There was this girl i used to date and makeout with a lot about a year ago... well she fell in love with me then got mad and moved trying to get me to make her stop. well i didn't she moved and we continued to talk... well whenever she came back for holidays and what not we would hook up... she was in love with me for a while but i only liked her... well she was gonna move home in december to be "close to her sister" i think it was really to try and have one more shot at me... but then this guy she was kinda seeing then broke it off with... well he kept on about it... so now she is getting married. well she is gonna move back now a month before he moves here and they get married... so, should i go to her wedding we have a lot of communal friends?
2006-12-05 17:18:13 · 25 answers · asked by Jesters Deadd 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
What a jacked up situation. If you just "sorta" liked her as you said, and she's invited you, go. However, based on how long you went on (and on and on) in you question, I have a feeling that you have some issues with her getting married. Maybe you feel like you missed your chance or you're just greedy and you don't want her, but you don't want anyone else to have her either. I man after my own heart. LOL
2006-12-05 17:21:27 · answer #1 · answered by wendy_the_pyro 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I say NO.. unless the hubby knows about your history and is okay with it. Which I doubt. Especially if you think she might even have feelings for you still. It would be different if you two had talked it through and were just ordinary friends, but the fact you are worried about it is not a good sign that its over and done with.
The fact you have similar friends really doesnt play a part in it. Its not a highschool reunion or a friend's party where you might meet up its her wedding and her day to celebrate her new life with another man. If you want to hang with your common friends you can always do it somewhere else. Thats not a good enough reason to go.
Its your call.. but ex loves are pretty taboo at weddings..
2006-12-06 01:24:17 · answer #2 · answered by Frenchie 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Have you been invited? If not then don't go!!
If you have been invited I still wouldn't go if it were me, but you
are not me so do whatever YOU think is right for you.
I find it odd that you would want to go to the wedding after having such a turbulent relationship with this girl, you really make no sense at all..
What would even be your purpose of going anyway??
2006-12-06 01:36:11 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I see no reason why you should not go to her wedding unless you feel it will compromise you in any way. Usually the bride and groom are busy most of the time anyway so you should hopefully be able to 'blend in' with the crowd.
Of course it can be difficult for people if their ex is present, but one would assume that if she's invited you, she has no problems with it.
Good luck with it.
2006-12-06 01:23:01 · answer #4 · answered by Nel 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No i think just send a gift and have an excuse. There is some attraction between you two and well you never know..things could happen old sparks come alive and you two might find yourself in hot water. Just bow out graciously.
2006-12-06 01:20:44 · answer #5 · answered by ? 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
um... if she actually invites you to her wedding, she has some serious issues! if you get an invite, just send a polite decline & a gift card to wherever they registered to. then, stay away out of respect for her marriage & the hopes that it actually works out. ok, so did she invite you because it isn't a common, well-known hook-up marathon? if hardly anyone knows about your sexcapades, then i guess it makes sense for her to invite you so it doesn't raise red flags & weirdness. but still, very strange to invite ex's of any sort to your wedding.
2006-12-06 01:21:47 · answer #6 · answered by christy 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think so, It's a bit taky don't you think.
She could still be in two minds. I'm not even sure she is in love with this poor guy either. It's abit suss if you ask me.
No better leave sleeping dogs lie.
2006-12-06 01:25:56 · answer #7 · answered by aotea s 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
NO, That's just crazy to even think about. Stay away and give there marriage a chance. If I was the soon to be husband; I'd leave her for even asking you.
2006-12-06 01:27:53 · answer #8 · answered by CrazyKaycin 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you know its crazy, i wondered if i should go to the wedding of the guy i thought i'd marry
its hard to see someone you liked or even still like being wiht someone else
but if you show up, it shoes your mutal friendship and that you've moved on and you're happy to see her with someone else..
but if you really love her, it can be hard to see her move away forever
however it doesnt seem like your crazy depressed or anything so i say it would b wonderful if you went to support her
2006-12-06 01:20:31 · answer #9 · answered by bebehunn84 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋
its obeously going to be a divorce. but yes do go because then she will think of you more as a friend and not an ex. BUT ONLY IF SHE INVITED YOU!!!!!
2006-12-06 01:24:02 · answer #10 · answered by Pauline 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋