Three questions for parents and pregnant women?

Question

Breastmilk or formula?
Cry it out...yes or no?
Spanking or no spanking?

I'm just bored...my baby is at her grandma's house and my husband is bowling. Let's debate :-)

Answer 1

Formula

No

Rarely-and depends on the age of the child

PS Your baby is gorgeous

Answer 2

Breast milk is definitely best, however, under my circumstances, I had to give my baby formula- and he was perfectly healthy the entire time, not sick once.

I say no to crying it out- only because I knew with my son, there was always something wrong, it just took time to figure it out... either from being colicky the first 2 months, then teething and tummy aches here and there, or just needing mommy to hold him sometimes. But I feel if you can't handle the crying, you should put the baby safe in the crib after you've tried everything, and shut the door and give yourself a 10 min. break... nothing wrong with that- our doctors recommended that to keep you sane if you didn't have anyone else to help out.

I say no to spanking- it doesn't tell them why they are doing wrong. I feel there are better ways to handle the situation, yes spanking will scare the heck out of any child, but I don't think your child should be afraid of you. I was afraid of my mom- she back handed me with her ring hand in the face a couple of times, and smacked me a lot even when I didn't do anything wrong- my younger brother loved getting me into trouble, and without asking me if I had done something, my mom hit me. I don't think it's right. She could have sat me down and talked to me about it, and then found out I did nothing wrong.

I think everyone is different though, so I don't really judge others and what they do... unless it's abuse (as I feel was in my case with my mom), then there's a point where you shouldn't be spanking period and need to deal with your anger in a different way.

I let my son stay with my mom only a couple of weekends since he's been born- I just miss him too much- doesn't it feel empty? You need the break once in a while though, it really helps! :)

Answer 3

Breastmilk is ideal, but with all the advancements in formula, it's getting to the point where women who can't or choose not to breastfeed are still giving their babies good starts.

Cry it out? In what kind of situation? Depends on how old the baby is, and what you're trying to accomplish.

Spanking or no spanking - that's up to the parent to decide. However, too mich spanking will leave you with just spanking and never teaching right from wrong.

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Answer 4

Breastmilk if you have it, formula if the breastmilk dries out (they're making it better and better these days, so I wouldn't worry about it)

As a newborn, no, don't make the baby cry...that's just cruel...a little later when you know they're doing it on purpose, let 'em cry! They'll get over it.

As far as spanking goes: it depends on her age and what she's done...if it's something small, a tap on the hand or a good scolding...if it's something like hitting or almost causing bodily harm to herself, a good (not hard) whack to the butt and in the corner she goes! If you think you will hit her too hard or hurt her, it's best not to do it at all. Time out would be your best option.

Answer 5

breast milk all the way, if you can. it has been shown in numerous studies that it helps prevent so many things, like asthma! but it is every woman's choice and there are thousands of babies that are happy and healthy who have been formula fed from day one!

cry it out...i think it really depends on the age. newborn/infant...no...they cry for a reason. it's when they are old enough and are figuring out that they can just get your attention by screaming that i think they need to learn the positive ways to get your attention.

spanking...again this is to each his own. i was spanked, my husband was spanked. i dont see anything wrong with it IF you dont do it out of anger and i would (personally) not use an object. husband was paddled with a board as a child, he came out fine, but again, this is very personal and i think each parent has a right to choose. and then...i do see a lot of children these days who would probably benefit from a good whoopin'. and no, i'm not talking about abuse. two totally different things, and i will not debate about the subject.

Answer 6

Breastfed both of my kiddos and am planning on with this one, but do not look down on those who cannot for whatever reason.

Cry it out didn't ever work for us. My children would cry for over an hour if left to themselves. If they cried for more than 10 or 15 minutes (having been checked to make sure they were not hurting) than they got mommy!

Time outs do not alwasy work for my children. They do occasionally get spankings. Three swats with a wooden spoon on the fleshy part of their bottoms. My son also occasionally gets swatted on the hand (for things like opening the oven when it is turned on). And my daughter has been given an ever so slight pop (just enough to sting) on the mouth for backtalking. I was abused as a child and know that there is a fine line between abuse and discipline which is why I have set rules (such as three swats).

Answer 7

Breastmilk is better but I dont think theres anyting wrong with Formula

For crying it out that all depends on the age. When there real little then No but when there older and trying to get attention then Yes

Spanking is a big NO. If there doing something that could seriously hurt them, then a slap on the hand is fine.

Answer 8

Breastmilk .. cheaper, easier and better for baby

no to cry it out .. unless it is just 5 minutes or so .. when my babies cry it puts much more stress on me than I would feel by just going ahead and getting them'

Spankings - rarely .. only time I spank my three yr old is if he does something unthinkable .. which has been maybe once or twice ever.. Time outs and stern talkings work!!

Answer 9

Breastmilk,cry? sure,No spanking

Answer 10

1. breast milk
2. let them cry it out most of the time, they need to learn how to comfort themselves, but you also need to show them that you are there for them. This question for me is a fine line I have to fight all the time. I always want to hold my daughter when she starts to cry but I am getting better at letting her comfort herself
3. spanking only if the do something really bad, If every time they get in trouble you spank them, then it means a lot less. I believe make the punishment fit the crime.

Answer 11

Whichever works best for the mommy/child set

Crying it out? Only after 6 months-ish. When they're really little it can't teach them anything...but when they're older and just having a fit of temper tears I think it's just fine. I know my daughter has times when she doesn't want to eat, drink, be held, be put down, play, not play, anything! We usually just put her down to bed/nap (depending on the time) and within 10 minutes of alone time she's either asleep or fine and ready to be sociable again.

Spanking...in moderation. I don't think any punishment is effective if it's used constantly. Also time outs don't work for some children. I know my mother spanked me because even when she put me in time out somewhere there weren't any toys I'd find a sliver of paper or a shoe or just my own imagination to entertain myself and it wasn't really a punishment.

Quick do everything you usually want to do put can't!! LOL I think if I had absolute alone time I would "fun myself to death" trying to fit it all in before someone got home or dirtied something up again.