothing on their minds but sex, so chances are higher that they will lose interest in the girl.
Advice to young girls - don't expect too much from sex if you want to start young. Best advice to young girls - wait out those young guys and their hormones and start having sex in your early 20's, when you have more experience to know that a guy likes you for you. You will have better odds of sparing yourself some heartbreak.
Forget about the marriage aspect; that has nothing to do with why people stay together. It is really all about how the two feel about each other; not whether they are married.
2006-12-06 02:51:44 · answer #2 · answered by - 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
guys loose interest in a girl after they have sex because that's all guys want. Then after their mission is accomplished they move on and try to get it from someone else. and this goes on untill they find 1 that was really good. then they dont loose interest, they gain it. SO if you want to keep the guy, make him want to come back. do some freaky **** nobodys everdone before.
And its not wrong to have sex before marriage, its just that your virginity is one of the best things you can ever give someone and it makes your marriage much more special. of course there's not too many guys out there that would marry with out knowing what the sex is like cuz what if you suck n then he's stuck.
2006-12-07 04:41:16 · answer #3 · answered by BRN305 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The premise that it's wrong is based on what happens to the majority of relationships later. They don't last. It is also the way to have out of wedlock children with absentee fathers.
If you wait, then you develop a relationship on different emotional levels. You build a better foundation for yourselves. You learn about each other, likes/dislikes, experiences, goals, trust and so much more.
When you become married, there are words in the ceremony and those words mean something. They are a promise to each other to look after one another, to care, to grow, to love. Not just when the times are good, or while you're young, but forever. Too many people don't think that really means anything, so they don't try when it's tough. It's a committment between two people, and later if a family develops, between all of them. Sex is for those in a committed relationship.
If you're a girl who's so desperate for emotional attachment that you'll have sex with a guy just to hold on to him, you're setting yourself up for disappointment, possible pregnancy, or STD, and of course, the wrong reputation.
A guy that takes the chance to have sex with as many girls as he can, faces the risk of having his earnings garnished for the next 18 years every time he does it, catching an STD or spreading one. You usually won't face this type of problem in the committed relationship of marriage if you're not cheating on your spouse.
You have to decide what type of person you want to be, and what type of responsibility you have to yourself, and to someone you care about. You can be moral, amoral, or immoral. Your choice.
2006-12-06 02:55:22 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is wrong to have sex before marriage because sex is something done out of love for that person only. Sex is very intimate and only when you are commited to that person should you express the ultimate act of love. Sex is now looked apon as a casual pastime for people who just feel attraction. Guys usually loose interest first because they base love on attraction while girls love more deeper....speaking in general. You aare take so much risk if you do not wait.....because it's so easy for that person to just deicide to get up and leave you. If you truly love each other you should be able to wait because love is not always about sex......
2006-12-06 02:53:10 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
There is nothing wrong with it. If two people are seriously interested in each other, sex is a good way to bring them closer together. You will get people objecting on religious grounds; their opinions cannot (provable) be backed by factual data and you can and should ignore them.
2006-12-06 03:08:47 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is WRONG to have SEX before you are married. It is called FORNICATION and its a SIN. Although it is WRONG people do it anyway because its what they see and its what people do, kinda to show the love they have in a relationship. Yes I have sinned and me and my Fiancee have had "sex" well "made love" before we are married and we both know that its wrong and NO he did not lose interest in me.
I have asked God to forgive me for doing it but I know its gonna happen. I know I cant constantly ask for forgiveness just to turn around and do it again. All I can do is pray that God forgives me for doing wrong in my life and that he guides me in the right direction. Everyone messes up but they can also ask for forgiveness too.
2006-12-06 02:56:58 · answer #7 · answered by Ask Ashlynn!!!! 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that when you have sex with someone you are giving away pieces of yourself because you usually have some attachment to that person after, that is why I think people should wait for someone who loves them so much they are willing to spend the rest of there lives with that person :)
Hope this helps :)
2006-12-06 03:00:47 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sex before marriage is a sin as the word of God says. And its true once done often the guy loses interest in the lady. Yeah guys can tell us more. But mind you, its a sin before God and that is why there is loss of interest.
2006-12-06 02:44:27 · answer #9 · answered by pinkey 1 · 3⤊ 2⤋
It is NOT wrong to have sex before marriage at all. Little boys may lose interest after sex but grown up men don't all lose interest. In fact, I would say that men I've dated gain MORE interest after having sex. They then want to get married.
2006-12-06 02:39:32 · answer #10 · answered by punkvixen 5 · 1⤊ 2⤋
Because it's best to save it so that you are POSITIVE that you're giving EVERYTHING for the person you LOVE.
You can "think" that you're in love and give them your virginity, and then they can break up with you. & you'll regret it like crazy.
And when you get married, its great knowing that you've saved your virginity for your husband because you love him and want him to have that special something.
I think being used 1000000x's isn't that great of a feeling for someone's husband. or wife.
2006-12-06 02:52:07 · answer #11 · answered by Julie 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋