After my daughter asked me to promise to not ground her or to tell anyone else, she admitted to me tonight that about 6 months ago she stole $20 from me that was on my bathroom counter. I told her, that I wouldn't tell her dad, but I was very disappointed in her actions. I told her that I felt a proper punishment would be for her to do extra chores around the house to pay me back. I told her if she didn't do them when I told her or what I told her, I was gonna let the cat out of the bag to Daddy. The poor little thing was in tears. I wasn't yelling but I think she just discovered her concience.
2006-12-05 14:10:57 · 16 answers · asked by bella9566 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Grade-Schooler
I did commend her for being honest and the money was in MY bathroom....not quite a common area. I suppose the whole keeping it from Daddy thing might have not been the best move but it is my only form of collateral in the situation.
2006-12-05 14:33:30 · update #1
Sounds like you did the right thing. Crying is a good sign, she's honestly upset, you touched her heart. Don't forget to praise her a LOT for coming forward with this information. Honesty is such a rare quality. You can discipline her and be mad, but still praise her honesty. She does deserve to know that she really did the right thing by telling you. That doesn't void the fact that she did it in the first place, but that shows what a great person she is, let her know that.
2006-12-05 14:16:12 · answer #1 · answered by Melissa, That's me! 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Hm. it particularly is a tought call. consistent with possibility a splash of the two? it may well be a sturdy element that she's at here by way of fact it particularly is a huge place to get some solutions and meet human beings. on the different hand, she's your mom. i think of i might in the start experience mortified if my mom grow to be at here, yet after a at the same time as, i might settle.
2016-10-14 02:54:20 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
.... well, what's done is done. It's ONLY $20 dollars, YOU were the one who left it there, and you didn't even realize it was gone. I figure that it's a communal place... she lives in the house, too. Shouldn't she be getting some money (depending on how old she is)? If you want to go with the whole "you've got to earn it" system, fine, but she obviously wants to buy some stuff for herself by herself. Just be content with the fact that she told you because I sure as hell wouldn't have given a crap to tell my mom if I took twenty bucks. *shrugs* Then again, I don't even need to "steal" to get money, so there you go. I just ask. lol
2006-12-05 14:25:47 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should not blackmail your child, after all your child could tell you about her bad judgment but making her do extra chores is the right thing to do. Children need to know that every choice has a consequence. It is really easy for me to sit here and give you advice, when I have never been in that situation. My child is only one. Parenting is something you learn as you go. As long as you ensure that your child knows that they are loved and a good sense of right and wrong then you are doing your job very well.
2006-12-05 14:24:32 · answer #4 · answered by Peaches27 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't tell him because you did tell her you wouldn't. But I would explain to her that you lost a lot of trust in her. The next time she wants to go to a party or some kind of activity you are not sure about be sure and remind her that she has already broken your trust once and that she needs to earn it back. It's not all about the $20 but her word. I wouldn't be mortified though. It's not good and I would be disappointed but I think most kids do things like that. And if I were you I would be a little proud that she fessed up!!!
2006-12-05 14:16:28 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
I think you did the right thing, but now that you've made your deal, you can't threaten her with telling dad. She either does what you've asked and makes up for what she did, or she doesn't, and if you've instilled the right values in her, the guilt will come up eventually, and she'll do what's right.
In the future, I wouldn't suggest not telling your husband, you're supposed to be a team.
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2006-12-05 15:22:38 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should NEVER keep things like stealing from your spouse. He has a right to know, especially since he would be careful not to leave money laying around. Parents need to be on the same page when it comes to discipline, and secrets should not be kept.
2006-12-05 14:16:06 · answer #7 · answered by Ryan's mom 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You handled it well. Don't worry too much. It sounds like you have a well adjusted daughter on your hands.. Just follow through with the punishment.
2006-12-05 18:14:13 · answer #8 · answered by evil_nykki 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should be proud of both you and your daughter for telling you in the first place. It takes a lot of cajones for a kid to fess up to something like that. That also means that you raised her in a manner that would make her feel okay to tell you that! Yay for both of you!
2006-12-05 14:16:33 · answer #9 · answered by makin_the_same_mistakes 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Stealing is bad and it shouldn't been kept from her dad. What happens if she was caught stealing in a store? I would be worried about this kind of behavior. As parents we need to teach our children right from wrong. If I ever caught my children stealing they would be punished and you bet their dad would know.
2006-12-06 03:37:43 · answer #10 · answered by Denise G 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋