We have been together for 3 years. We both like to drink & have a good time. But the last wedding we went to was a huge disaster. He was completely pis* drunk & ended up doing some things I was very angry & upset about. We have been through alot & have worked through different issues, which I think makes us strong. But the problem is, is he is in the wedding..meaning I will barely see him the entire time. I adore the bride-to-be (one of his close friends) who happened to be at the previous wedding & saw his actions. Now I want to have a good time, but I just can't get that feeling off of my mind that I will be watching him the entire evening, making sure he's not being an idiot. How can I help stop myself from this & just relax when I'm there?
2006-12-05 14:06:52 · 8 answers · asked by Meh 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
"May I Help You"....that doesn't even make sense. Can someone explain to me her response?
2006-12-06 12:17:48 · update #1
It's time to have a serious talk with your boyfriend. Make sure you both agree how much is too much to drink, and make sure he is willing to stay in the limit. If you two can't have a serious conversation about this kind of stuff, there may be more issues in your relationship you need to address.
2006-12-05 14:09:51 · answer #1 · answered by tannedknight45 5 · 3⤊ 1⤋
The minute you think you have to babysit someone, is the minute you are no longer in a relationship of equals. His actions are his responsibility, it sounds like he is not a 5 year old.
For those of you that are saying even though he is in the wedding party, they will still be together, do NOT count on this. Each wedding is different, often people are not seated together, and you can not do anything about this. Relax, chat to the people around you, stop worrying.
If he does get really drunk again, make sure he's not driving, and let him know that you might have to take a deeper look at the relationship if he persists in self-destructive behaviour.
2006-12-05 14:58:43 · answer #2 · answered by shaclare 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Unfortunately you can't treat him like a child. You could remind him that drinking a lot causes a undesirable change in a person. But if he is determind to drink, and may very well do so, you can busy yourself with others at the wedding and still try to have a good time. Try to focus on something else.
2006-12-05 14:18:11 · answer #3 · answered by regwoman123 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Tell him he has to drive, which means a serious curbature on alcohol. As for the being apart, just sit somewhere near the front when the wedding part happens. Afterwards, well...just stay in the vacinity. It's all good
2006-12-05 14:26:56 · answer #4 · answered by matthaumschild 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Just because he is in the wedding party, doesn't mean you can't be there together. Why aren't you seated at the table with him? I do believe you are allowed to get up and roam around, dance, talk, mingle... Hopefully he will have enough respect for his good friend, and not get sloshed, ruining her wedding day. I am sure she has spoken to him, if not, ask her to.
Otherwise, just trust him to be a big boy and behave himself. It's not because of you if he acts like an ***. Hang out with your pals and have fun. It's a wedding! Should be happy!!
2006-12-05 14:16:56 · answer #5 · answered by Nikki 6 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Choosing to act like an alcoholic and blaming it on circumstances.....
sounds like a losing situation.
Why not stop blaming him? Isn't it time you watch yourself.
Everyone is going through lots of stuff all the time. You're giving excuses for choosing to act like a drunk. What's your payoff? You like to numb out, so why not face what's really bugging you. Why not act like a human being and face what's going on.
If you want to crawl into a bottle or into a drug induced state, go ahead. The police will see you sooner or later. I just hope you don't run down some kid or pregnant woman while you're choosing to get drunk.
GOD bless.
Blame yourself for drinking and driving and putting all others at risk.
2006-12-05 14:17:16 · answer #6 · answered by May I help You? 6 · 0⤊ 4⤋
Get a prescription for valium and take one.
I'm not kidding. This is a perfect spot for an "I don't care" drug.
You might want to think about talking to him about his drinking, too.
2006-12-05 14:12:48 · answer #7 · answered by Leo F 3 · 0⤊ 4⤋
I KNOW EXACTLY WHAT YOU ARE GOING THRU!! MY GUY IS THE SAME WAY. ALL I CAN SAY IS THAT HE SHOULD HAVE RESPECT FOR HIS FRIEND AND REMAIN SOMEWHAT SEDATE. TALK TO HIM. ITS A BIG DAY FOR HIS FRIEND AND HE SHOULDNT SPOIL IT. GOOD LUCK
2006-12-05 18:22:09 · answer #8 · answered by sammi girls mom 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋