Ok so I have been married 7 years and I have known my husband and his family for 20 year (we went to school together). Ok so here is the problem.....My brother in law just told me that he is in therapy due to a divorce and he told the theripist that he has very strong feelings for me and the theripist felt that he should confront me and tell me how he feels, he did....I havent told my husband and I dont what I should do. We live close to eachother (less then 5 minutes) so we get together often, my husband and his brother are very close and I just dont know what I should do....any advise
2006-12-05 15:00:32 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Tell him your flattered and then set him straight about your feelings. Remember not to be too careful with his feelings, say what you need to say to be honest, regardless how much it may hurt his feelings. This is serious and you need to nip it in the bud. Sometimes, in relationships, people want someone they can't have because it's safe. Think about it, no commitments, no support, no possession at all. What a perfect setup for a non-commital person. Lots of men are like that, they will only go out with married women, less baggage with all the benefits.
2006-12-05 15:18:32 · answer #1 · answered by Teresa O 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I had a similar situation with my sister's husband. He told me that he has always had a crush on me but he is in love with my sister. I told him that I am so sorry he has to deal with that but I am in love with my husband and even if I weren't I would never do that to my sister. I think the fact the he has come to you and told you this shows his lack of respect for his brother. What did he think he was going to get by telling you? Did it make his feelings go away? No. Did you jump in the sack with him? No. Is it now very uncomfortable between the two of you? I imagine so. I don't think he told you for any other reason than he was hoping you have an affair with him. If you don't intend to have an affair with him then you need to tell your husband because if he finds out later then he will feel you are keeping secrets from him and he'll wonder what else your keeping from him.
2006-12-05 23:06:46 · answer #2 · answered by freakyallweeky 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Did have a divorce? Just because he said he is going to a therapist does it real mean he is? Maybe that is a lie. Maybe he has feeling for you and did not know how to tell you how he feels so he blames it on a make believe therapist so he can you of his feelings. Maybe he hates seeing his brother happy in marriage and want to see it end. Maybe he wanted to see if you are open going to bed with him. Maybe it's all true, but tell your husband what has happened because if it come from anyone else but you, your husband may think you hit on his brother or that you did sleep with him. If maybe the best thing for you to do. Therapist don't tell their patience to go tell their sister-in-law on how they feel. They would tell them not even think about them that way because you are married and to stay away from braking up a marriage. And they don't want to be sue for telling their patience to do so. Watch out for your brother in-law.
2006-12-06 00:04:27 · answer #3 · answered by larlonewolf 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What the heck kind of idiot therapist tells a client to reveal his feelings to his sister-in-law? You need to call this moron and tell them to stop trying to rip apart people's marriages!
Then tell your b-i-l (over the phone, please) that you will be limiting your time with him whenever possible, will never be alone with him, and at the first sign of inappropriate behavior, will tell your husband about his feelings for you. Most of all, you need to tell him that the feelings are NOT reciprocated, and that he needs to find another counselor who will help him get over you.
What a nutty situation. Sorry!!
2006-12-05 23:17:41 · answer #4 · answered by jael_hk 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This therapist sounds like a quack - very very bad advice - your brother in law should go further afield for love interests - what a disgraceful situation - I hope this confession isnt going to lead to you having thoughts as well.
2006-12-05 23:05:35 · answer #5 · answered by punk b 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you value your marriage, and you should, stay away from your brother in law...hello!!! Tell your husband anyway..that way you are accountable if something were to ever occur.
2006-12-05 23:03:01 · answer #6 · answered by janeannpat 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My dear, I really think you aught to sue the living snot out of a therapist that would suggest a course of action to their client that would lead to the destruction of his own brother's marriage.
This is so low that it is actually revolting. Get a lawyer. You have grounds. You have grounds.....
2006-12-05 23:06:39 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
5 cups of sugar
1 large watermelon
50 pounds of ammonium nitrate
1 spaghetti knife
Cut up watermelon, add sugar, feed to brother in law
Blow up brother in law with ammonium nitrate
2006-12-05 23:05:41 · answer #8 · answered by syphonbyte 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well... u don't have to worry.. just rebuke ur brother in law d best that u can.. ur husband is valuable than someone else... dig the seed so that it may not grow..
2006-12-06 01:17:17 · answer #9 · answered by Isaac 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
stay away from the brother.
2006-12-05 23:10:31 · answer #10 · answered by that's funny 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋