Guys, is it easier for you to find a girl you can be compatible with and that you truly like?

Question

U know how there's a saying, guys think w/their "u know what?" n the girls thinks with their hearts?i really liked this guy (caucasian, 26) and I am asian (25). we spent some amazing time together,he went up to me at the restaurant that he is managing.We had an AMAZING two week together and he told me he really liked me, "but i need to have faith in him and just because one guy messed up, don't judge him because he is a guy" I don't trust men because of my past, my ex cheated and lied to me and i told him.The last few guys i dated before him,i scared off by being non-trusting and clingy,too.So now,apparently I scared off this one too. But I truly felt that we really connected and he even told me that he really liked me a lot, i just needed to chill.Now we haven't talked for a while My questions to u guys are: Is it easy for u (guys) to find a girl to be interested in?Do u look for certain qualities or when u see a girl u just think sex?And can i salvage what we had?How?Please help :(

Answer 1

I think you're too insecure to be in a serious relationship.
You're too needy. You barely know guys, and you're already expecting them to behave at the committment level of a fiance.
Don't expect so much from guys so early. Just get to know them, be friends, even really good friends.
Putting the responsibility of every guy you meet, to somehow counteract all the bad things other guys have done, is a sure way to end up being alone and miserable someday.
Just enjoy what's good about this guy, and let things grow gradually, IF they are meant to.

Answer 2

It really depends, some guys only look for sexual intercourse, somes look for more into personalities. I personally think that It's easier for guys (atleast for myself) to find a girl that can be compatible with. Because the guys know the fact that women are MOSTLY soft hearted, therefor it is his decision to either be serious about the relationship or not. Well at first, I personally look for common interest first, something to talk about, some matches here and there to convey a sucessful conversation first.
Like I said, probably physical appeals strike the dudes first, but no we use our brain to think too, not just our dik. I hope you know what i'm talking about lol.

Answer 3

When a girl we like gives in to sex too quickly then we tend to look at her just for sex. When we get to know someone first, we ended up liking that person because of her personality and not the sex part.

Answer 4

1) Is it easy......... No....at least not for me...My ex was a manic depressive....so I have a tendency to have my guard up a lot also..(like you seem to)

2) certain qualitys........Yes,I do now...(didn't always)...but I do now...I can be friends with anybody...but for something serious...I do have certain morals I expect to see in her life..

3) Salvage......Maybe.....But you will have to see if he is still interested in listening to you. If not....there are other fish in the sea

4) How? .....That's a tuffy......I would just be bluntly honest (If It were me)...Tell him you really like him and would like to continue dating....and growing....with him.....and see how he responds...

..Look for a book called "How to get a date worth keeping" by Dr. Henry Cloud I think you will like it!!

Answer 5

i never think of sex when i associate with girls, never. for me, finding a girl is the most difficult thing in the world, i dont have any game. i lack interest, confidence, and motivation in myself. i am the one that needs help, not you. and in your case, 2 weeks is nothing, its gonna be hard to get him back, but i say just go and talk to him. best bet and good luck.

Answer 6

rarely, good girls are hard to find right now

Answer 7

many do but real men dont toward women . my opion<

Answer 8

it's easy

Answer 9

mostly we think just sex