For instince, he says and acts as if he isn,t one to sleep around, before I began going with him and now, of course. But some of the people we no tell a different story. He sounds covincing but i feel I cant judge the situation myself. I am very independent and he seems to have issues with it, because of this we argue and he leaves for a week at a time or I may ask him to leave. I have alot of feelings for him but what should I be looking at and what should I do about this situation?
2006-12-05 18:11:42 · 6 answers · asked by bj 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Believe in your instincts and your relationship will be better. Have faith and trust in him. If there are none of these, things will never work out.
2006-12-05 18:16:25 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You have a trust issue. If you were secure in the relationship, his past wouldn't matter so much. Just the fact that you feel he is lying shows your insecurity with the relationship. People do certain things when they are lying. If he looks to the right when answering you chances are he is telling the truth. If he looks left, chances are he's concocting a story (be careful this isn't always 100% accurate). Also, see if he looks you in the eyes when answering or if he looks at the ground (lack of eye contact usually indicates lying). Finally, look for question avoidance. If you ask a difficult question, does he answer you immediately or does he change the topic or stall (both indicators of discomfort with the question). If he is lying, there is something worse happening than fear of his past, someone's past shouldn't be allowed to predict their future.
2006-12-05 18:24:01 · answer #2 · answered by aa_cooke 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Firstly, are you and your bf living together, because you mentioned that he leaves when you have an argument. I guess there's no fool-proof way of knowing whether he's telling the truth about not sleeping around. If your mutual friends are telling you otherwise, do you know these people as well as he does?
I had a friend who experienced a similar situation. They'd been living together for 2 years and he pretended to be a loving, caring partner with his gay partner... but behind his partner's back, he was sleeping around with internet hookups. Fortunately, his bf fround out about it and dumped him, and how he's doing "it" in public and recently was caught by the police.
So, I guess all you can do is trust your intuition and look out for any suspicious signs of cheating, like other women's hair on your bf's shirt, excuses not to be with you due to work, illness etc.
2006-12-05 18:21:44 · answer #3 · answered by xander 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Relationship is based on trust. It you who trusted him not others, why bother others comments when you the one who love him. In the situation did you trust him. Good luck
2006-12-05 18:22:18 · answer #4 · answered by hafidz 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hire a private investigator
2006-12-05 19:14:41 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Listen to your gut on this one. What are your gut instincts? What do you think?
2006-12-05 18:18:17 · answer #6 · answered by fe2bsho 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋