one of two children, 4 years old, has a shower with their Dad when they visit him everyother weekend, the other child does not. the child that does have showers does not at home. And it has a nickname of "slippery seal" game. I feel really uncomfortable about the situation and so my question is when do i step in and say No that it is not appropriate to shower that an adult showers with a child.
2006-12-05 16:04:32 · 21 answers · asked by careful! 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
If the child is a girl she should NOT be taking a shower with a parent of the opposite sex. I remember taking showers with my mom when I was about 6, but not after that, and it was only when we were going somewhere and didn't have time to take seperate showers. Children of the opposite sex should not take a shower with the parent after about age 3.
2006-12-05 16:13:13 · answer #1 · answered by Ryan's mom 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
In my opinion I think its ok if its a boy taking a shower with it's dad at the age of 5 and less but what wouldnt be appropriate is if it was a little girl taking a shower with an adult male...
If u dont feel confortable though then u shouldnt permitt this, Look out for your kids because this world its just getting worse and worse there is so many people that have such a gross mind...
2006-12-05 16:15:53 · answer #2 · answered by xxMireyaxx 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You step in as soon as you feel uncomfortable. This is your child and it is your responsibility to do what you think is right. Protect your child and then worry about what other people think later. There is no reason why an adult has to shower with a child. A child needs to learn about privacy and the lesson starts at home.
2006-12-05 16:15:01 · answer #3 · answered by leaving.florida 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It becomes inappropriate when they notice the difference between girls and boys. Or when they become uncomfortable with nudity. Sometimes one happens before the other, and which one that is varies among children.
You don't say whether this child is male or female. Either way, ask him/her if they know what makes boys different from girls. If they answer correctly, it's time to stop. If they seem uncomfortable talking about it, it's time to stop.
Calling it the "slippery seal" game would make me fidget, too. I am with you on that one.
I hate to say this, but how much do you really trust your husband? If this is a boy and they're calling it 'slippery seal', do you think they might be masturbating in there? If this is a girl, is there any possibility that they're looking at your husband's 'slippery seal'? I shudder to think of it, but if I was in your position I would be wondering that.
Even if you know for sure he doesn't think of it that way, I think 4 is a little old for that. Ask them about the difference between boys and girls and if they know, it's time. My guess is they'll know.
Your husband might be angry at you for bringing it up, but it has to be done. Go with your gut feeling on this.
2006-12-05 16:50:01 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Maybe I am different, but I never took a shower with my aunt (who helped raise me) or my dad. The only person I took a shower with when I was young was my sister. So, I don't really know. If you're not comfortable with it, then you should put a stop to it.
I guess it would be alright if maybe they are the same sex. I don't know.. A guy taking a shower with his daughter just sounds too freakish to me.
2006-12-05 16:25:57 · answer #5 · answered by Annamarie 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't think it's inappropriate for a child to shower with their father. I don't think you should step in at all. The only time it becomes inappropriate is when the child grows old enough to be uncomfortable with it, could be 5,6,7.... who knows. Until then for goodness sake let children be children. Let them have that bonding time with their dad.
2006-12-05 19:21:56 · answer #6 · answered by olschoolmom 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Any age before 2
2006-12-05 16:21:23 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you're uncomfortable, thats all that matters.
I do think four is abit old, as they know more then they let on at this age, and remember things. My earliest memory is when I was 3yrs old.
If the child is a boy, I think thats not too bad, but he sefinately should not if she is a girl. At that age, children know exactly what private parts are. I have kids too.
2006-12-05 16:16:19 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you feel uncomfortable about the situation then you step in right now! Just tell him exactly what you feel. He should have no problem saying "ok". Tell him he can sit in the bathroom while the child bathes but at four years he should be sitting down in the tub so he/she doesn't fall. and who is watching the other child while he is in the tub with the four year old?
2006-12-06 00:49:02 · answer #9 · answered by crystalfaria11306 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Probably around 7 or 8. I think I was 8 when I could take a bath without adult supervision...
2016-05-22 23:11:30 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋