im 46 and my g/f is 52, we have been together almost a year and have been sexually active, my question is this i want a night of hot, porn star type love making for my birthday, but if i tell her she is going to blow a major gasket, cuz to her sex is not important but to me it is. she has no money and there is nothing material i want, so women what is the big deal of ur man asking for love making. would u do it, get mad or rather buy a gift than to give yourself as a gift.
2006-12-05 14:41:54 · 9 answers · asked by keithy 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I'm sure sex is important to her, just not the most important thing!! If you put too much effort into trying to get it, she won't want it. Talk to her about it more. She may be willing to do some of the sexual things you want. Don't rush her into wanting to do it all. Ease her into the hot porn. It may be too much all at once. Maybe watch a porn video with her to get her reaction and ideas. Maybe she has some better ones!! I would rather give myself as a gift than a material object. Good Luck!
2006-12-05 15:03:51 · answer #1 · answered by Stormy 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
It sounds like there is a bigger issue here if sex is important to you and it's not to your girlfriend then im not sure how it is going to work out in the long run....any healthy relationship needs a good balance between phsyically and emotional..and while sex should not be all that the relationship is about it does have it's place and it is important. I think that you should explain to your girlfriend you need for more intamcy once and awhile...give her some compliements maybe she is just really insecure..set the mood and see what happens. Good Luck
2006-12-05 22:53:44 · answer #2 · answered by thereis 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I am 52 and my hubby of 10 years is 43 if thats what he wanted for his birthday I would be very happy to give it to him , he is not into it like I am. Tell her for your birthday to get a motel room so its like a vacation, and then a hot tub in the room and get naked and say give my Birthday present, then it will be something different for her too, so she can have fun
2006-12-05 22:54:30 · answer #3 · answered by colbydog43 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well ,after a year you should somewhat know each other.if my man ask me after all that time i would think he's been with another woman.i would let that question pass,only if you really care about her.what would you do if she asked you out of the blue? you need to forget it,or find another partner,,,she's going to go off on you,,,i promise
if your not satisfied with her why you'll still together?sounds like your not happy .
2006-12-05 22:51:12 · answer #4 · answered by hl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As long as you want this "porn star love making" with her, I don't think you would be wrong to ask. Good luck & have fun!!! Happy Birthday!!
Mary
2006-12-05 22:45:25 · answer #5 · answered by maryannmccarthy2003 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Excite her to the maximum and you will get what you want even without asking for..start slowly,surly and gradually reach the level of extreme pleasure
2006-12-05 22:55:29 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would watch how you told her.I wouldn't like to be asked to have porn sex.I would feel cheap.
2006-12-05 22:46:12 · answer #7 · answered by misty g 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think you should realize that she is reaching menopause.
2006-12-05 22:59:36 · answer #8 · answered by Black 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sit her down and tell her exactly what you told me!!!
2006-12-05 22:44:40 · answer #9 · answered by pinkballerina101 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋