Ok well I am currently pregnant at 34 weeks with my first child a son. Which I could not be more then happy over. But then there is a problem the father and I just started talking about 6 days ago. We had not talked.or seen eachother in about 5 months. Ok well he found me and called me and begged me to give him one more chance. I do love him more then anything but the problem is he has a 8 month son by someone else. How do I know that he really does love me and our son? He says he wants to marry me and not let me go again forever. He is the one that found me again and has taken time off to be here when our son is born and wants to be here and love me he says. What should I do I am so confused. It is not that he is not a good father to that one but that one was not planned and our was just do to our differences we decided time apart was the best. Does he love me and our son? Can things work out between him and I? Can I not feel that he loves the other babys mom?
2006-12-05 15:31:21 · 5 answers · asked by kmylander03 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
If I were you, I would simply call the mother of his other child and see how his behavior was with her. You do know that he can still be apart of your child's life and you two not be in a relationship. Slow the relationship down to a comfortable pace and let things develop over time. If he's serious about what he says, he'll slow down for you.
2006-12-05 15:41:49 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Take your own sweet time. Do not be rushed. Let your son's birth happen and see how it goes, how he treats you and the baby. Maybe the other woman just kicked him out and he is looking for somewhere to live.
If he truly loves you, time and his actions will tell. Just treat yourself well and get comfy with the mom thing.
I am not a big believer in things working out when a guy was out there making other little babies. But I don't know him or you and just want you to give it time all it takes to convince you that he is real for you.
The best to you.
2006-12-05 15:46:22 · answer #2 · answered by plaplant8 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes he loves u and his son, he helped father it he cnt help but have unconditional love for him unless hes the insensitive type. You should forgive him but only let him back into your life because your son deserves to kno who his daddy is. But just because ur having a baby by him does not mean that you guys have to date again or live together. It doesnt matter if he loves the other baby momma, sometimes u have to pur ur life aside for the best outcome of the baby.
2006-12-05 15:40:38 · answer #3 · answered by Sweetheart88 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it is all up to u honey.everyone deserves a 2nd chance.but tell him what u feel.and remember as soon as that lil boy comes into ur world he is the 1st to think bout not this guy.
2006-12-05 15:38:29 · answer #4 · answered by tracie c 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk things over with hi ! On;y you two can resolve no matter what any one tells you in response to your question....if you want to make tit happen you can!!
2006-12-05 15:36:28 · answer #5 · answered by cutie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋