If you exchange flirtatious emails with someone other than your boyfriend, is that considered cheating?

Question

What if the emails were erotic in nature, and they turned you on...is that wrong?

sweet143, you're saying looking at a person who is amazingly hot and thinking about what he would be like in bed is cheating? Wow this is an ultraconservative crowd!! LOL

Answer 1

My boyfriend and I are going through something like this right now. My response to him when I found out that he had been exchanging flirtatious e-mails with a co-worker was this: "If you are doing something that you feel for any reason you need to hide from your mate cause they would get upset about it then it is a form of being unfaithful!"

Answer 2

Yes and Yes. I am not saying I have never done it, I think most humans have at one time or another but it is still wrong. Ofcourse it depends upon your core of ethics. If you have a judeo-christian moral outlook as I do, than it go to the principle, if you look upon a woman with lust in your HEART than you have already committed adultery with her in your heart.(matt 5:27). The same principle would apply here. If you email as if you were actually doing it then in God's eyes you are doing it and its just as bad. In the case that you are not a person of faith than truth, righteousness is all relative and it would come down to what you decided was right or wrong. thx

Answer 3

There's no absolute answer, it does depend on the couple. The boyfriend may not be the type to worry about her emails. Or she may share that she does flirt, offline or online, and the boyfriend may accept it or not. It all depends on the people.

I don't think that lusting after another in our mind constitutes cheating, though. Those are biological reactions to sensory receptors. What are we supposed to do, turn off our senses? It's a fine line.

I think jenjen and zotzot (whoa -- double names! are they related?) are on the right track.

PS - Why haven't I gotten any of these emails? :-P

Answer 4

In answer to the first question, that depend son who you ask. I personally vote yes. I would be furious and probably seriously question our relationship if it turned out my boyfriend was exchanging flirtatious e-mail with someone else behind my back.

In answer to your second question, i think the answer is undisputably yes.

Answer 5

i could be particularly coronary heart-broken if I have been to come back upon intimate digital mail shared between my spouse and a random cyber web stranger.... it would not fall under the comparable class as bodily cheating, yet the two categories could bring about particularly a lot the comparable effect.... a divorced mom of two.

Answer 6

yessssss! it is cheatin. cheatin is not just physical action with someone other then ur partner. A person cheats just by lookin at someone else with desire, or losin off of them. so that what u r doin is premeditate cheatin and u should stop b/c what goes around come right back to bite u. And like they say pay back is a *********. think about it.

Answer 7

It is cheating only if it involves deception or lies. If your bf knows about it and is OK with it then it is not cheating. However, if you go out of your way to hide it from him, then yes it is definitely cheating.

Answer 8

Well literally its not cheating...
But it is playing... playing with your boyfriends feelings, and playing with however is on the net...

Find something else to turn you on....

Answer 9

That is cheating... in a cybersexual way..... and if you are in a monogamous relationship, yes.

Answer 10

without doubt