my bf lives in a diff country..we have been seein each other for alsomt 5yrs..i have access to his email..so i was chkn his email today and theres a mail from some porn site..with his user name and password and also says its been 30days since he logged into the site...should i ask him..he mite think im spying on him...! or is it ok for him to be a member of such sites?? it certainly drives me mad..!
2006-12-05 17:04:27 · 12 answers · asked by sweetiepie123 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
If it bothers you, talk to him about it. But be aware that this is a perfectly normal thing for guys to do, and women as well. I'd suggest leaving it alone unless you notice a change in his habits as a result of it. Its not a problem unless he becomes addicted.
2006-12-05 17:14:36 · answer #1 · answered by Tray 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My husband loves porn and Ive had a hard time dealing with it as well. I feel that I am inadequate and went into a eating disorder as a result. What I have come to realize over the past couple years that its really just a guy thing.... you should look at his actions etc. If he didnt love you or wasnt attracted to you, then he wouldnt be with you. I would be more worried about your spying behavior. Are there other signs that have you worried about his fidelity? Is that why you spy on him? I broke up with my ex after finding out he was seeing another girl that he was talking to online. The point being, if there are other things that are telling you that he isnt being honest or that he is possibly seeing someone else, then honor that feeling.... otherwise, just realize that boys are just into that stuff, and it doesnt change... even when they are married... as I have found out.
2006-12-05 17:12:18 · answer #2 · answered by Alexis H 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
It's different than most women. But it's OK. If the porn watching starts interferring with your relationship, then you would have to object, but it doesn't usually unless a guy becomes addicted to it and is too worn out to bother with you.
2016-05-22 23:17:16 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's a red blooded normal man, for goodness sake. A man's got needs you know! It's not usually the women that men are looking at on the porn sites, but the acts they are doing. Try and take it as a good sign that he is a sexual being. It's perfectly natural.
2006-12-05 17:08:39 · answer #4 · answered by MsLongBeach 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
First of all...YOU WERE SPYING ON HIM! If you were reading HIS email, you were spying on him. It is perfectly normal for people to join sites like that. The only reason I would worry...if it was a child porn site.
2006-12-05 17:10:11 · answer #5 · answered by lynette g 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'd say it's ok. Some people over react to issues such as this, and say that their lover is cheating on them b/c they are looking at porn. I don't think so
There are couples out there that look at porn together, so yeah....
2006-12-05 17:24:41 · answer #6 · answered by Kyle H 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Dump the zero and get a hero ( like me ). Seriously, do you want this type of relationship with a guy who's into porn ???
2006-12-05 17:08:50 · answer #7 · answered by mathlete1 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I wouldn't think so, but guys will do this even in secret. My friend's husband looks at porn, she's to the point where she'll divorce him if she catches him.
2006-12-05 17:07:55 · answer #8 · answered by L♥G 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
better a web site than another woman
2006-12-05 17:07:20 · answer #9 · answered by Kathy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it depends on how often he's on there. if it's occasional, its no biggie. if it's constant, then he could have a porn addiction, and that is a biggie.
2006-12-05 17:09:00 · answer #10 · answered by a heart so big 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋