how controll wife? always wanna spend money. when i disagree den she gets angry. does not understand problem?

Answer 1

You don't have the right to control anyone. If I were her I'd be in divorce court.

Answer 2

Well, maybe you are approaching her in the wrong way and it makes her defensive. It is easy for people to spend money. The more money you make the more money you will spend. Why do you think this happens? Because people don't realize that you can enjoy life just as easily if you cut corners here and there. If she is crazy about buying shoes, then she should only be allowed to shop for shoes at Payless or Wal-Mart where the shoes are much cheaper. If she has to have a weekly pedicure and manicure, then she should go to the local beautician academy where the rates are drastically cheaper. If she has to drive a fully loaded sports car, then make her trade it in for a model that has been slightly used as opposed to buying it brand new. Also a lot of money can be saved if there is a specific x amount of money that can be spent during a shopping trip. When my husband's paycheck comes in, say he gets $1500 for the week and I know that it will only cost us $500 to fo our daily utilities and cash needs. I simply transfer $1,000 to the savings account and only keep the amount that I will need in my regular checking account. This way I am in control of the money spent and this way if I for some reason get the urge to splurge, if the money isn't there, then I know I can't invest in that item and will have to purchase it another time. Having a functioning savings account is vital to managing a budget. And also there are advantages because you collect interest off of savings. For example if you have $2500 in your savings account you will have earned close to $1.78 in interest and though it isn't a large amount it is certainly more than what it was to start with... So anyhow, the best solution for you would be to find some compromise on managing money. It wouldn't hurt to make an appointment with a financial manager because the problem will get bigger with time if it is not controlled and then one day you may not be able to afford retirement or a home. Best of luck to you.

Answer 3

Control is not the answer
She needs a reality check...you need intervention
Get professional help to help you and her how to spend your money wisely and keep her from getting angry
she does understand the problem, just doesn't want to admit she has a problem spending too much money instead of saving for her future

Answer 4

If she works,then you can't controll her spendings.If she is spending the money that you don't have,then she has a problem and it's out of her own controll.She needs professional help.There is another issue here.Maybe she is ok and you are too cheap.Here is our story.I don't work,i am a stay home mother of two.My husband gives me all the money.Besides the household coats(bills)he told me how much to save.It was fair to everyone and now we don't have money arguments.If she works,you open a checking joint account.Each mount you both deposit equal amount of money.Enough for household expenses.Whatever is left,should be hers to enjoy.You men don't understand how much it cost to be a descent woman these days.We have to pay for a lot of stuff that men don't.Try to understand.

Answer 5

You don't need to control her, just hold her responsible for her spending habits. Establish a Joint account for household expenses( also joint decisions should be made on what's to be paid from there and don't forget check entries must be done! ) Your own account for your personal expenditures and of course her account, where she could decide how and on what she could spend her money.

Answer 6

So what do you say to the woman at the bar with two black eyes?

Nothing, she's all ready been told twice.

Just kidding..how 'bout you step into the twenty first century and just ask her what the problem is instead of asking how you can control her. She's probably smarter than you...judging by your spelling...I'm guessing so. Is this Borat?

Answer 7

you just tell her ur whole pay plus your necessary monthly expenditure honestly.Give her the rest of money to spend &leave her on her own.Dont investigate about the spending of that money.I bet after few months she will definately get bored of shopping.
it is the nature of women ,she always run towards such thing madely and when she see that she is free & independent.,she just come back.i know it coz im also a female.dont impose your instructions.

Answer 8

Tell her your frustration and learn to communicate better. Read up on intergender communication via Dr John Grey's book Men are From Mars, Women from Venus.

Answer 9

This may seem strange, but I have heard it works! Tell her if she treats "our" money this way, then she will go on an allowance!
I personally DO NOT believe in joint accounts! That is ridiculous. If your married the money should be there for the family!

Answer 10

If you don't have a family budget in plain view, make one, and see how much is left for her to enjoy free-spending when the mortgage, bills, gas, good, insurance, savings, etc. are paid. Set an amount she can spend without having to report back to you. If she refuses, you'll need marital counseling.

Answer 11

So Sorry For You !!
Does she understand that you don't know how to form a proper sentence too ??
Does she get angry ??
You don't need to control her, or disagree.
You just need to go back to school, that's all.