2006-12-05 14:17:09 · 16 answers · asked by Wally 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
What is your heart telling you? Besides his age, is he the guy you want to date? Only you can can answer that.
2006-12-05 14:19:04 · answer #1 · answered by tannedknight45 5 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Hes a bit old for what you may want to do in life, like have kids in five years. I've never known people to really care what they do if they are in love with someone, the heart can make some strange decisions all by itself. Do at least check on his financial arrangements if it reaches the serious stage, does he have child support? How long has he been divorced, was it an early mistake or is it fresh and hes on the rebound?
You won't share a lot of silly things like memories about times past and music. That plays an unexpected part in a relationship,
but you can both go on to make new memories together.
2006-12-05 22:24:20 · answer #2 · answered by justa 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No he is not too old!
But, if you look from bigging that 'he is too old' it is better you forget it!
You can not, and should not commence your meeting with doubts like this.
He married! Is good and is bad!
It is good that at least you know that he is the man of 'commitment', many men out there are not, they just waste the 'valuable times of girls'! You are 24, until you find a serious guy and marry and have children would be 30 or older!
SO "TIME" for you is critical. You want a serious guy who be able to ask you" Would you please marry me!"
IT is bad he married that his ex always may be recalled.
IF, you decide to go out with him;
YOU must ask his consent to talk with his ex and find out how he treated that 'woman'...
Then come asked him if ex was told you the truth!
Then you must examine which of them were lair!
THE TOTAL RESULT IS = Just try to find a guy near your age!
2006-12-05 22:30:03 · answer #3 · answered by Iranian Amigo 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It depends on how much the age gap really is and if you care about the age difference or not. My husband and I have a 10 year age gap but it doesn't bother me because we have so much in common that at first either of us thought that we wouldn't have plus he was married before but I hadn't been!! If you care enough for the guy and you think that you will be happy then go for it what do you have to loose!! But if you always think about the age difference of being 14 years then maybe you should step away before something happens. Do what you think is right not what other people think because at the end of the day you will be the one who will be spending the rest of your life with him if it turns out not anyone else!!
2006-12-05 22:22:13 · answer #4 · answered by pqr 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Age does not matter, unless it matters to you. Find out what you have in common. Do you enjoy the same music, kinds of movies, hobbies? Can you talk for hours on the phone or in person? Find out how he feels about children, religion, politics. You may be surprised to find that the only big difference between the two of you is age.
2006-12-05 22:35:57 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Love does not have a calendar. Be aware of actuarial studies which show men die 4 to 5 years before women. You'll have those 4 years plus 14 more. That is not necessarily a bad thing, but only something you need to remember in terms of children, retirement, and savings.
Congrats.
2006-12-05 22:20:10 · answer #6 · answered by Joe Cool 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
There is nothing wrong with your age difference. In fact, I think it is the perfect difference. If he had never been married, it is a no brain-er. But you have to subtly find out what went wrong in his first marriage and if he was an abuser. If he has kids, that could be a problem. If there are no kids, it's easier. Your comfort is all that is important and don't listen to the closed minded people who object.
2006-12-05 22:24:39 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
While dating an older guy may appeal to you, spending your life with one has its problems. You are still young and want to do the things that 20-somethings do and he has been there done that and is at a different point in his life.
Sex with an older experienced man can be great but after the orgasm what do you have in common?
2006-12-05 22:25:13 · answer #8 · answered by Crazy Old Woman 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Fourteen years makes him nearly old enough to be your dad (in fact, he is technically old enough to be but we don't like to think of kids starting that young...even though they do)...
It's up to you...if there is mutual appeal, enjoy...just know that he's middle aged and you are just a few years into adulthood...he may really dig you, or he may really dig the idea that a young woman digs him, a "nearly 40" guy...
Just make sure y'all are on the same page and are in the relationship for reasons that are acceptable to each other...
2006-12-05 22:20:42 · answer #9 · answered by . 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You never had a serious relationship. I would wait. It sounds like you not ready to marry. Try having some fun!
2006-12-05 22:19:59 · answer #10 · answered by regwoman123 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
i didn't get into my first relationship til i was 24. it was certainly a challenging experience.. amazingly enough, i ended up in 3 relationships that year..
it was certainly tough for my girlfriends to understand me and didn't know how to react to a guy who had no experience.
38 is a big age gap, but not too big if you both seem to get along and have common interests.. go out on dates and get to know him better. try to determine whether or not you seem to have the same goals and attitudes and values in life.. it could work, but only if you both seem to be on the same page..
hopefuly he will be understanding and realize that it's your first relationship and that you will be going through times of nervousness and anxiety.. hope it work out. good luck!
2006-12-05 22:21:05 · answer #11 · answered by Jeff 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋