i dont want to break his family or something, just wanna be a lover to him
2006-12-05 17:39:02 · 51 answers · asked by Sara J 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
the way I see it, my answer is YES
and I wish I had a nice girlfriend just like you
smile
be happy
2006-12-06 09:16:24 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 3⤋
Dear Sara,
It's not ok to make love to a married man....why are you asking this question on the net .... or rather you are mature enough and you already know the answer.... why are you looking for support? You know its wrong this man is cheating on his wife he will eventually do the same with you or if he really wants to be with you he will finally end the marriage so you will be responsible one way or the other on braking his family.
So just use your head girl and ask yourself a question.... Would you forgive your dad if he would leave your mom for someother women who didn't want to break his family or something but just wanna be his lover? U will get your answer...
2006-12-05 18:03:14 · answer #2 · answered by Blueberry 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This sounds so innocent, but in as much as you don't want to break his family (be a home wrecker), you will. He would love you and resent at the same time.
If his married life is such that he has no physical love or romance, I am not sure that your course of action is the way to go. I am also sure that he has told you what his married life is like.
Don't' get into morality discussion with anyone about this. That's only small part of the issue.
2006-12-05 17:49:56 · answer #3 · answered by Monsieur Rick 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
NO it is not ok. What are you honestly thinking? Think of the conclusion of where this is going to go? They promise they will leave their wife (never happens) -- just like on tv. The conclusion will be this..... You two get your groove on and momentarily everything seems wonderful.... time goes on... there are more expectations. The expectations are going to fail you and you are going to expect way too much out of this then just the "being a lover" part. His wife finds out and the marriage breaks up, the wife is hurt, the kids are hurt even more because now they see their parents apart and arguing and hurting, they turn into messed up adults and the cycle again starts. Get your brain out of your *** and move on. If he is willing to cheat on his wife then he will do the same to you.
2006-12-05 17:45:08 · answer #4 · answered by DanielleC 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, it's not OK on any level. I come from a broken family, and I think that you are disgusting if you continue with this behaviour. I don't think I can emphasise just how wrong and sick your actions are, and how it will affect the man and his family in the end. But, if you don't mind breaking the heart of the man's wife, and sensing the lifelong hatred and resentment that his kids will no doubt feel for you, then sure, go for it.
2006-12-05 23:59:57 · answer #5 · answered by Keyring 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My advise is to stay away from married men. Its not worth the price to pay. You're be more hurt than him. For him, he has a family to return to. For you, most probably you won't let your family members know thus you'll lose more! At this stage you may say that you just wanna to be his lover. However, when it comes to affairs of the heart there is no saying how deep that relationship would get to. There are other single guys available.
2006-12-05 17:43:05 · answer #6 · answered by SingGirl 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
That lucky married guy you are talking about would get to enjoy two women free of cost and free of STDs where as you will lose your wholeself and gain nothing ultimately. If he has the idea of romancing with you inspite of having a wife, he would even go for another girl when he is bored of you. You should give up this idea of romancing a second hand guy for a fresher.
Its not OK.
2006-12-05 18:00:19 · answer #7 · answered by sona_d 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
NO, NO, NO. And trust me, this isn't because I have high morals AT ALL. You will want him, I promise. And then he might entertain the idea enough to keep you entertained. This type of experience is not pleasant, healthy or even worth your while. You will get hurt, and think about his wife. Aren't you a woman? Put yourself in her shoes, really. Would you want to be her? I wouldn't. In the end you will be made to look like the evil seductress **** (and no, this is not right, or okay, but it will happen) and believe it or not, you will feel bad about it. Don't learn the hard way on this one.
2006-12-05 17:44:48 · answer #8 · answered by anne 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi,
Hey its totally Wrong to have any such ................
Do not feel Hurt -But are you nuts,why do you want to Make a mess of your Beautiful life that god Has given you.and you are also Making a mess of their lives too (The other members in his family)
And your are Saying i do not want to break his family or something.If you truly love him.Leave him do not get in touch with him ever again.
Hunt a better Partner for yourself
Because if you do as per your feelings.You will loose your self respect Latter and you will only end up heating yourself.For taking such a wrong step.
Stop Right Now-Do not go any further Please.
2006-12-05 17:52:25 · answer #9 · answered by netra k 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Come on sister, haven't you ever heard of The Ten Commandments, "Though shalt not committ adultery." I'm not preaching, just trying to save you from some personal disappointments from within, you may experience down the road, if you do not stop this. There are plenty of single men available to you, believe it. Think of the oath, this man you are with, is breaking, by being with you, and how manipulative and deceitful he can be, by keeping his secret from his wife.
He's scum girl, move on to bigger and better.
2006-12-05 17:51:31 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your heading for trouble on this one. I know you don't want to hear this, but truth be known you know you should not be doing this.
However if it's not with you it will be with someone else.
So let him have the troubles with another person before you are found out.
There is nothing worse than a womans wrath when found out.
If children are involved well need I say more.
2006-12-05 17:44:51 · answer #11 · answered by aotea s 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋