There are some people at my church that really get on my nerves and really try my patience, I really dont like these people it is wrong not to like certain people as a Christian. These people at times deamand more of me that I am able to give. They can be very difficult and demanding to deal with. I will be relocating because being in a hard ministry for 13 years is starting to take its toll on me. How can I be loving even though I dont want to deal with them?
2006-12-05 14:18:32 · 22 answers · asked by encourager4God 5 in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
there is no command to like everyone, that is unrealistic. We must love all those in the body, but that doesn't mean we have to necessarily like them. There are some who are believers that I love as believers, yet they rub me wrong. I would give my life for them, but I really don't wish to socialize with them. That is just human nature and a matter of personality types. Just love them, smile at them, and avoid them if necessary, don't harbor any ill feelings towards them, let God take care of His people. If you are in a ministry that is starting to be burden, it may be time to step away for a time. Maybe spend more time with God alone, to recharge your batteries so to speak.
2006-12-05 14:35:58 · answer #1 · answered by BrotherMichael 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I did what you did I changed chuches I called it church shopping went until I found a place I felt confortable and stayed.
I would personal tell them niceley if you don't want to do something Say I don't care to do that I hope you will understand,Sorry.
Hope this helps Diane
Also get this book its awsome tells you how to deal with diffcult people nicely
How to Be an Assertive (Not Aggressive) Woman in Life, in Love, and on the Job
2006-12-05 22:30:27 · answer #2 · answered by dianehaggart 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't leave on bad terms. I know exactly what you are going through. I have had it rough for a long time also. I am considering leaving but do not want it to be in a critical time. We are rebuilding now since our church burnt in March. Once it is built I am going to evaluate things then. I think of them as family but like you I have a few that make it to hard. I feel like they steal my joy and do not enjoy going to church sometimes. I am an elder and my wife is chair of our building committee. I teach Sunday school and my children are the sixth generation of my wife's family. It makes it hard. You pray for me and I will pray for you. Mike. IM if you need to talk some more.
2006-12-05 22:25:36 · answer #3 · answered by mikegwelch 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you need to take a step back. Annoying people will come into your path always. It's just the nature of being human. As for whether it's "Christian" for you not to like these people, well...the commandment is that we are to love our neighbors as ourselves. That means that you need to treat everyone with the same respect and human dignity that you would want for yourself. So, they can bother you and be demanding etc. But rather than you blowing a gasket, you need to recognize that these folks are triggering you and figure out which buttons are being pushed in you. Once you've done that, you may find it easier to handle their annoying behavior.
2006-12-05 22:29:59 · answer #4 · answered by FL LMT 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are not going to be best friends with everybody--but if these people are really making your ministry difficult then, in love, you should go to them and share our limits. Learning to say 'no' is a skill for most of us and even when people are unhappy about a choice we have to make they need to allow you to be you too. If you explain your being unable to do something as you have too much on your plate and you want to be able to focus your efforts productivly with things you have already committed to do then they should either accept it and move on or THEY are stepping out of line. My husband lets me use the husband says no excuse. It really helped me at first to learn how to say 'no' and stick with it. December is a great time to practice your limitations... party here and party there, carolling and cookie exchanges... something has got to give!! Do make sure that you are not being too picky--sometimes we can set ourselves up to get irritated. Try to be loving but firm on your limits.
2006-12-05 22:29:11 · answer #5 · answered by Orpah! 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
First of all you can be Christian and Human(we all have our dislike). All we can do in life is to accept people for who they are along with the annoyance they present and yes my friend...PRAY for guidance and strength to deal with these people. There will always be someone or something who gets under our skin...we just have to learn to take a deep breath and carry on. It sounds like you are taking a good step and the change will likely be good. Good luck and all the best at your new ministry!
2006-12-05 22:23:25 · answer #6 · answered by timeless_echo 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I appreciate your question but I truly would not be coming on yahoo answers for this topic but rather seek the word first then get wise counsel from your Pastor. Regarding not liking people, in our flesh dwelleth no good thing, it our natural disposition and sin nature to dislike people based on our natural affinities, but what if Jesus said, I don't like you because you are this or that? I will only die for this group of people over here. When you see through His eyes you will a develop a love for the unlovable that transcends their actions toward you. God bless..
2006-12-05 22:23:49 · answer #7 · answered by steptoejosh 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As a Christian we are called to "love" everyone. That means to have respect and honor, to be nice, to pray for them, to encourage them when it is possible, and to be there for them if needed. But it does not say that everyone will be a close friends.
Look at the apostle Paul. He started his ministry with the help of Barnabas. In fact, in Acts they were referred to as Barnabas and Paul, not Paul and Barnabas. However their relationship was not perfect, and so after the first trip together, they split and when separate ways. (See Acts 13) While they continued to "love" each other, they no longer were close friends.
You can love everyone, but it is hard to "like" everyone.
2006-12-05 22:31:06 · answer #8 · answered by dewcoons 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
One step towards Christian maturity is patience and understanding. Much prayer is needed concerning this matter. I mean no disrespect, but most of the answers you'll get want be what God will want.
2006-12-05 22:26:01 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is wrong to not like a person, but it is NOT wrong to not like what the person does. You can say "Hi" everyone once and a while and be friendly.
Hating what the person does and not the person is like switching the phrase from, "Hate the player; not the game," to, "hate the game, not the player", ya know? I hope you get this. =/
2006-12-05 22:23:55 · answer #10 · answered by Scallywag 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋