2006-12-05 17:30:23 · 16 answers · asked by monika b 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
welcome to marriage. It doesn't mean he doesn't love you. It's okay to have other interests.
2006-12-05 17:32:15 · answer #1 · answered by Amy R 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
They are giving him something you are not. They are not nagging him or there is something he must face when he is with you that stresses him so he hides by going to his friends. Communication is the key. Talk to him. If he isn't willing to communicate then you need to decide if you can live with that. If you cannot you set an ultimatum. Either we work this out or there are consequences. If he decideds he dosen't want to work on his marriage it will deterorate. You cannot make him but I suggest a honest evauation into not only him but yourself. Are you doing anything that is driving him away like nagging or saying negative things all the time? It may not be you but If all else fails get third party intervention such as counseling. You do it if your car is not running right and I think a marriage is more important than a car.
2006-12-05 17:35:11 · answer #2 · answered by xx_muggles_xx 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I fail to see why everyone assumes you're nagging him. Obviously you are not or he would not have gotten out the front door!
Two reasons why it's happening:
1) He obviously does not value you enough.
2) You allow him to do it so you do not value you enough.
I mean no harm, but whenever anyone allows a partner to get away with something once, they do it again. When a relationship begins - at the first date, you set the standard for what you will accept.
Us women tend to think we're being considerate by letting men get away with bad behaviour or less than respectful treatment towards us, but what's actually happening is that we're helping train them. They use every situation and put it in their 'mental diary' so that later on they can say "Well you let me do it before!" etc.
Anyway, don't worry, just make yourself into an irresistible woman, go and enjoy your life and he will either see you for the wonderful person you are or you will find someone who does.
2006-12-05 17:34:54 · answer #3 · answered by Nel 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
everyone needs their own little space and time to do their own things and have their interests, whatever that might be. They need to escape from the everyday stuff, work, etc and vent out somehow, i.e. through sports, friends, TV etc.. It does not necessary mean that they do not love/want anyone else in their life.
If this is not the case for you, then you have serious communication problems which you will need to fix by .....just openly talking to each other so you can take care of any problems before it is too late.
Also, do not let the fire go out romantically so he stays interested.
2006-12-05 17:43:49 · answer #4 · answered by Mark n 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hmmm.... i'm married for 10 years but my hubby always face the T V than me, U see, you must accept the fact that all this behavior pattern picks up during their younger days and it is difficult to change it, it's solmonly the environment there picks up, you may suggest what you feel about it give sometime to accept the changes. Guys don;t feel the same way woman does.
2006-12-05 17:34:03 · answer #5 · answered by Suppi 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is no why. Both of you made a wrong choice. He has taken TV, fishing and his friends as "mistresses" and you are a veritable footnote in the equation of his life. He may be totally unaware of it. Anyone will tell you that you can change you, but you cannot change him. The ball is in your court as to what you want to do.
2006-12-05 17:37:17 · answer #6 · answered by Monsieur Rick 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
because he is not interested in you any more. It happens over time. Next time he goes fishing, dress up very nice, take your self out on the town, find some young buck and let him tear loose on you.
2006-12-05 17:34:11 · answer #7 · answered by enjoythelaughter 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2014-09-27 17:03:05 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's impossible to say on this forum. May I recommend marriage counseling? If you can't get your husband to go, consider going yourself.
2006-12-05 17:32:40 · answer #9 · answered by drshorty 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Most married women stop putting out and start nagging after marriage!!!!
2006-12-05 17:32:01 · answer #10 · answered by RUDY THE RUDE 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
start trying to do things with him that helikes and actually enjoy it and dont nag or bug him doing it either. who wants to be around someone naggin? just have fun w/him and prove ur a badass wife
2006-12-05 17:38:24 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋