She doesn't know I'm Christian, and we've been going out for 1 1/2 years now, I can't let her burn in hell. She freaks out everytime I even mention anything that has anything to do with religion.
A good site giving intelligible insight, or something frightening. Don't recommend thetruthabouthell.com because I've already tried it (logged onto a mystery account and gave it to her) and people reject that site alot because they are being arogant assholes that think they know the answer to everything about life.
But I need something, anything, please.
2006-12-05 13:39:00 · 54 answers · asked by michael d 3 in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
Yeah, I've been showing signs here and there that I'm Christian, but I'm afraid she'd leave me.
2006-12-05 13:42:56 · update #1
If Jesus comes back soon for the reressurection of the Christ, could He then restore faith?
2006-12-05 13:47:19 · update #2
And I HAVE NOT LIED TO HER AT ALL ABOUT ANYTHING, I'm trying to ease her way into it, not freakin come out and say it. I've never lied to her about that or am really hiding it.
2006-12-05 13:49:07 · update #3
This is no question about respect of belief. This is a question about how to keep her out of Hell. For what would it benefit man if he were to gain the entire world and go to Hell? Eternal fire that is never quenched, eternal agony, and your worm dieth not, and the darkness and loneliness.
2006-12-05 13:56:05 · update #4
And yes, I do realize that the Bible says to not be equally yoked with unbelievers, but it is too late for me because I've already fallen in love, I didn't really become a Christian until a few months after I met her, and then I started reading the Bible. But I did believe in God long before.
2006-12-05 14:02:19 · update #5
I think I would rather you convert to something more sensible like Atheism rather than you try to convert her to a nut job religion like Christianity. I would really like to see the two of you go to Spiritualism so both of you would have a chance to know the REAL truth. Good luck.
2006-12-05 13:46:04 · answer #1 · answered by Tom B 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You have to be straight with her because I have been in a similar situation and you will never be truly happy with her because you are not being yourself. Christ would not have you be unequally yoked remember that verse in the Bible? I've tried it and it never works out. If you are not on the same level with someone spiritually it won't work. You can talk to her without shoving it down her throat. I've had to do it with friends and family alike and it's never easy for fear of rejection but I think of it this way...If Christ were standing right in your face and said to you I put this person in your life for a reason so what did you do to show her what I'm all about? That's the question we have to answer so I want to be able to say to him that I did my best and didn't chicken out for fear of rejection. Once you tell her how you feel all you can do is pray for her and give her some space because she's not going to take it all in at once. You can plant the seed but it's up to her what she ultimately chooses. God Bless
2006-12-05 14:01:40 · answer #2 · answered by Happychick 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Ok. religion isn't important why do you feel the need not to tell her you are a christian, you know that she's an atheist. Be a man.
Now, if she wants to leave you because you're christian that's her choice. You are the one who wants to change her because you're not happy with how she is. It's the same thing. Maybe she wants a fellow athiest like you want a fellow christian. Let it be. you need to accept the fact that there are other faiths. you believe in hell just as much as im sure she doesn't. you christians always believe that you're way is the only way and everyone else's faith is all lies and they need to be "saved" shes happy so leave her alone. if you're afraid she'll leave you, you obviously are worried, so you care. you just don't care enough to let her live. if you knew this was a problem you shouldn't have continued this relationship. personally, if my sig. other tried to convert me to something i didn't believe in, i'd leave his *** in a second.
just a few things to think about.
blessed be
2006-12-05 13:53:02 · answer #3 · answered by Amanda 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, it depends on how stubborn she is. You do know that your first mistake was not letting her know you were/are a Christian, right?
Well, everything happens for a reason. Have you thought of praying to God for a miracle or to guide you (that is, if you do believe)?
If she really loves you, as you love her enough to want to convert her, try talking to her.
To an atheist, we are just living organisms, we come-we go. But have an intelligent conversation with her about how living things cannot be synthesized from chemicals, how our process of thought works, how the world came to form in the first place.
Also, you need to talk to your pastor.
Look in the Bible for examples of how people found God. When something happens in your life, tell her that co-incidences are the works of God (because they really are. Everything happens for a reason. Maybe you met her so you can save her soul? Or she is here to test your faith in God).
Once again, if you truly believe, you will pray.
What does she have to loose anyway, its a win-win sitch.
PS: Its not a sin to be with a non-believer. You are in no place to judge, and you might think about letting her know about your faith.
2006-12-05 13:47:35 · answer #4 · answered by Shalltell 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Some people suggested praying for her, and that's good advice. You should take her to a non-denominational church, they can sometimes shed some light on a few things. I don't think you're trying to shove anything down her throat as someone suggested, but also keep in mind that if it's God's will she will see the light (I really believe that), just keep praying. Seriously.
*** OH! There's a bible called the "Evidence Bible" that literally debunks all arguments that athiests and others give about there not being a God and other arguments. Get one!
2006-12-05 13:45:03 · answer #5 · answered by Lori E 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
OK, I'm not religious so let me tell you from her point of view that religious people who try to convert others by telling them about how great their religion is or how awful hell is are extremely irritating, offensive and unsuccessful.
Having said that, many times throughout my life I have been absolutely awed by the grace of several religious people due to the way they LIVE their faith. They are the ones that have made their religion look appealing. I never converted for personal reasons, but I found new interest and respect for religion and learned a lot about myself and my spirituality and that of other people.
So my advice is to be honest with your girlfriend about your religion but don't try to pressure her or convert her. Instead, undertake the difficult task of living your faith with grace. You will be a model of your religion to her, and perhaps she will find your religion appealing because she sees the peace and grace it has brought your life and how you help other people.
If she expresses an interest in learning about your religion after that, teach her. If she doesn't, then probably hard-core conversion and stories of hell wouldn't have done any good any way.
2006-12-05 13:52:33 · answer #6 · answered by blahblah 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You know that thing about how some women seem to want to change a man to be what she wants, and that isn't a good thing? This, wanting to change her, is the SAME deal.
No offense, but no matter what you believe is her fate, wanting to change her is a serious disrespect.
If she really doesn't believe at all, a person can't just simply start believing in something they don't think is real. Seriously, could you make yourself believe that Santa is real if another person believes and is insisting that you believe to? I hate to say it, but you are not compatible in the long term. If you have to change a person, then you should not be with them, sorry.
2006-12-05 14:08:39 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Why in the world would you want to ruin that poor girl's life by trying to make her believe in fairy tales that she's obviously already outgrown? Yeah, real good thinking there: "I want to marry this girl so I'm going to try and get her to shut down her brain, stop doing any thinking, and pretend it's 2000 years ago so she'll believe in magic people in the sky, magic books written by ignorant sheep herders thousands of years ago, and lots of other superstitious nonsense for which there is no evidence of any kind." I don't think she's gonna go for the sales pitch, pal.
Here's an idea: why don't *you* start using your brain to do critical thinking, as it has evolved to be capable of, and realize the mass of evidence that makes your girlfriend RIGHT? Then you could throw off the shackles of mind control and idiotic nonsense trying to be passed as "science" that religions put out, and live happily ever in atheistic bliss with your obvsiously intelligent girlfriend, never having to worry about going to a hell that doesn't exist, or trying to explain away the thousands of factual errors and contradictions in the bible just because "my pastor says it's true." Trust me, you'll be much smarter, happier, and free -- and you'll finally be accepting truth rather than mythical fiction. Good luck.
2006-12-05 13:48:33 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
I agree with most of the others, prayer and your lifestyle do alot.
I have a friend who seems to think she is partially buddhist, even though she cant answer many questions i ask. Being that we are teens and she like is absesed with food, and no she is not fat lol. anyway any time there is games or food i invite her to church, not anymore though now that she has been around the church and stuff i hear little about this buddhism and more about her wanting to go to church on Wednesday. So maybe finding an interest of hers that is in the church and tell her she will like it and if she says she wont like it, well how would she know? she hasnt tried it.
2006-12-05 13:47:21 · answer #9 · answered by Cassandra H 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As a Christian you have been instructed by Christ to tell the good news that He has come to everyone. If you do not tell her, you are not doing His will but your own which clearly shows that your relationship with her is out of lust and selfishness and not the love that Jesus taught. Unless you are willing to be open about your faith you will continue to run into these problems.
Some people will reject God regardless of what you do, only they can let the Spirit into their life and let Him lead them in their faith. You can do nothing but preach the Word and hope someone listens.
2006-12-05 13:48:08 · answer #10 · answered by phoenix_slayer2001uk 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Im Christian but y would u want to make ur gf believe something she doesnt ok if u want to convert her tell her ur point of view show her situations in ur life and others lives that involve something bigger than u explain to her what God is and the reward it is to believe in him i got off track for a while and i started praying again and my lifes awesome whatever u dont force her into it that could make her resist God u and ur relationship
2006-12-05 13:45:50 · answer #11 · answered by Lilone 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋