how do I get a boy to ask me out if I'm fifty pounds overweight????

Question

If you are gonna put anything on here that'rude don't bother.!!!!! By the way my friend who's a stick gets all the guys how can I terminate that!!?

Answer 1

lose the weight......thats how

Answer 2

If you are happy being overweight - then get on match.com - or whatever - and say that. You won't have anybody responding to you unless they are okay with you being overweight. There ARE men out there who don't care - and maybe they are overweight themselves.

However - the majority of men go for thin, attractive, healthy women. So - by remaining bigger - you are lowering your chances. But it's not impossible.

Now - if you WANT to lose weight - that's a whole different thing - and you'll have to post a question in the health and diet section. You can lose 50 pounds in about 6 months if you really really stick to it. By June - you'll be in a bathing suit and feeling good about it. If that's what you really want.

I don't understand why you want to terminate your thin friend from getting all the guys. Just be happy for her - and go on your own search.

Good luck!

Answer 3

Depending on the boy. I would try to get to know the person and just be straight forward. That is if he is that type of guy. Find out if he likes boldness by saying that you think he looks good or giving him your number. I think that attitude has everything to do with attention. I have seen completely ugly girls get gorgeous men you just have to look and feel like a million dollars. Just because you are a little over weight does not mean that you can't have a good time. I personally don't know what to tell you about your friend. Try not to pay attention and show that you are having a good time too. That way people will notice you. Do not pay attention to men that are rude. Just move on and know that when you find that man it will be for all the right reasons. I know from experience. It is easier said than done but just give it time. Best of luck.

Answer 4

I'm a lot more than 50 pounds overweight, and I'm with someone who loves me deeply. He's also a big guy. I didn't know that when I met him (we met online), but he felt the same way you do.

You can't do anything about your friend. Plus, you don't know what the motivation is for the guys that ask your friend out. Maybe they think she's easy because she's skinny. (Yes, I know that's a huge generalization, but I'm just theorizing.)

There are guys out there who aren't shallow. There are also guys who like bigger women. Don't worry about it. The right guy will come along. In the mean time, stop comparing yourself to your friend. I guarantee you that you have traits (physical or otherwise) that are as good as and maybe even better than hers!

Answer 5

There is someone out there for everyone, and you'll meet someone who loves you for you. Many guys like full figured women. Just be yourself and don't worry about your friend who "gets all the guys", its really only one special one that you need. But healthwise, losing weight is the best thing you can do for yourself. I went through a period where I was heavier and I lost close to 60 pounds, and not only did I feel more attractive, I felt much healthier. There is so much danger out there with diabetes and other things, and excercise and eating moderation is the key. Good luck to you girl!!!

Answer 6

1. Make sure your hygiene is good and you take care of yourself in all other ways.

2. Beautiful can be a lot of things - but so can ugly. Make sure your inner beauty is true and shining through.

3. Be patient.

4. Don't go for vain, shallow guys. If they're concerned about who they're "seen" with, it doesn't matter what you look like - you can do better.

5. Try to gain some self-confidence that shows your weight doesn't bother you (because if it bothers you - it will bother any potential "boys").

Good luck!

Answer 7

Simply put, personality goes a long way. I married the first fat girl I went out with and I'd do it again. She's so cool! In the grand scheme of things, 50 extra pounds is a lot easier to deal with than some psycho skinny *****. Good luck, gurl.

Answer 8

Being curvatious lady myself, after being one of those Stick girls -I found that developing your personality and being a gal that has confidence in who she is, as is (even if we want to improve) & being fun/interesting to be around will attract all types of men. Taking care of yourself & your appearance that will flatter the figure you have until you have the one you want will be a step in the right direction. I wouldn't concern yourself with who your friend has & doesn't have, she may have her own insecurities like the guys who want her for her figure and not her mind. Check out magazines for tips & Hold up your Chin & smile...the right guys will start coming your way. Postive attracts Positive, no matter what Size!

Answer 9

I am overweight just like you and have no intention of dieting. I have had success with guys because I am friendly and fun and THAT is most attractive - especially long term. Yes I am happy to go out to eat and guys appreciate eating with me as we can talk and actually enjoy the meal (as I dont order a salad and then not eat it). As guys grow up they learn that girls can be fun and attractive of all sizes so dont waste time with idiots who dont appreciate you. Remember, if they dont like you for who you are then its THEIR loss :)

Answer 10

There's bound to be a guy out there who's attracted to fuller-figured girls. Just keep acting like yourself and see what gives. Of course, it IS best to lose some of that weight. Fifty pounds more than you need is just unhealthy.

Answer 11

I'm not being funny, but ask him over to your place to watch a movie. He might like you but doesn't want his friends to know. Keep your dates private and I bet you will get lot more of them with him.
As for the skinny friend, if she is a popular as you say she is, she'll probably get preggo and lose that figure!