Why do you HAVE to have a real diamond ring to propose?

Question

So my boyfriend and I were talking about engagements. He asked me why should I get a real diamond, why could I not get a cubic zirconia one from Walmart? Why should the size of the ring or if it is real matter if you want to marry the person? If you loved them what they got to propose to you shouldn't matter?

I don't know what to say... but I surely don't want an eight dollar ring... but what gives me the right to get a real one?!

Someone help me figure out a way to have a reason why a real one is what people give... not fake

HELP!

Answer 1

It is a token of his love that is meant to last a lifetime. You need a real ring because the cheap ones that come from Wal-Mart tarnish within a year and are not going to survive a life long marriage.

If he wanted to get you an inexpensive ring because he doesn't have that much money, that's fine as long as he puts some thought and love into it. He could get you a cool old vintage ring for around $100 or $200 and it would be very special (and has already stood the test of time)

The main reason he is asking you this is because he doesn't want to spend that much money. So, either he's actually broke, or he doesn't care about you enough. And if I think he really wanted to get married, he'd find you an inexpensive ring that meant something...not the first cheap ring he passes by after picking up a pair of tube socks.

Answer 2

I can understand that you do not want an eight dollar ring and if he really loves you then he will give you a ring that does not cost eight dollars. On the other hand, there is nothing that says the ring has to be real or big ... or even a diamond for that matter. My fiance gave me a citrine engagement ring. It had a special meaning for us more so than a diamond did. My suggestion is that you talk with your fiance and let him know that you do not want an eight dollar ring, but you would like a nice ring. What really matters is that he buys the ring out of love and that he takes the time to choose the perfect ring for you. If you are fine with getting a cubic zirconia or some other stone and he chooses it for you out of love, then that's all that matters. Each couple is different. Some say that you HAVE to have a Real Diamond and it Has to be big ... other's don't. I personally would not have been as excited about a diamond engagement ring as I am about the Citrine Engagment Ring my fiance got me. So my advice, talk with your boyfriend and come up with some ideas together before he goes and buys you the ring. I hope that helps.

Answer 3

I wouldn't want an $8 ring either...but I understand that my fiance didn't have a lot of money at the time. We have a daughter together and he was out of work when he proposed to me (he's now got a wonderful job) so he spent around $100 on my ring. It was a three stone tanzanite (because purple's my fav color) ring with tiny slivers of diamond on either side of the three stones. I love it. We already knew we were going to have a long engagement (saving up for the wedding, still on cheaper non family insurance, etc) so it was just a symbol for the rest of the world of his love for me. We are hoping to save enough to get a nice wedding ring for us each though. I would like a bit of a diamond...what can I say I'm a girly girl at heart. But if that's impossible I completely understand and would rather have him spend his paycheck on more important things around our home and family than a gaudy ring to show off to others. Want a comparison our daughters daycare (a week) is 2.5 times what he paid for my ring and I would much rather him pitch in on that than have a ring.

Answer 4

Depends... Me personally, I wouldn't care if he proposed with a gumball machine ring - but then we went shopping for a "proper" one - in which I would want diamonds. I know a few girls who don't want diamonds and would prefer other gemstones - but from the male perspective, if they are buying the "real" ring for the proposal they should probably stick to a solitare ring unless they know any difference. These days I think most men do know otherwise, as us girls are lovely with our "subtle" hints - and I think the only reason a man should buy anything other than a diamond is if they have been told otherwise. It's not something I would guess with lol =D In regards to CZ, I think they are ok if both parties are aware that it is CZ and are happy with it. I don't think the man should lie and say its a diamond, which one of my guy friends has recently done.... :|

Answer 5

I cant really help you with why they should..

My father asked my mom to marry him with a ring from a crackerjack box and I think it was the most romantic thing ever. For the proposal I dont think it matters.. I think its the feeling behind it that does.

However for the wedding it needs to be real because you are going to wear that one forever. Think about it this way. If you get a less expense ring for the proposal you can have a much better ring you will wear for the rest of your life. I'd rather have the money go to the one I wear forever.

Besides what are you going to do if he picks out the wrong ring before you have a chance to help him with it? Although all woman dont think the same.. Its just my opinon.

Answer 6

hey!this is one thing i don't understand about you people!I've been married for 4 years,i have a daughter of 7 months,we've been together for over 9 years and he never gave me a diamond ring!and i love him,he's crazy about me,we still make love,kiss a lot,do fun things together.you've seen too many movies,i think,or,you want that ring to brag to your friends.it doesn't work like that a relationship,because after you married,if you have a problem,friend won't come to help,you will have only him ti rely on.so,don't worry so much of what others might say if they don't see a big diamond hanging on your finger,really!my advice is to use the money for the ring to go on an exotic vacation...

Answer 7

you dont have to have an engagement ring. A wedding band should be sufficient enough. Also, You dont need a diamond. You could go with your birthstone or some other kind of stone that is special to you. Its a personal choice. Go for something different.

Answer 8

I CAN'T SPEAK FOR AN ENGAGEMENT RING BUT A WEDDING RING WOULD BE he really does not have to but really who would want that cz but tell him if it does not matter what kind of ring you get then why should anything else matter house car beer t.v clothing sex now don't expect him to go spend like 10 grand on a single ring it's just to much and that could be spent on other more important things but ring sets are cool THE THING IS IS HOW ARE YOU SUPPOSED TO PASS THIS RING DOWN TO ANY FUTURE FAMILY IT JUST WON'T HOLD UP THE SECOND THING IS

YOUR GOING TO NEED SOMETHING THAT GOES UP IN VALUE NOT DOWN

TELL HIM TO THINK OF IT AS AN INVESTMENT REAL DIAMONDS DON'T COME ALONG EVERYDAY AND THEY DON'T EXACTLY GROW ON TREES SO IT IS A MONEY INVESTMENT YES AS WELL AS HIS INVESTMENT IN YOU

SOME ADVICE IF HE GOES AND DECIDES TO GET ONE AND IT IS EXPENSIVE MAKE SURE YOU GET A BONDED ONE THAT WAY IF SOMETHING HAPPENS TO IT YOU GET A NEW ONE AT NO CHARGE

AND DON'T EXPECT TO KEEP IT IF YOU GUYS SEPARATE

Answer 9

I would say something along the lines that if he didn't have enough money or didn't have good enough credit to buy/finance a diamond, then he wasn't ready to get married. He'll do this to you your whole life. You want someone who is willing to shell out the dough not the other way around.

Answer 10

well that's a hard question. However I feel like it's pretty immature of him to ask why?
You deserve the best don't you.

I believe the whole philosophy is that you want a real ring, because you want it to be able to with-stand time like your marriage. You'd have to replace a CZ every few months, and you don't want that to be a sign of your marriage...

Also, if some random guy who wants to ask you out sees this CZ rock on your hand he might assume you're not married and that's just a ring you bought for yourself - not as important, but a possibility