we have been talking for over an year on the phone and the internet and she is afraid to meet me. what can i do? I have tried everything under the sun with options like meeting in a mall...even a police station....what can i do to take it to the next level?
2006-12-05 15:04:41 · 19 answers · asked by . . 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
There's nothing you can do, really. If she's not comfortable, you're going to have to let her work through her insecurities.
If you want, offer to talk with her parents. Offer to have both of your parents talk to each other. I'm thinking that she probably doesn't want to meet you because she hasn't told her family about you yet.
2006-12-05 15:06:35 · answer #1 · answered by FaZizzle 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
If you have been talking for over a year and she isn't willing to meet you. Not even a police station. Sounds like she may have something to hide. Not unless you two live very far away from each other and then it sounds like a financial matter.
2006-12-05 23:10:01 · answer #2 · answered by whisperingmoonofthenight 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i do not think she is 'scared' to meet u ,,, i mean like you will hurt her but i think she is either very shy or has described the way she looks to you wrong. making you think she is prettier than she is. which happens alot online. and now ,,, she doesn't know how to face you. if you have fallen for the real 'her' ,,, looks shouldn't matter. i hope they do not to you. she may have even sent you a picture of someone else. just reassure her that you are not into looks and nothing matters except meeting her. might take you awhile (i know you have been waiting a long time already) and if she still doesn't want to ,,, she may never want to.
2006-12-05 23:10:58 · answer #3 · answered by robin j 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's not possible to change anyone's mind if they don't want to change it. Maybe she just needs time to realize it on her own terms. If it's an internet relationship, she kind of has reason to be a little hesitant. I hope it works out for you though, you seem like a nice enough person :)
2006-12-05 23:07:38 · answer #4 · answered by az270890 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
be patient my man. this kind of situation need what we call teknik and patient is one of it. just one year and you surrender?
try to convince her using your voice slowly, meet in the police station doesnt change the possibility that u are a bad guy right?
just be p[atient and smart. slowly show to her that u are commited with this relationship. she will one day trust u as a very protective man.
ok. hope this helps
2006-12-05 23:10:25 · answer #5 · answered by grehart_mirrus4 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the girl ahead of me is right...meeting ppl on the interenet and in real life can be a lil scary. suggest a group get together...u kno..sumthin to make her feel more comfy..like 5-6 of her girls w/ her while only u and ur bud( the reason its only two guys is so that they dont think ur gonna like overpower them) have fun--go to the spectrum or a crowded place!! HAVE FUN- the first g2gther will be in a group..after that when she feels more comfy..a real relationship...good luck!
2006-12-05 23:09:37 · answer #6 · answered by itsamberduh33 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's been over a year? I'd tell her you're done with it (and be serious)...she either agrees to meet or there will be no further attempts or offers...if you want to keep her as just a penpal fine...but I'd suggest you move on...
The issue may be:
She's nothing at all as she's told you she is
She's got extreme social anxiety
She's just having fun playing with you
2006-12-05 23:08:22 · answer #7 · answered by . 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Ask her why she doesn`t want 2 meet u n tell her that u really want 2 c her. Tell her if she wants 2 go out with u, that u will pick her up then!!!
2006-12-05 23:08:37 · answer #8 · answered by wanna b me 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
aww the police station thats cute ... it sounds to me like she may have lied to you about somethin and she is afraid that you won't like her in person... good luck if it has been a yr i would give up or just keep it the way it is.....
2006-12-05 23:08:21 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
after a year. Give up
she is married or something. she does not want it to get physical or personal.
I think she just wants a friend to talk to and nothing more.
2006-12-05 23:07:37 · answer #10 · answered by G L 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋