I know that I am not the prettiest thing but I know I am not ugly either...Is there any guys out there who look past appearance and look deeper than that? Because I keep looking and looking and it seems that only looks matter...Looks are skin deep. The soul and personality is what should be important...Guys give me some feedback...
2006-12-05 14:56:36 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You know, I've been feeling the same way lately. I can't speak for all guys, but I can speak for myself. I like girls who do not smoke or drink, who are my height or shorter, and who are not fat and have no major deformity or health problems. Also, I like kind and optimistic girls. And of course, they have to like me back. Those sound like basic guidelines, but I have yet to find a single girl who has those characteristics. And I'm a normal college guy, too. There isn't any advice I can give you, really. Good luck!
Oh yeah, I almost forgot . . . there is no one thing that guys notice first on a consistent basis. I notice everything automatically and I don't think about it so much. It sounds like I have kind of a checklist going, but my analysis is not in any particular order. Even if there were one thing I noticed first all the time, that would not be the only important thing I would notice and it would not guarantee anything.
2006-12-05 15:12:05 · answer #1 · answered by anonymous 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First it needs to be said that most guys are retarded when it comes from women. Now with the obvious out of the way, there are guys that can and do look past the skin. I think that my girlfriend is the most beautful women in the world. Some guys probably wouldnt agree with me but they dont matter. A womens personality is much more important then her looks. Eventually looks fade which is why theres bitter old women who are alone. Because they never learned that they actually need a good personality.
2006-12-05 15:39:44 · answer #2 · answered by Steveo 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Whats inside is what counts. Its too bad people cant put that on display instead of the outside. Truth is were like animals. The mate is decided by there physical appearance. Everything else comes after. Its just the way things go. If you can grab a persons attention long enough looks tend to be enhanced if your already attractive or fade away if your not so attractive. Just make sure you show your charisma from the start.
2006-12-05 15:03:29 · answer #3 · answered by John T 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Looks ALWAYS matter. It's the packaging that attracts the man's eyes. The eyes don't care about personality, GPAs, or IQs. The eyes only care about what looks good. That's not to say that looks are the only thing. If I connect with her on a deeper level, I will talk with her and get a good idea of her character long before I get busy with her. Yet even then, it was her looks that initially attracted me.
2006-12-05 15:02:01 · answer #4 · answered by dante_cubit_3000 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
For more meaningful feed back you should give us your approximate age, height and weight, measurements and a picture would be helpful as well. Based on what you said above I think you need to have a job where you work closely with a number of guys so that they get to know you without going on a date with them. Being in college would help. Working in a large organization where there are a number of single guys would also help. Maybe graduate school would be good, depending on your situation. Are you good a sports? Sometime that helps as well. Joining the military if you qualify might also be a good idea in that you could meet many guys and work with them during training and then go from there.
2006-12-05 15:06:18 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you are correct looks are only skin deep. I once asked a girl out and the thing i noticed most about her was her perfect teeth and she was standing up. Diferent people view others diferently with my wife i didn't even notice any body or face features i just knew from the first words that came out of her mouth that i was going to marry her. (we have been together for 15 years now).
I think most men want clean on the outside but not so much on the inside;).
2006-12-05 15:06:54 · answer #6 · answered by Barry W 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The first things guys notice would not be personality, same goes with girls. You usually see the person first, and then get to know them. Most of the time, I don't think a person hears the others voice, falls in love, and then sees the other. So, looks first.
2006-12-05 15:01:24 · answer #7 · answered by invincible 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree with you. When I look at a woman, I look at her eyes first. It's important for her to be able to look me in the eyes. Also, you can tell a lot about a person from their eyes. As someone once said: "The eyes are the windows to the soul". I tend to be attracted to someone with kind eyes. Personality is most important though. It can make a plain person gorgeous and a beautiful one ugly. Looks fade, but personality lasts a lifetime.
2006-12-05 15:01:05 · answer #8 · answered by SolMan 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well it depend on the guy... their are so many gentlemen living in this world. Each one of them has a different characteristics. for example a guy would like a sexy woman.. But some will refer on the personalities of a woman... Well I'm a girl but I have so many boy friends...but if you are looking for a guy who would love you the way you wanted to be love,,, well maybe he's just out there too close to your eyes to see... so close your eyes and let your heart see it self..
real love is not based on what we see but what we feel!!!!!!!
2006-12-05 21:46:09 · answer #9 · answered by Jeanydee B. 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It isnt that simple
Depends on her position, for example if she is sitting then the face, the shape and then eyes then body.
Standing
front- body shape first then up to face and eyes
back- waist first then down to butt
it all happens really fast.!
I thought about this alot after a similar q was asked a few weeks ago.
2006-12-05 14:59:01 · answer #10 · answered by Its me 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋