Let me elaborate. I am a part-time single mother of two. Eventually, I would like to fall in love and get married. I am not in a hurry, but I would like to start doing things the "right" way. What are some simple rules for dating, sex and love, specifically as a single mother?
I tend to meet men who want to hop in the sack right away, and then either find myself dating a loser, or in a non-committed relationship that feels uncomfortable and lonely. I want to break this pattern and date more healthily. My views of sex and marriage are rather unconventional, but honestly, I am to the point where I can see the logic of more conservative approaches. Isn't there a happy medium? Should I just give up on the idea of love and marriage at this point? I am 31, intelligent, pretty, successful, kind, loving, creative, fit AND an excellent parent. How do I go about this wisely and genuinely while still enjoying myself mentally, physically and emotionally with a man. Where do I begin and how?
2006-12-05 17:29:10 · 8 answers · asked by anne 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
to start off you are at a disadvantage, because most losers think that as a single mother you are desperate for some action, best thing to do, is be honest, and tell them right the first time they show some interest, that you are a single mom, and not interested in losers or one night stands
2006-12-05 18:20:21 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Perhaps my comment might dissapoint you, but I'm telling you what I believe in and I hope you take it into consideration.
I believe that that kind of thing you're trying to get is one of the things that don't come by searching for it. If love is everywhere it cannot be searched, but if you're searching for it then maybe you will have to love your life as it is first. In other words, accept your life as it is.
And when you accept life fully without conditioning yourself that you should take out of life as much as you give it, things will start to turn around. You will notice that you're not in much need of this love you're currently looking for as it's already in your life, and it will happen that out of no expected circumstances you will find the right guy at the right time for you.
A mind untuned with the source of all goodness, is searching in a world of chaos and imperfection. Only life's perfection knows what's best for you, so you should get intuned with life.
Look where the light is coming from, go there. It will light up your life, and hence you will find what you're looking for.
2006-12-06 01:45:42 · answer #2 · answered by prabato 3 · 2⤊ 1⤋
I don't want to sound depressing, but I think dating gets a thousand times harder if you're a single parent. It might not seem fair but a lot of decent guys will just think you have too much baggage. It's possible to find a good guy who doesn't have kids, but if you think about it in his shoes, it's not exactly that fair for him. I think you'd have more in common with another single parent.
2006-12-06 01:34:11 · answer #3 · answered by snowbird 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Well no sex unless your kids are very little or are adults. You don't want to send mixed signals to teenagers.
Dating is fine your kids probably would like a father figuire around them to play catch and have fun.
Loving another person is normal so that is a pass.
Now try looking at old friends as potential dates, you know you can trust them so you have nothing to lose. If all your friends are taken try a co-worker who is friends with you at the workplace.
That is about all you can do.
Live Happily
2006-12-06 01:36:07 · answer #4 · answered by S 4 · 1⤊ 2⤋
As much as I hate to admit it, you need to stop giving "it" away. Look for your man in places where good men frequent, which can include bars and clubs, but keep your self-respect intact by staying celibate until he presents you with a loving commitment. That is, a marriage certificate. Remember, there are "five love languages" (according to Gary Chapman) and sex is only one. So practice the other four before you marry, get off the merry-go-round you are on now. For the sake of your children, stop bringing men home until there is a permanent commitment so they don't bond with men who are not staying long!
2006-12-06 01:46:52 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 3⤋
same as before you had childen and dont belive every thing a man tell,s you to get you in bed after all men can make a woman belive everything she wants to hear men pick up on this very quick like when a woman goes out doing the same thing. my opion?
2006-12-06 01:34:09 · answer #6 · answered by the_silverfoxx 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
FIRST OF ALL I HAVE NO IDEA WHAT A "PART-TIME MOTHER" IS, YOU'RE 31 SO I GUESS ANY THING GOES
2006-12-06 01:32:34 · answer #7 · answered by ~*~ISABELLA~*~ 3 · 0⤊ 4⤋