Are we in a generation of bad parenting?

Question

I look around and I see all the beautiful babies and then you look at the mother and she is like 14 years old!!! Why are kids having kids? Parents need have a better hold on their children! I hate the fact that there are so many parents out there who don't give a rip if their daughter is having sex and getting pregnant. It is sickening to even hear them when they brag about their 14 year old daughter being pregnant with their grandchild. It also makes me sick to think about all the women in the world who can't have kids and yet all these stupid little girls are sleeping around having kids left and right. I know life isn't fair...but it is just so sad. What kids don't realize is that they are ruining every chance that they had at a real future. Some people may disagree with me but I don't care. Opinions are like assholes...everyone has one...

Answer 1

Hi! I really like what you wrote! I am 16 years old, and I am on your side! I hate seeing all of these girls who are pregnant and having babies when they are still in High School. The girls out there should be having kids when they are MARRIED, and want to start a family! My parents have raised me to understand that having sex has consequences. I have a boyfriend who is 17, and we have already laid down the rules. NO SEX. (unless we were to get married...) I hate seeing the girls who don't have anyone who really cares. Honestly, I think that if the mothers of these girls really cared, then they would make sure that their young daughters were not out there getting pregnant. Overall..you have a very good point (:

Answer 2

I agree. Parents should teach their children that sex is for ADULTS - not kids. Girls see Britney Spears and other music/tv idol getting pregnant, not realizing that their musical/tv role models have millions of dollars to pay for Nannies, child care, education, etc.

Young girls then want a child, not understanding that having a child is a life-long committment very expensive. It is sickening to see a pregnant 13 or 14 year old.

I wonder what type of parenting, if any, these girls and boys have? Don't their parents think about it, but, on the other hand, their mother may have been born to a young mother. What is this society coming to?

Answer 3

I sooo agree with you. Teens are stupid. I have a friend who works at a high school, she said that half of the girls in her classes drop out due to pregnancy. And the thing is that the girl who had the kid is not only ruining her life but the child's too. The change of the parent going back to school and finishing their education are very slim, so they end up working at McDonalds or Burger King. And that can't support a child if the mother and father kick their daughter out of the house. Many of the fathers of the children don't care and leave their ex to frend for herself. And then they probebly go bang up someone else. The only solution is to keep kids of different genders in different schools which will never happen. And personaly i don't agree with that. The next thing we can do is tell kids early warn them of the dangers. But even that might not change anything.

Answer 4

I completly agree with you. I have cousins that were 12 and 11 having their kids. Now my aunt has those kids, and my cousins are off doing what they have been doing since they were still little girls. I get so upset when i see these little girls all over with bellies. I spent two years trying to concieve my son, and the entire pregnancy trying to keep him. and every where i turn are those girls who could care less. I know that when my daughters one ten months and the other 5 yrs, and even my son 3, are old enough, im going to be straight with them, and explain to them all the things that can happen when you have sex. And i dont plan on sugar coating it either. I will not allow my children to have their children at the age of 14 15 16 or even older. If i can have it my way, I will make them wait til they are married, or at least responible and OLD ENOUGH to understand they're concequences. Thats one thing these kids dont understand, and they dont care either. They have parents who will take the child off their hands and they can continue to do whatever they were doing in the first place.

Answer 5

I see what you're saying, but honestly, what's the point in continually being angry with a 14 year old pregnant daughter? There's going to be a point of contention and anger at the beginning once they find out, but seriously, what's done is done and at the end of the day, there's going to be a healthy baby born soon and stressing out the mother and making her life hell isn't going to get anyone anywhere.

Really though, just start focusing on yourself and your own life. Not everyone can have a great career and go to college, so stop worrying about what someone shoulda coulda woulda done with their life.

As for it not being fair for older women wanting to have children and not being able to, and all the teenagers being able to, teenagers are just naturally more fertile than an older woman. It sucks, but it's the way society has made it - it's basically impossible to "have it all." So, one girl gets her baby but no career and probably a very difficult time financially and a difficult time dating, but the other woman gets her dream career, dream house, and dream husband. It's just a trade-off.

Answer 6

You know what I find sad? Critical people like you. People who don't try to make the best in this situation. Those parents may not agree with the pregnancy. Those parents might be to blame, they might not. You don't know.

Sit back and really think about if you did everything in your power not to have your young teen daughter get pregnant but she did. Would you sit there and be disappointed? Of course. Would you worry about their well being? Of course. In the end all we can do is sit and pray that these girls do the right thing.

They need all the support they can get. They need support from their parents, (who should love them unconditionally) peers, and members of the community--not criticism. The more these girls are accused of a stereotype the less they care about being good parents--to them it's "normal" to be a bad young teen parent.

We need to set higher expectations for these young parents. We need it not to be "normal" for them to get into trouble. We need to support them 100%. How would you feel if your parenting was under ten times more scrutiny then an older mothers? How would you like being watched from strangers to see how you and your child behave? Do they deserve that? I really don't think so. I think they need to be treated just like the rest of us parent--with respect and dignity.

As for the girls parents--you cannot change what has already been done. Whining and complaining doesn't get anyone anywhere. Why not be proud? They are going to be grandparents--it's not like being frustrated or ashamed is going to change the fact that their daughter is pregnant.

I am not condoning teen pregnancy in anyway. I think there's a time for sex--and it's when you are a married adult. I do however belief in making the most of a bad situation.

Answer 7

Well since it's my generation that's doing this, I totally agree. I can't see why people who are 14 years old are already have sex. Do they not care about the future or something? You would also think that guys would be more responsible towards their "girls" or something (not trying to be cruel towards guys). I just can't stand the fact that a lot of young women are throwing their lives away.
I don't think it's a bad parenting, its that the parents don't really understand what's going on in thier childs life.

Answer 8

You said it and I totally agree. I couldn't fathom in a million light years at having a child when I was 14. I can't fathom having a child now. It's such a huge responsibility and people (parents and teenagers) need to take it more seriously. There are always going to be a few mistakes, but we don't have to follow the wrong path over and over again.

Answer 9

I agree that bad parenting is an issue of this generation. I could see it easily and quickly as soon as I became a parent myself. There are so many parents that are afraid to punish their child because the child will get mad and have hurt feelings. They are also scared that they will be put in jail for giving their child a whack on the butt for wiggling free and running in the road. There are times to discipline. Weather it be time-out, loss of privileges, or a spanking, it is needed. To teach your child right from wrong is to Love them. Punishment is part of the learning process. If you love your child you will teach them to do right. Not teach them if they cry they will get their way. Because when they get older and get pregnant too soon, crying won't help them. When they get fired from being disrespectful, whom do they have to blame... parents. I could go on and on about this, but you get the drift.

Answer 10

in my opinion kids don't have enough supervision. now days mothers are working outside of the home in order to support a life of higher-standards than are necessary. we live in a society in which most people feel they need to live in large, fancy homes and drive new, shiny vehicles... and the children are being raised by strangers until the child is old enough to watch themselves... or watch their siblings. "when momma's away, kids do play".

it's to bad that society makes people feel that their self-worth comes from objects instead of the off-spring that they raise.