So, my friend Victor is in this long-distance relationship. He doesn't have Yahoo so, I'm letting him use mine. Here he goes:
Ok so I'm in love with this girl who used to live with me, She moved to Hawaii for work and now she is going to be gone 4 6 months to a year, even though she told me that she wouldn't take the job, and it would only be 6 weeks. I know i love her and I know that she loves me, and i don't question her loyalty, but its been really hard for me to deal with the fact that i dont know anyone there who she is with, and i feel like I'm not a part of her life anymore. No one has ever been as good to me as she is when we are together, and no one has made me as happy, but i have done the whole long distance thing b4 and it didn't work. Its hard cause i feel like i wait for her to call and i always answer but she hardly answers my calls, and when we do talk the majority of the time its just about her work, not what i have to say, its so hard b/c i know i love her so much
2006-12-05 14:50:12 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
WAIT! She's my girlfriend and we've been together for six months, and we lived together before she moved away. She always tells me how much she loves me and misses me and how much I mean to her. When I try to talk to her about how I feel and my doubts about this, she gets really sad and feels awful and just wants to make me happy. WHAT DO I DO?
2006-12-05 14:55:49 · update #1
Being in a long distance relationship is definitely hard. I'm in a long distance relationship and it is hard not being able to spend time with that person, going out, being in the same place with him/her, etc. If you truly love her, then you'll try and make this work. Your still part of her life, and she is still making you part of her life by telling you whats happening with her life. Its hard waiting for the other person to call sometimes, but that's part of having a long distance relationship. Let her know that you like hearing about whats going on with her and her job, but that you want to spend time talking to her about other things as well and that you want to talk about things going on in ur life 2. Sounds like you truly love her, so hopefully you have the patience to make it work!!
2006-12-05 14:58:47 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she is more interested in talking about her job than telling you how much she misses you and loves you, I would be questioning her. See how she feels about you coming to visit her. If she has a problem with that then something else is going on. She told you she wouldn't take the job but she did and she lied about the length of time she would be gone. If I were you I would do some serious thinking about this relationship.
2006-12-05 22:57:28 · answer #2 · answered by panther 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Can you go to Hawaii?
Try her out on that thought. If she is resistant then you may come to think that you are not so loved. Even if you went for a visit to see how it really feels to be together again, it would be better than just being at home for 4 to 6 months.
If that is not an option try to enjoy yourself while waiting and see how it is when (and if) she returns.
2006-12-05 23:12:42 · answer #3 · answered by plaplant8 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all, try and communicate more often. Email each other with news about work, friends, etc and then on the phone you can have more time to talk about more personal things.
Second, just try and take it easy. Maybe you can try taking a break - both of you still not dating anyone, but without the stress of being a couple.
2006-12-05 22:53:48 · answer #4 · answered by Cammie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it is so hard to be away from the person you love, I know, we live in different countries and it is not working, the distance has killed our so called love....was it love, though?
I left him knowing in my heart I would probable never be back...but did not tell him in an effort to be wrong. He let me go, he did not stop me, he always took me for granted and maybe just maybe, he could have said......."please don't go"...I know I would've stayed!
A woman's heart is an strange place!
2006-12-05 23:01:05 · answer #5 · answered by Pi 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I hate to say this, but she has moved on. You need to move on yourself. The longer you pursue this, the worse you will feel. Trust me.
2006-12-05 22:52:43 · answer #6 · answered by dante_cubit_3000 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ok.. so.. u let her go bcoz u trust rite? u dont question her loyalty.. well.. i think.. u let her go becoz u loved her.. and so.. if she comes back.. then it was meant to be~
2006-12-05 22:55:14 · answer #7 · answered by [MiA] 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋