as im female an now am atrackted to females i think im a lesbian an not sure..this realy does confuse me..any1 no?
2006-12-05 14:40:30 · 14 answers · asked by collene d 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
If you are not sure about your sexual preference, don't get married!! Figure out what you want for yourself first.
2006-12-05 14:44:01 · answer #1 · answered by Royalhinney 7 · 5⤊ 0⤋
Sarah, before you say yes you have to figure out what you want in life. Do you want the "white picket fence" life of a husband and children or the ups and downs of an alternative lifestyle. You have to figure out what you want in life. Its one thing to be attracted to women and its another thing to live the life as a lesbian. I have a sister that is gay and I have seen the hard realities of her life. She has suffered from depression, hard hard depression because some of the family do not accept her lifestyle. Are you prepared for the obstacles such as this in your life. Is this possible a phase you might be having? Look long and hard at your life and see if the goals in your life match up with the possibilities of the gay lifestyle. Good luck.
2006-12-05 15:05:18 · answer #2 · answered by asbratcher 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Well, then what you did was very fair. It may have hurt your boyfriend but it would have been worse to marry him and then tell him. Take your time and figure things out. Ignore all the bigotted idiots. If you and your boyfriend were meant to be you will find each other
2006-12-05 15:53:42 · answer #3 · answered by Sara K 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Try talking to him about it. Either come out forward with what you think, or just a simple "I need time." But either way, you can't leave him hanging. Deciding your sexuality can take a while, but remember to be slow and flexible with it. Sometimes,(for me at least) people can feel sexuality changes within hours, and then change back withing days. I'm gay, and I was at this party. I saw this girl and I said to myself, "She's awsome. I love her so much.", barley even knowing her. I ended up going home, sleeping, then waking up in the morning thinking..."Yup...i still take it in the butt..."
Good luck!!!
2006-12-05 14:46:27 · answer #4 · answered by Greg H 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Honey it sounds like you have a toss up with which way you are trying to go. I mean I think it is cool for you to explore your feelings but I also think instead of you saying I don't know to your boyfriend you should just bow out gracefully and tell him no. I mean the number one problem to me is honesty. Be honest about what you don't want to do with him even if you don't want to share your feelings about what you are wanting to do with somebody else!!!
2006-12-05 15:51:19 · answer #5 · answered by Jazzie 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You will know in your heart whether or not you want to marry him. Just because you are attracted to other women doesn't mean that you are lesbian. You could be just curious, bi-sexual, or you could turn out to be gay. It is okay to be married to a man and be attracted to women,( i know someone who is), he would probably understand..lol. Anyway......i hope you get to sort yourself out soon.
Blessings
Soli
2006-12-08 08:21:58 · answer #6 · answered by Solista 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think the best solution to your problems is to accept your boyfriend before you make a mess of yourself.
2006-12-08 07:33:38 · answer #7 · answered by cajadman 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hey really don't feel bad, its good that you have stopped to think about this. No don't get married till you really know where your preferences lie that way nobody should get hurt,
good luck
2006-12-05 14:57:18 · answer #8 · answered by PETER J 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
how attracted r u to them?. i think lots of girls r stunnin but that doesnt make me think im turnin da other way
2006-12-07 23:30:38 · answer #9 · answered by kitten 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should also use Collene's dictionary,
2006-12-05 18:31:02 · answer #10 · answered by Veronica 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋