This guy... let's call him Jake, asked me to the movies yesterday, and these are his exact words ("Do you wanna go to the movies with me on Sunday? the two of us?") and so of course i thought he was asking me out. i said "sorry maybe next time" because... well, honestly, i was a bit scared of going out with him. he's a grade above me, and, well, i have a feeling nobody's gonna understand this, but it just felt weird. i have a teeny little crush on him though.
and so i went home, and one of Jake's friends IMed me (he's also my friend) and said that "Jake wasn't really asking you out, if you thought that's what he was doing. He just wanted to go see a movie." and then he said that Jake was at his house, and Jake told him to tell me that.
now i'm sorta hurt and confused.......
he so obviously asked me out.... i mean, he waited until we were alone, and all that, and he said just the two of us.
so why would he say that?
i dont get it...
2006-12-05 16:25:29 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Yeah, me too.....What a jerk.
I say why don't you move on .....and I bet there tons and tons of guys out there who're just waiting to ask you out!
This Jake guy seems like a sore loser to me, he's not that sincere to begin with....and it's never a good idea to wollow into that 'teeny little crush' like you're thinking. Drop it off, before he has the chance to hurt you again.
Great guys don't do that.
When they are sincere, they would have tried again and hope that you'll had a chance to know them too.
So, move on girl!
2006-12-05 16:33:50 · answer #1 · answered by dun_give_ a_ damn 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
People in general are simply weird when it comes to their dealings with the opposite sex. It sounds like you were being just as weird about your feelings toward him when you, by your own admission wanted to go out with him, and he actually asked you to go out(according to your perceptions at least.) But, his friend sending you a message and telling you that he wasn't really asking you out, that's puzzling.
Interpersonal relationships are confusing enough without introducing third parties into the mix. So, maybe you should just concentrate on keeping your nose clean and making straight A's for a while until things become clearer and you can sort out how you feel about things on your own. Jake, and people like Jake, will be around in the future.
Good Luck.
2006-12-06 00:31:51 · answer #2 · answered by somewherein72 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is Jake....." I asked ohemgee47 if she wanted to go see a movie and she said no.....I REALLY wasn't asking her out...I just asked her to go see a movie. " So lame...so lame....Jake doesn't take rejection well in the least....he must really think he's the " Bees Knees " and for you to turn him down....WELL !!...LOL....good for you !!! listen to your Heart and you inner self.....you have great instincts...if it " felt" weird...it WOULD be weird....tell your " go between" friend you are sorry you turned " Jake" down but you have a busy schedule.
2006-12-06 00:35:43 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You've gotta understand that guys have feelings too. He's probably embarrassed because you said no. If you really like him I say let him know that you didn't mean no as in never, but as in there will be a next time.
2006-12-06 00:28:34 · answer #4 · answered by lovelyladypoet 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
this is so obvious, jake made his friend to tell you this because you turned him down, with him saying he did not ask you out meaning that he could be less embarass and made you think that nobody has asked you out. don't feel hurt, move on
2006-12-06 00:30:34 · answer #5 · answered by FairGround 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he's saying that because u hurt him 1st and now he's trying to get back at you by hurting u back and telling u that. that's what most ppl do when they get hurt they try to act all tough on the outside by hurtin da person .. so just let him know be like to him im sorry i just felt a little weird going out with u i jus wana get to kno u a lil bit more b4 we go on a date and u could get to know him a lil more by talking on the phone with him or chatting online ..but just let him know that it wasn't nething personal on why u said no
2006-12-06 00:30:23 · answer #6 · answered by ayounglady 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is playing up. Just dump the dirty bag dude for making trouble for you. He treats you not nice just dump him ok? "Dump that crap piece of work" You don't want to REALLY go out with an immature guy who makes you sick and looks not nice and does the dirty work on you. He is a scrubby mean guy. Tell him to f_U_c_K off like REALLY to hellholer zone.
2006-12-06 00:40:23 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You turned him down so he took it back like it never happened. He's pretty lame and not even smooth enough by having a friend explain that something didn't really happen.
2006-12-06 00:35:44 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's the male ego. He's wounded and simply trying to hurt you like you rejected him. Try talking to him and explain why you backed out.
2006-12-06 00:28:10 · answer #9 · answered by Danelle 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Jake's a dirt bag; don't waste your time on him!
2006-12-06 00:28:13 · answer #10 · answered by grandm 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋