My Girlfriend & Marijuana?

Question

My girlfriend and I have been together for seven months now. We are a great couple and get along well except for our views towards pot. She smokes it with a bunch of her stoner friends and lies to me about it although I made it clear to her that I didn't want to be involved with her if she did it. She loves me to death and I really don't want to break up with her but I definitely want her to quit as it really does keep her from performing at her best in everything she does from being in classes in college and at work. What argument s can I use? How can I make her quit?

Answer 1

Well, tell her it is illegal and that you want to be in a relationship with a girl who doesn't need drugs to be happy and that she is going to have to quit if she doesn't. Tell her this when she isn't high so it strikes home, use work and school as an example of why she should get off of pot. Also, make sure if she sides with you on quiting get her the hell away from the stoner crew. If she doesn't agree break up with her

Answer 2

Well you can give her an ultimatum. Tell her if she can not stop or maybe even slow down that maybe you need to go in your own separate ways. Sometimes you have to push them to a point for them to understand you are serious. Let her feel the void of not having you.Or you just have to accept them for how they are and what they do, you know?!My husband smoked for many many many years, had a lot of kids and made a lot of really stupid decisions that he can not undo only learn from. Me? well I had to stick by, give ultimatums and then just accept.He now quit because his job was doing mandatory DT's and he just had too much to lose. He finally realized that it was not worth having his family out on the street because of his "habit"Make sure that when you talk to her she is sober, probably early morning when she just wakes up, that way she is not clouded by it to not think straight about what you are asking or saying.I will say this though the more you demand for her to stop and do no further actions the more she will be to just "hide" it from you, sneak around to do it.Which ends up distancing the both of you in the end. Your trust for her will fade because she will concentrate on making sure you do not know what she is doing, but the truth always has a way of coming out. Good luck to you.

Answer 3

Lol, if you loved her, you wouldn't think to ask. You're acting like she's doing meth- if she's an occassional pot smoker, I don't see the harm. Natural marijuana does not affect the lungs, or the brain- it is actually a neurostimulant. I find it highly hypocritical you find drinking moral, but not marijuana. My parents have alcoholism, and I've had alcohol poisoning twice. FYI, never been hospitalized over weed.

Answer 4

The best thing to say is you will leave her because of it marijuana makes you stupid and like you said you don't perform at your best i have used it when i was younger and i felt very stupid . and definitely as a female it is scary because someone can try to rape you or something and because your not in the right state of mind you can't fight back because it makes you slow . Also people can put other chemicals in the weed with it happened to my sister her first time she tried it and she almost had a heart attack and lost her life . If she really loves you she will stop but most likely she is addicted so it wont be that easy to stop using it. Tell her or go with her to some N.A meetings... You have to treat her like a drug addict just like any other person whose using drugs. Get Stern with her and tell her she will loose a good man if she doesn't stop smoking it

Answer 5

Smoking pot is addictive. and VERY hard to quit. I smoked for over 10 years, starting when i was 14. No one can TELL you to quit, its a decision she will need to come to on her own...but with guidance. I find smoking pot revolting now and would NEVER go back to it. It totally hampered my potential of anything and i regret it completely. But when you are in the moment you don't see it. When she is with her friends smoking it she has no care in the world...she needs to see that you are truthful when you say you won't stick around if she chooses them and pot. Don't keep threatening, say it one and if she fails...move on. At best she'll realize how much you mean to her versus the pot and come back to you...at worst, she'll choose being stoned.
Regardless of her decision you will desvere to be with someone with a good head on their shoulders, not in the clouds...
good luck

Answer 6

I had a b/f that smoked pot. I find it morally wrong, he knew it, so he lied to me. We were together almost three years. We broke up because of pot. He wouldn't quit and I knew we had reached a stalemate. If your g/f is lying to you about this, what else is she lying about? It all boils down to one simple thing.....does she love you more than pot? If you know that you can't live with it then ask the hard question, say the difficult thing...."it's pot or me". You might be shocked at the reply....I was...he chose pot. Yeah, he said all kinds of stuff about ultimatems but really, he loved it more than me. It's been three years since the break-up and I've never regretted asking the question. Be brave.

Answer 7

It sounds like you have the right motivation - you really want what's best for her. However, if she won't quit and you told her that smoking pot is unacceptable, then I'm afraid you don't have much of a choice but to walk away.

Answer 8

You cant make anyone quit they need to do it for themselves. are you trying to marry this chick? then tolerate it until you get someone better. Weed is not that bad, its just a big waste of time, like video games or watching soap operas. if you keep her busy to the piont where she has to choose between smoking weed or doing some new and fun activity, she forget the weed most likely. if you keep her busy and successful for two weeks ur home free.

Answer 9

"Herb's a gift from the earth and whats from the earth is of the greatest worth. If you don't like her fire then don't come around cause she's gonna burn one down." Ben Harper

I think my quote kind of gives a good idea of my opinion. But honestly you can't make her quit. What she does is upto her & quite honestly i think it's hilarious that you think that because she occasionaly smokes weed that she doesn't do as good as she can in school, work etc. That's crap - i've been smoking for years - and i have always had a good job (actually earn more than my parents) - always had my friends, pay my bills & it's never stopped me from doing anything i want. I think you are using the weed as an excuse to change her. This is exactly what happened with my ex and i - he first met me knew i smoked & said that he didn't want me to....so i cut down...a whole heap & then it still turned into him wanting me to stop because i was a 'stoner' - what a crock of ****!! I say if she still does what she has to do everyday, still treats you with respect and doesn't hurt anyone else....then let her be.....there are worse habbits out there. Count yourself lucky that she lives you to death. Genuinely good people are hard to come accross these days. Best of luck mate .

Answer 10

you really cannot make her quit, she must decide it on her own,no argument can convince her, believe me i also like someone who uses pot but i just ended respecting him with what he does, i just told him to not totally let go of the world, he knows i am concerned and that i wish him all the best in life, but for some reason i cannot make him stop.
one day it will come to her, just show her you love her if you really do.