okay... my boyfriend is about to get out of rehab. weve decided that we werent gonna go to bars and stuff anymore because we know that even though he wasnt an alcoholic, because he has that addictive behavior, he could become one and that isnt something we are willing to risk. he done hard core drugs, but has really taken this recovery thing serious. he said he was going to stop smoking pot too in the begining, but now hes wondering if that would be ok. * if you think weed is a gateway drug dont even bother to answer my question, ive smoked pot for 5 years, and have NEVER had the desire to do anything else* so my question is, can he safly still smoke? i mean, he knows he doesnt want to drink because he feels that he could become an alcoholic, but he doesnt think that weed will lead to anything else... he done the other drugs because he WANTED to, not because weed wasnt good enough anymore. im not an addict, so i know i cant help him answer this question!
2006-12-05 17:21:37 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Health ➔ Diseases & Conditions ➔ Other - Diseases
i have struggled in the past w/alcohol dependency and have done a handful of "lower level" drugs such as mushrooms & lsd but never crystal meth or coke or heroin. as out of control as alcohol has made me i at least had enough awareness to not mess with what people consider the hard stuff. i've smoked weed for a number of years with a few extended breaks but still smoke to this day. I haven't had the acid or shrooms for years now and very rarely have a beer or two and never get intoxicated anymore.
that said, i believe STRONGLY that marijuana is NOT a gateway drug. the concept of pot leading in escalation to other drugs is a fallacy conjured up during the era of nancy reagan, "just say no", the origins of america's extreme war on drugs and mandatory minimum sentencing. if your b/f is as committed to recovery as you indicate, i feel he should try it and see if it can safely be something for him, and at the first sign of weakness you or he STOP immediately. it is more than possible. marijuana should be legal, period.
best of luck to both of you.
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hopefully no responders after me take me to task and get personal and label me a pothead, loser, addict, whatever. i'm responding to this girl and offering my perspective-that's all.
2006-12-05 17:39:41 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Everybody's different; It really depends on the person. Pot may not be a gateway drug for you, but may very well be one for him. If he is serious about recovery, I would recommend not using any recreational drugs at all until he has gone through all the twelve steps, preferably with a sponsor, at least once. That process will help learn if he can safely smoke pot, or not.
I also recommend you go to Al-Anon or Nar-Anon meetings. These groups are for people who have been affected by another person's drinking or drug use.
2006-12-05 17:37:14 · answer #2 · answered by Rana Kate 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would not recommend using any drugs at all. Besides being illegal, being an addict is more about escaping reality and not dealing with problems. So it doesn't matter if it's pot, pills, booze, or meth, it's an artificial escape.
If rehab has been successful, he REALLY should attend AA or something very similar and take it very serious.
There's always a chance he could "use" and be fine, but there's an overwhelming chance his life will end up out of control again, and next time may/will be worse.
2006-12-05 17:42:30 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Is he under any legal mandate? Pot is probably the hardest one to hide if he's going to be getting tested. It's also illegal and if if has one or more strikes, it's not a good idea.
I've worked with people who have mental health and substance abuse issues. I've seen some people who are able to moderate effectively and others who seem to lose control with ANY usage of any substance. The two things that seem to be important are 12step involvement and whether he's going to be going to the same people to buy or even hang out with that he was when using his drug of choice. Either one is not a good indication of moderation.
2006-12-06 04:10:10 · answer #4 · answered by raysny 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hello fellow addict. My man and I have been clean now for 2 years and 2 months and I still have occasional dreams. If drugs were as much of your life as they were ours, recovery will be a lifelong struggle. Hang in there, you two will get through this, just be honest with each other about your dreams and cravings and support each others sobriety. Alot of your fear of him using again resolves around your own uncertainty. Good luck and stay clean.
2016-05-22 23:18:15 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry - NO POT . . .
For your bf it could lead him back to bigger things and as for you if you are still doing it the it could tempt him heaps and if he is really serious it could spell the end of your relationship.
Sorry but with addicts it has to be all or nothing! It cant be any other way . . . . . . . . . And as an recovered addict you are kidding yourself if you think your not one..... SORRY but that is how it is!
2006-12-05 17:34:05 · answer #6 · answered by kellz_car 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it may be more the lifestyle, than the pot. If you are smoking pot you ARE using. You need to change your whole lifestyle if you are going to stay clean!! Good luck
2006-12-05 17:32:36 · answer #7 · answered by michelledenay 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some can, most can't. I am not willing to take the risk.
2006-12-05 17:25:56 · answer #8 · answered by Faith 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
pot smoking leads to stronger things if that what you use to do.
2006-12-05 17:27:27 · answer #9 · answered by Kathy 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋