every monday i have 2 nite classes at my college so i car pool with my friend vanessa for like 3 months now...the semester ends next week...the other day i went to taco bell on the way home like we usually do...my gf amanda calls and asks where i am and i tell her i got taco bell quickly wit vanessa..amanda my gf got sooooo mad that i was with vanessa eating taco bell saying i was taking up amandas time cause after clas i go an see amanda....does she have a point?? whos right here.?? does she have a right to be mad...vanessa my friend is like a siste rto me and we carpooled for 3 months now and my gf didnt care till now...what do you think?
2006-12-05 16:39:21 · 22 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
She probably wasn't mad that you went to taco bell with another girl... it was probably because you didn't tell her about it. The fact that you never said anything about gives your gf a reason to suspect. duh.
2006-12-05 16:42:31 · answer #1 · answered by Sarah 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She is not mad about you going to Taco Bell with Vanessa. She is mad that you did not tell her. She feels like you are spending more time with her than you are with her than your own g/f. Besides you only see her a night school. She is jealous of you friend. Girls get that way when guys are friends with othe female, or they are hanging out with there ex. So becare of your g/f's feelings. The only reason why she did not care in the first place because you never told her in the first place. Soon as your night class is over you need to spend more time with her if you care enough about her.
2006-12-05 16:56:25 · answer #2 · answered by kat 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't really think it is a matter of someone being right/wrong. However, if something like this is making your girlfriend uncomfortable, then you cannot overlook it.
If the issue is that there are trust issues in the relationship, then you both need to sit down and regulate them, but the worst thing that you can do is overlook your girlfriends feelings because she doesn't understand something the way you want her to.
Everyone has a diferent different definition of 'cheating' and what is 'unfair'. It's up to you, your gf and Vanessa to clearly distinguish what your boundaries are/will be.
Good luck.
2006-12-05 16:49:17 · answer #3 · answered by ebonii_cuteee 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are just friends and it is very clear, then your gf has a jealousy problem. The reality is she does not trust you because of her own low self-esteem.
No matter how or what you might do or say, she might always feel this way.
Right or wrong IS NOT the issue. We all can have friends of the same sex. The fact you stopped to get a taco for 15 minutes to one hour is nothing to get bent out of shape over.
Your gf, I believe needs massive therapy. You are certainly asking for trouble staying with her, because she could easily escalate this into controlling your every move.
Unless this is resolved you are asking for years of misery and control.
If you have secret feelings for Ms. taco after class, that is another story. You say she is a sister. Well, how does she feel about you?
I have friends of both sexes and have n intention to mess up my relationship with my gf. She knows I call them, and we both see them at the same time. Certainly, after class is no big deal, unless it starts to go somewhere.
2006-12-05 16:46:37 · answer #4 · answered by Legandivori 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I will start out saying that right or wrong is often judged only after an action is done. So I will say you are putting yourself in a posssible tempting situation. I know, people do it all the time. And all the time they say " gee I didn't mean for it to happen" what a meally mouthed statement. When school is over, you have no reason to see this person at all. having lunch is a bit like being on a date. And if your gf is unhappy about it, what diff does it make to you.. Make her happy. have lunch with her.
2006-12-05 16:57:00 · answer #5 · answered by swamp elf 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As long as you are truly only friends then your gf is wrong! If i were you i would actually be offended by Amanda's behavior. I mean she doesn't even trust you enough to get a ride with one of your friends. Tell her to grow up and back off. you prob want to say it a little nicer than that, but that is the general idea. reassure her that you love her, and not to worry. if this behavior persists without merit i would consider breaking up with her. if you are faithful and honest you don't deserve to be nagged like that.
2006-12-05 16:46:24 · answer #6 · answered by Bubby'sGirl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you feel your not doing anything wrong and that it's strictly platonic, then you have nothing to worry about.
What you need to do.Put her mind at rest, include her
next time to go to Taco bells and itroduce her to your friend amanda.
Easy. Good luck
2006-12-05 16:45:06 · answer #7 · answered by aotea s 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think your girlfriend is being unreasonable. Without trust, ya got nothing. I wouldn't go out drinking with Vanessa, though.
2006-12-05 16:45:09 · answer #8 · answered by scar_strangled_banter 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I mean unless you were supposed to get some food w/ or for your girl, its pretty harmless.
Freaking Taco Bell.. lol
Its not a bar or a fancy restaurant. She needs to chill lol.
2006-12-05 16:42:33 · answer #9 · answered by enticingmind 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ooo this is a tough one.
well, she's not right to get so mad but she's not wrong.
sometimes people just get jelous or protective of a relationship and it means she loves you that much more. you might wanna talk to her about your freindly realtionship with venessa, and how its like a brotherly love.
also, if your gonna go out with your potential sister, try not to cut that time out of your girlfriends time. stay longer when you see her if you spent time somewhere else.
well hope i helped a bit and good luck!
2006-12-05 16:45:55 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-17 21:10:47 · answer #11 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋