so my dad is basically one of the biggest assholes you will ever meet in ur life and trust me on this one..
he is the most selfish person u will ever meet and i have never told him how i really felt about him. im not exactly nice but i never tell him wen he is being an *** or that he really hurt me with all the crap he did/does..u kno how it goes drugs, streets, babe kids, ***** attitude, cheats on ppl
NOT ONE THING EVER, and its driving me crazy, the worst part is that he always thinks he is right and it is EVERYONE else who is wrong. most my other brothers and sisters have told him how much of an *** he is but that is what effect he had on them not me and theres a difference because im the ONE who hasnt dropped outta highschool lol. its a long story but long story short i say what i want to say to him over and over again in my head but it never seems to come out and im sick of letting him walk all over me so what should i do just let it go and keep it inside STILL??
2006-12-05 14:00:22 · 10 answers · asked by b.lynn 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
NO you shouldn't keep it all inside like that you should tell him the truth and make him listen tell him Everything and i mean everything the way you felt your hole life he should really hear it
it also seems like your dad needs serious help
and e-mail me if you need more info or any more Q's about it
oh and could you tell me what ppl means
2006-12-05 14:17:25 · answer #1 · answered by °The Earth Goddess° 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Keeping your emotions In, will only make you hate your father and make your life more miserable.
Do you live with your dad?
It sounds that your dad isnt a good father figure, and that he is still living in his "fantasy world". You cant change him, I know it stinks. Nothing you say or do will make him change. Change is a choice that only the person has to change, He has to want it!
Here is an approach on how you can bring it accross to him, and talk to him with love and confidence:
Dad, I just felt like you needed to know how I was feeling. When you do these things, it really bothers and hurts me, and I just wanted to know what makes you do it? Is there something I can do to help you be happier in life?
If he refuses or just yells at you, then honey, there is nothing you can do.
He is accountable for his own life, But dont let it affect your future.
Im praying for you
2006-12-05 22:06:59 · answer #2 · answered by Encouragement 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try to focus on his GOOD qualities. This will offset the negative qualities. Eventually people grow old and change. Write a letter expressing everything you WISH you could tell him but don't send it to him. Next, write a letter of all the things (funny or otherwise) that you remember him as and give this letter to him. Sometimes, all cranky ******* need is a hug and for someone to show the good things. If he doesn't appreciate these things then just cut him off for awhile and get your space.
2006-12-05 22:07:01 · answer #3 · answered by WDS 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well I know its hard..but you have to tell him somehow...
Obviously if he talks over you all the time it will be hard to tell him anything...
What you can do is also write him a letter letting him know how you feel, and even thou he is like you say an a*s**** try not to be too mean in the letter you don't want to make him mad...
You just need to make him realize that what he is doing is wrong.
I personally think a letter is a better option because that way he cant interrupt , and this way you tell him what you need to tell him.
2006-12-05 22:25:20 · answer #4 · answered by Yvett 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try having a complex father who probably has a personality disorder, very smart, amoral, control freak, put his third wife out of her misery, hasn't talked to his son in over 23 years and disowns him to the day, threatens his son with attorney, countless girlfriends, hates Christians with a passion that would make Nero blush, and you have a fairly unique man. But there is hope: this bloodline should die out within a generation: neither my sister or myself are ambitious for parenthood.
2006-12-05 22:29:50 · answer #5 · answered by TarKettle 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sure I think you should tell him ...I don't think it will change him..but, you'll have it off of your chest. You might want to write your feelings down and send him the letter. That's what I did.. because , I can get my feelings out better on paper. Sorry you have such a CRAPPY dad..they don't realize how much of an impact they have on us and our lives...and our future relationships. I hope things get WAY better for you.
2006-12-05 22:44:54 · answer #6 · answered by hthr34 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well... I think that you should tell him how you feel and maybe have your mom or grandparents there when you do.. because if my dad did that i wouldent even want to be there so i would call up some other family..... Good luck
2006-12-05 22:05:55 · answer #7 · answered by Jordo! 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to focus on your life. Do good in school, try to overlook how your Dad is. Look toward your future. Remembe parents aren't perfect.
2006-12-05 22:44:51 · answer #8 · answered by regwoman123 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
okay, hun, listen.... you should never ever hold anything in!!! it sounds like you already tried discussing it with your father... sooo... try to write it down in a journal!!! sounds girly i know, but trust me... from previous experience.... it really does work!!!! i swear!!! write me back n e time... tell me if it works or not!!!!
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2006-12-05 22:12:50 · answer #9 · answered by Sea Otter!!!! 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
******* TELL HIM!!!
2006-12-05 22:05:45 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋