i've been dating my girlfriend for about a month, and we have a long-distance relationship. everything was going fine we would talk on the phone for hours constantly telling eachother how much we love each other, and about 5 days ago she stoped saying that she loved me even when we were hanging up the phone. she has a lot of guy friends as well. i don't know if it's just a random thing, or if im paranoid. i just can't stop thinking about it. wha should i do, or should i just let it go for a little longer. peace and thank you very much.
2006-12-05 16:07:02 · 21 answers · asked by BDD 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
It sounds like she has taken you for granted. Girls, as do guys, loose interest in what's easy. It's human nature to want what is harder to get, or harder to hold on to. Don't come right out and ask her whether or not she loves you, because if she doesn't, that might end things right then. You should stop telling her that you love her. Don't call as often as you have been calling. Make her believe that another girl is interested in you. Just be very subtle about it. You don't want her to have the slightest clue that's what your doing. If she has any feelings for you at all, this will make her worry. And this will keep you on her mind more, so that she doesn't have time to think of any other guy. If you let her know that you're worried that she's loosing interest, you'll seem desperate and that's a big turn off. I know that your probably thinking that's dishonest and that people shouldn't play games with each other like that, but think about it. Think about the girls in your past that have let you know that they like you more than you like them. How did that make you feel about them? Where they as attractive to you as before?
2006-12-05 16:34:32 · answer #1 · answered by tupelosmiley 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
whoa ... back up the bus here .... how old are you guys anyway? Sorry, gotta ask because a month is not a long time, nor is it enough time to truly know if you love someone. You two need to take the time to get to know each other and figure out if this is love or infactuation. Hey, we've all been there when you meet someone new and they are so wonderful, want to talk to them all the time etc. but then the novelty wears off and you're over it. Part of dating life and nothing wrong with it, just don't get too worked up about it. The other thing I would add is that if you jump to the conclusion that this girl is with other guys just 'cause they are friends, she is going to see you as being jealous, needy and desparate. Not attractive my friend and you don't want to go there. Not to mention that she will think you don't trust her and without trust in any relationship (but especially long distance), you've got nada. K.
2006-12-05 16:16:23 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you can't see each other all the time, a long distance relationship is nothing more than a close friendship. If you or she doesn't make it a priority to be with eachother, then you should expect her to be looking elsewhere. Maybe you should find a way to be closer together. That's commitment. As for her stopping saying that... how would she know if she doesn't see you? If I were her, I'd be looking elsewhere too. Love is only love when it is returned. You ought to ask her what she wants, and listen. Never offer a woman excuses for not being able to give her what she wants, because she will find someone who can. If you love her, then strive to give her what she wants, and stop obsessing about how she feels about you. All that doesn't matter if you just make her your life's meaning.
2006-12-05 16:13:40 · answer #3 · answered by jennilaine777 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Long distance relationships can be a tricky thing. Not saying they don't work cause some do. If you are that curious about how she feels about you, ask her. See what she says. But prepare yourself.........it's possible she may have moved on and doesn't have the heart to tell you. But ask her next time you talk to her. Ask her how she feels about you and where do you stand. Then go from there. And if it doesn't go the way you expect it to..........just keep your head up. She's not the first, or the last. Things happen for a reason, whether it's good or bad. So good luck to you.
2006-12-05 16:13:26 · answer #4 · answered by apache_lizz 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well sometimes people dont wana say i love you too much bcuz then it's like whats the point of it if its jus bein thrown out there all the time maybe she wans 2 use it at right times. & i think u should jus let it go for a little longer and see how shes acting maybe she said i love u jus to say it cuz u guys have jus been going out for only a month and plus its a longdistance one .. can it really be love? if her attitude did change jus let her go and find some1 that lives around u and start talking to her.
2006-12-05 16:11:37 · answer #5 · answered by ayounglady 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I been through the long distance thing and if anything it makes you love that person more. The only time i found it difficult to say i love her is when my heart was somewhere else... maybe she is up to no good. She probably needs attention the space between you guys wont allow rite now.
2006-12-05 16:11:40 · answer #6 · answered by John T 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It may be that she really doesn't love you or have love for you anymore, and because of this she would probably feel guilty for misleading you by telling you she loves you and that might be why she stopped. And if she meaned what she said she would not have no problem saying she love you all day and everyday. Saying things that you don't mean especially to someone that really loves you can really drive you crazy.
2006-12-05 16:16:42 · answer #7 · answered by stuffed 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hand tight.. man, maybe you are paranoid... just let it go and see what happened, but don't get too involved with it all. if she doesn't change in a few weeks, the you change,, because you can't change anyone but yourself...unless you want to keep being miserable, that is...and believe me, the longer you let it hang on... the worse it will be, if she does decide to dump you... just pull back a bit and see what happens..good luck
2006-12-05 16:12:37 · answer #8 · answered by Traynor 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't over react to her but know but that is not a good sign.... Your best bet is to just ask her, bring up the fact that open communication is vital to a long term relationship, or any relationship at that. Good luck
2006-12-05 16:10:22 · answer #9 · answered by alastingepiphany 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I've got the same problem... She got a alot of guy friends as well. Most of them like her. I sometimes get scared of she goes off with someone else. I think you should wait for a little longer.
2006-12-05 16:09:39 · answer #10 · answered by Hmmmmm 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋