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Because that's exactly what my "born-again" Christian sister does to her children, and I think it's sick and twisted and I feel very sorry for her kids, but don't know what to do or say.

2006-12-05 18:08:59 · 36 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture Religion & Spirituality

No, I'm not talking about spanking them on the butt for sticking their fingers in an electric socket. I'm talking about taking a spatula or some other blunt object and beating them with it.
My nephew would scream, and she would do it all the time for any little reason, while I was there (though she'd take him into his room, but I could still hear him screaming like "No, mommy No! AAaaahhh!"

Then later, he would come out and she would tell him she didn't LIKE doing that, but she HAD to because that's what God wants her to do.

Needless to say, I don't come visit her anymore. I can't handle it.

2006-12-05 18:17:00 · update #1

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I am a pastor and I work with those who have been abused and I have to tell you, that if I saw an evidence that these children were beaten, I would have to report it to child protective services.

What she is doing IS child abuse! If you would like to, tell your sister that you came across a web site called Shattered Men and you thought it would be good for her to talk to me. We do not throw stones but to avoid major problems later in life for all concerned, she does need some help.

Since most people think a child abuser is the father or boyfriend, many women do not see that what they do with children is in fact child abuse. In reality, 2/3's of all child abuse is by the mother and if more would realize this, it may give more permission to seek help before a child is damaged for life.

Many parents use the verse..."spare the rod and spoil the child" but they need to realize the rod was not only used to strike but it was used..to GUIDE.

2006-12-05 18:44:34 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1 0

I think most of the time parents hit their children because they lose their patience with them. They talk to them and expect of them as one would expect of an adult. I do feel that discipling may sometimes require physical punishment but it should not be harsh at all. If more parents would understand how a child thinks and communicate on a different level then physical punishment would be a rarity. I am not sure if this has much to do with God, although people may unfairly use God as an excuse for their wrong behavior.

2006-12-05 18:17:43 · answer #2 · answered by A fan 4 · 1 0

This is sick as hell. And will turn the children against God and do them serious psychological damage. Do the right thing and turn her in to P.S. so that she can get help. They will not take the kids away, they try to keep families together. But those kids need your help. Remember the words of that wise wizard Albus Dumbledore "do what is right, over what is easy". You know what is right, do it for the children's sake.

2006-12-05 18:20:54 · answer #3 · answered by tonks_op 7 · 1 0

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2016-09-03 11:43:47 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0 0

Hi,
Your sister is severely abusing her children. I don't believe in hitting, period, but that is another story. Please, I beg of you, call DSS or the police. Immediately. I know you love your sister but she is going to kill a child one day, or at least kill his/her spirit. Save your nieces and nephews. This must sound awfully difficult but I'd advise you to do it immediately after reading this. Your sister may be mentally ill. All I know is that those children should not be anywhere near her. This is one of the most important things you will ever do in your life. You are about to save lives.
I don't think anything you say is going to change her mind if she has the ability within herself to beat her children.
I wish there was more I could say. Your best bet is to call 1-800-4-A-CHILD (1-800-422-4453) or 911 as soon as is humanly possible. Please don't allow your loved ones to go through one more second of such blatant abuse.
All the best to you. Please let us know how it goes.

2006-12-09 15:23:44 · answer #5 · answered by Me, Thrice-Baked 5 · 0 0

It is not beating your child it is diciplining your child. If you think your sister is to rough tell someone. I have a 6 year old and he behaves quite well, and he has had 3 spankings in his life. It has a lot to do with how you talk to your child and the battles you choose to pick. God Bless!

2006-12-05 18:15:46 · answer #6 · answered by lexi 3 · 0 0

I feel that is abusive with or without the mention of God. Sounds like she is using punishment in the place of training them to act appropriately. (The beatings will continue until morale improves.)

I am reminded of a piece in a book I just got: Dream Babies by Christina Hardyment about the history of child-raising advice from 1750-1981. There's a story about a mother in 1844, reading and explaining to her child the story of Eli's death from the bible http://www.biblebb.com/files/pniv/ELI.TXT, then ask her child, "Would you rather have God punish your mother or have her punish you?"

2006-12-05 18:31:54 · answer #7 · answered by February Rain 4 · 0 0

Spare the rod and ruin the child. Although one should use discretion in doing so. One should not mention God as commands of doing cause this child will harbor guilt or hate in his heart and not like God when he grows up. Your sister should contact her Pastor for some counseling regarding this.

2006-12-05 18:25:55 · answer #8 · answered by JoJoBa 6 · 0 1

I believe it's totally acceptable to spank a child, not beat them. And it's wrong to blame god for giving the kid any punishment.

2006-12-05 18:16:06 · answer #9 · answered by trynshockme 2 · 0 0

I'm a devout Christian and I'm horrified by this. I cant imagine God wanting anyone to hurt another human being. Sounds like your sister has issues that need addressing.

2006-12-05 18:11:25 · answer #10 · answered by Darktania 5 · 3 0

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