When you meet a guy for the first date, what specifically do you look for that would guarantee that you would go out on a second date with them? I know it's specific to certain people, but I'd like to find out if there is a similar thread.
2006-12-05 14:10:12 · 27 answers · asked by docketclerkguy 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
from start to finish, i would have to say steady eye contact and a sincere smile. engaging conversation would have to be a must. then there's the obvious things: good hygiene, clean clothes, not stinky (not stinky's a big one).
personally i want to spend more time w/a guy who can joke around. who's good on his feet and keeps me on my toes, verbally that is. not too into a guy who makes a sexual innuendo out of everything. good banter is key.
i like a guy who breaks the ice and akward moments by admitting that he too is a bit uncomfortable ... that way we can both laugh about it.
i like compliments about something little. something guys don't tend to notice but actually take lots of time for a girl to pick out: earrings, bracelet, etc. not something easy like 'nice outfit', but specific about how amazing that green makes my eyes look ...
girls are all about the details.
2006-12-05 14:22:38 · answer #1 · answered by jacaroni80 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
All my most awful first dates had the same thing in common, the guy didn't know when to end the date or how to take a hint that the date was over. Being overzealous and clingy is just annoying. My first date with my husband was a no pressure, just coffee, type thing where we just talked and got to know each other as friends. I hated the pressure of thinking I HAD to go out with the guy again after a first date.
2006-12-05 14:17:30 · answer #2 · answered by Max's mom 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
First difinetly hygene and if I can tell he tried to make a good impression. Haircut fresh- a must, shave too. Treated me like a lady. I hope I don't actually have to ask him to open the car door or waits till he realizes I'm standing there waiting for him to open the resturant door. Wasn't miserly on the date. A true lady wouldn't abuse the privilege of free food and drink at a gentleman's expense but he should always be prepared to meet whatever she may order. So with that in mind dont go to Chez Marie with Red Lobster money---go to Red Lobsters! And if you REALLY want to make a good impression make sure to have your car clean, smelling nice, and some wrapped flowers on the seat. Cleanliness is always a homerun with the ladies-even if you have to fake it!
2006-12-05 14:24:14 · answer #3 · answered by Meems 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You must be: A good conversationalist..with good intelligent topics....that will appeal to her.. ask her about herself.. talk about yourself.. Don't ask her anything to make her uncomfortable ......be a gentleman with her and everyone else (no screaming at waiters)..stick to a topic you think that interested her.
DO NOT: talk about an ex unless she asks.. and even so.. keep it minimal..
Show her how exciting and romantic you can be with out going over the top..Smile ....and compliment..but not that much...You might even be able to work up a second date by the end of the first....... Have fun!
2006-12-05 14:17:58 · answer #4 · answered by law-inspired 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
haha..well when i go out on a date with a guy these are the things i would look for:
1.if he can make me laugh
2.does he have a nice personality
3.is he athletic ( sry 2 affend n e one but i like my guys to be athletic )
4.does he clean up nice
5. ok hes gotta be somewhat cute!
6. will he talk 2 me nicely in front of his friends
6.is he intelligent ( i dont really like people who act stupid for attention )
7.he shows respect
8. he listens
9.if we actually have fun on the date (no use if its borring)
10. he has to be himself..dont act what you arent just to make someone like you
11. and last but not least...does he hang with the right crowd
...this is just my opinion
2006-12-05 14:21:37 · answer #5 · answered by Blue Panda 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I notice if he's nice to others, is polite to the waitress/waiter, is patient in line, gives good eye contact, yet not overkill. Waits for me "first" (door, chair..), brings a flower or two.
Conversation: does not talk about x-wife, girlfriend or no offense children too soon. Finds something funny. Is able to give a compliment.
General: smells clean..is groomed. keeps his tonge in his mouth the first several kisses.
2006-12-05 14:18:11 · answer #6 · answered by dellalouise 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
does he come across as a genuinely nice person with good morals. Or is he a shallow a**hole. Does he just want sex or does he really, genuinely like me. Does he have any substance abuse problems, mental problems (like hot tempered, control freak). He is clean, has a positive outlook, well mannered, polite to server, etc. Does he flirt with the server or oogle every girl in sight, or is his attention ON ME?
Depends on what you are looking for in life, depends on dates personality. Is she shallow and want someone else shallow? they say couples mirror each other. It may not be noticeable quickly on the outside but if you get to know them you start to see the symmetry!
2006-12-05 14:17:46 · answer #7 · answered by Angelcupcake 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I would go out again if they are polite, have a sence of humor and don't try to ask personal questions right off the bat.
2006-12-05 14:12:55 · answer #8 · answered by MsFancy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I determine whether I'd see him again by several things. A man has to be interesting, be able to hold a conversation, polite, intelligent, and a good sense of humor.
2006-12-05 14:12:41 · answer #9 · answered by ♥dream_angel♥ 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
A solid confident attitude to lead.
Strong arms and fine derriere for good loving.
Eyes that speak of nobility, conviction, discipline, and compassion
Intelligent
A good sense of humor
2006-12-05 14:21:04 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋