I love my fiance so much and I would marry him tomorrow! So, I'm not worried about being married. I want to see all my loved ones on my wedding day, but I'm so afraid something will go wrong like the flowers will go astray or the meal won't taste great or...well you get the idea! How do I chill about the details?
2006-12-05 16:09:28 · 20 answers · asked by cotopaximary 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
you are so normal! i felt the same way! believe it or not- i completely relaxed the day before the wedding! i just realized i had done all i could & the rest would fall into place! go to the knot.com. they have a check-list of things to do & all sorts of really helpful information. i used them religiously!
being organized will really help you to keep your cool. organization along with some really reliable friends & family members will help you to relax a bit. you have to realize that things will go wrong & just count on it happening. you will have some flip-outs, but you just have to focus on reality! its hard! i got really caught up in planning my wedding. it was a lot of fun & i don't regret a thing! take a bubble bath at least once a week & sit back & relax.
by the way, no one knows what you really had planned... so if you are missing a detail, who knows!
good luck!
2006-12-05 16:12:41 · answer #1 · answered by christy 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Easy don't think about it. That's the worst thing. Heaven forbid, if you new it was going to stress you why did you not find a wedding planner. let them take all the problems away.
Okay I'll try it make this alittle easier. Do you have a diary. Okay have you written everything in it and put a tick to each one.
Good the next thing. The ticks mean you have organised and phoned and given dates when it should be delivered etc.
Now what you need is one person you can trust to confirm one week before the wedding all the details.
Stick the details on the fridge at least there you know you haven't forgotten anything and its reminder you did the best you can.
What could go wrong, absolutely nothing. You cannot control the weather, so have a brolly ready.
Good luck and all the best
2006-12-05 16:19:25 · answer #2 · answered by aotea s 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Just keep in mind that if the flowers come in and they are pink and are supposed to be red, that the only people who will know they are wrong are you and the people who screwed them up! Don't sweat the little things that you can't control! My bouquet was supposed to be red roses and it showed up all white - it was pretty, but not what I wanted - after the wedding several people complimented how pretty I looked and how pretty the church looked and how happy we looked and it hit me then that the only reason they are there are to see ME and not all the STUFF - it will be beautiful and like I said you and a select few others and the only ones who know all the little details - so if it doesn't go as planned - your guests will never be the wiser! Just smile, get married and bask in the glow of your day! In 10 years all you will really remember is the way you felt! Good Luck and RELAX!!!! I've been married nearly 13 years!
2006-12-05 16:14:56 · answer #3 · answered by Christy 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I sooo know how you feel! I just got married last month, and although I was ecstatic at marrying my husband, I was terrified of the ceremony and reception. What if my family started fighting? What if I tripped over my hem? What if someone got hurt before the wedding? What if no one comes? What if all my decorations fall and the candles catch them on fire? lol. It was bad. I was a wreck. But, to get over it all, I just told myself that no matter what, I'm marrying the man of my dreams. Granted, a glass of wine every night, a good book, and some stretches in the morning helped, too, but just knowing that my husband was with me made it easier.
It's all going to work out, and even if it doesn't turn out perfectly (odds are, something IS going to screw up...we ran out of food), it only lasts a few hours. :) Good luck, congratulations, and best wishes!!
2006-12-05 16:13:49 · answer #4 · answered by Suse 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Focus on the marriage; which is much more important and actually lasts longer (or is supposed to). And, if anything goes "wrong", you'll be one of the only ones to know it. No one else will really have a clue what things were "supposed" to be like. In the end, they will say, it was a lovely wedding and they are happy for you. So, take a really deep breath, and enjoy the moment. CONGRATULATIONS!!
2006-12-05 17:38:43 · answer #5 · answered by sweetness 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First off do you have a wedding coordinator if so that person suppose to handle everything and you must do a taste testing for your food cake and so on it"s natural to feel that way i was married last year and even tho you do have someone handling all that you will still think that way so try to relax and you will be just fine.
2006-12-05 18:01:07 · answer #6 · answered by shorttonguelonglick 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your wedding is your special day- you the bride is the center of attention not the flowers-food etc. You can worry all you want about whatever you want but it will not impact the outcome of the wedding. You say you want to " see all my loved ones " well concentrate on that- try not to worry on your big day- let your maid of honor worry for you-that is her job. Mellow out & enjoy your new ,wonderful sojourn with the man of your dreams, happy trails, good luck.
2006-12-05 16:23:49 · answer #7 · answered by jyone scotani 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Make sure you video the whole thing, if something goes wrong at least you have a chance of winning 10 grand from America's Funniest Videos.
Heck yeah, I'd fall into the wedding cake for that!
2006-12-05 16:13:18 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Weddings are stressful. But, Get Real....would everyone hate you if something went wrong? No. Your wedding day is about the love, not the flowers!
2006-12-05 16:12:42 · answer #9 · answered by Ciao! 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
As long as you can accept that fact that something will go wrong, you'll be fine. Everything is not going to go as smoothly as you would like, but you'll still be married and that's the most important thing - you should focus on your new life instead of just one day. It goes by way too fast anyway to let yourself become obsessed with the details.
2006-12-05 16:11:55 · answer #10 · answered by obeyfez 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋