I am 22 I married my husband who is 22 four years ago this may. We have two children. I took on his name when we married. since then We have cut ties with his mother. I have never been excepted by her. His mother has since remarried and no longer carries her maiden name wich my husband has. His father he has spoke with ince since he was born. For the sake of my children I would like to change our last name to my maiden/ My husband is very excepted by my family and has been since day 1. I want my children to know where their last name came from not that families are ripped apart such as my in laws. And last of all I want to belong to a family that can except me not one that I am shunned from . Does it sound right to you???
2006-12-05 14:58:27 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
my children are still very young a 3 yr and a 5 month!
2006-12-05 15:04:31 · update #1
How old are your kids? If they are in school and have friends it may be hard for them to explain their last name changing. I do agree with you to some degree. Actually my husband sort of feels the same way. His parents were married but his dad left when mom was pregnant with him so he has dads last name and so do my son and I now. He resents it due to the fact his dad never had contact with him and we have no history of the name. So yes it is a good idea so your kids won't grow up feeling the way my 37 year old husband does now about his name. Hope this helps...
2006-12-05 15:04:08 · answer #1 · answered by Samantha 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow, you guys are HARSH. Last names are not the b-all and end-all they once were. If you feel like this, and your husband agrees, go for it. Your kids are so young, they will not know the difference, and this will probably take a weight off your chest.
Do not pay any attention to what anyone on here might say, follow what you believe, and what you think is right.
Good luck!
2006-12-05 23:32:03 · answer #2 · answered by shaclare 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not really. Treat the last name as a legacy that you are starting with your husband and your family. I think it would be really confusing for the kids to change their last name and it really isn't a good reason to do it anyway. Don't let his mother influence you guys so much and do things for your family, not your parents.
2006-12-05 23:01:26 · answer #3 · answered by janeannpat 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A better lesson for your kids would be to teach them that you can't choose who your related to and that not everyone will accept you as you are but you have to make the most of it. I can't believe your husband actually agreed to this. My husbands family doesn't like me much but I don't care. I married the man not his family.
2006-12-05 23:17:20 · answer #4 · answered by freakyallweeky 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
spelling dreadful ! She can call herself anything she likes but has to have husband's permission in writng before a Legal Expert to alter the children's name officially
2006-12-06 04:00:34 · answer #5 · answered by Margaret W 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My grandfather was in a similar situation, and changed his last name from Xyzzy to Frobozz. This brought him nothing but grues.
2006-12-05 23:32:15 · answer #6 · answered by syphonbyte 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No it does not sound right. Practically what will you do should someone in your family divorces or turns weird. No family is lily white.
2006-12-05 23:04:46 · answer #7 · answered by lily 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋