it is a new relationship, i like the guy but dont want to hurt him, i decided before i met him i wasnt havin more babies, and i just found out im pregnant, have already made a decision without telling him about the pregnancy I think it might hurt him to know about something that he can never hold, on the other hand i dont want to lie to him or be dishonest
2006-12-05 17:08:59 · 24 answers · asked by nevergonnabeasuperstar 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
What different will it make if you tell him, your going to do it anyways....
2006-12-05 17:21:18 · answer #1 · answered by ABBYsMom 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Okay I can be totally honest about this. I used to be one of those woman there were like "its both of your rights to decide" and "you owe it to him"
Then reality dished me up a scare. After using protection and being careful. I ended up being late. I have to admit the minute reality snapped in and I saw a chance I might be pregnant there wasnt much question I was going to do what "I WANTED TO DO" and I really didnt feel like i had to tell him anything.
Luckily I wasnt pregnant and I didnt have to play out the whole situation.. but I can say that there was a real big chance that I would have done it and never told him a thing.
On a side note: I think if you are married or in a very serious relationship where marriage/kids/future have been concidered. You DO owe them the right to know. Otherwise if its a boyfirend/date/half serious you really have to answer it for yourself.
Either way though I agree with the other person who said it.. It's your body.. you get the last say..
2006-12-06 01:17:17 · answer #2 · answered by Frenchie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Only know how your life is, and what is best for you. Unfortunatly you dont just have you to think about. You have this man, whom you must have cared for or liked to an extent, otherwise why sleep with him, to consider. Tell him that this is what you have decided to do, that you just didnt want to do it without first telling him. That it is your choice not to have any more children. You dont have to ask him for permission but at least let him be aware of the situation. And let him make of the situation what he wishes. But now you can say that at least you gave him the respect he deserved and told him the truth. Then you both can work the situation out together, rather than you trying to do everything alone. A relationship is made of two people not just one. Good luck, and just wish that you arent making the wrong decision.
2006-12-06 01:18:54 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok for one I think that abortion is wrong period. If you don't care about the baby give a chance to live and put up for adoption and at least that way the father could have the chance to see what he partially created and choose weather or not to take care of it. A child becomes alive at the point of creation. The question is: Do you value this child's life enough to let it live. The father should have a right to see his child and the child should have the right to see the light of day. One question is if you did not want a child why didn't you get fixed so that you couldn't have kids?
2006-12-06 01:23:05 · answer #4 · answered by chica 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think wrong is to prevent someone of knowing the truth, neither lying or hiding something from this person. When I found out that someone was hiding something from me, I felt betrayed because that attitude prevented me of making my own choice, leading me to a wrong direction.
Of course no one is perfect and once in a while, we all lie or hide something from someone, we should try to avoid situations that can lead us to have this kind of behavior or try to be strong enough to deal with the consequences that we fear so much to face it that lead us to do things like, betray someone whom has done nothing to deserve our unfaithful attitude.
If we were politicians, we could go by "The ends justify the means" as an easy way to avoid our own responsibilities.
On your case in particular, you are the only one able to know the right or wrong thing to do ( how much weight you can or can't afford to carry on), not meaning the wrong thing isn't the appropriate solution for the situation. If I was on your place and had chosen not to tell the father, I will at least be sure I will be able to keep this secret for myself by not telling it to anyone in order to prevent of him getting knowledge about your choice.
Good Luck!
2006-12-06 01:43:13 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Abortion is wrong !!
have the bubby & give Him or Her away to someone who will love it
no matter how how old it is if you are pregnant it is already a human being & to kill it is well
you know what it is without me spelling it out
2006-12-06 01:55:44 · answer #6 · answered by ausblue 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should tell him, due to the honesty aspect of the relationship. Ultimately it is your decision anyway because "you are the one left holding the baby"
2006-12-06 02:01:52 · answer #7 · answered by obenypopstar 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You F*ucked up big time, you should have asked the question should I have the abortion and tell the father about the baby. No don't tell him all it will do is open unnecessary wounds
2006-12-06 03:29:41 · answer #8 · answered by Legal Eagle 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Er. Your body your choice. Hard choice to make. I wouldn't tell him, and try to cope with it the best I could. Get your tubes tied if you don't want anymore babies. So, this won't happen again.
2006-12-06 01:17:14 · answer #9 · answered by Poppet 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Strange = The it's my body argument vs. accepting child support
2006-12-06 01:13:30 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
thats a sticky one --on first thought id say get the abortion if you want and never tell him --but he would find out one day--and then it would be real bad---id stick with being honest and have a heart to heart with him then get the abortion if that is your choice
2006-12-06 01:15:01 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋