Family Problem....?

Question

OK, this is a long story, so be prepared. My name is Jacob and I have a pretty ****** up life. We have lots of money, but like people say,"Money can't make people happy."This is extremely TRUE.Take a look at this chart... Pay CLOSE ATTENTION (start at "Tension Building") TO IT because this is a KEY part to my problem. Go here: http://i65.photobucket.com/albums/h225/jkwilson93/DV-cycle.gif Seen it? Good. In my situation, I do not like my dad. He's 64. I'm 13. My mom is 54. He's qalways grunting and talking to himself which annoys the hell outta me. I cant look at porn but he used to.(Im going to run out of text so go here to read the rest: (Page 1:http://i65.photobucket.com/albums/h225/jkwilson93/familyproblems.jpg

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Thanks.

Answer 1

Jacob, you sound like a really smart kid. Just so you know, a child is not the abuser as long as treat your father with respect. Now with that said, yes, you should let a guidance counselor know about your problems at home. If you feel that you can't handle it, you can certainly tell CPS. You should go to counseling! Even if it's just to get the burden of what's going on off your shoulders because it's bothering you so badly. I don't really have advice for your situation, I wasn't really the best "negotiator" in my family, I fought with my mom a lot, which of course I regret now, but that's just how it was. I really really hope you find some peace. Best of luck to you!

Answer 2

My heart aches for you hon. YOU ARE NOT at fault. Your father needs help going to a counselor is a great start. This will take a long time to get over. Please know that just because there are facts that abuse "runs in the family" does not mean that you will follow that pattern. You know that it is wrong and you don't have to follow that path.

Your school should have a social worker that you can talk to that can help you work through your problems. You should also go to the counselor that your mom set up for you. You need to talk to someone about what is going on because if you don't deal with it now, you may have a hard time when you are older whether it's with relationships, jobs or anywhere else your life will take you.

Don't listen to the other jerks in the room, you need to talk to someone and your whole family needs help. Until you can get the help that you need, I would recommend staying out of your dad's way.

Good Luck!! :)

Answer 3

I read what you wrote a few times before I decided to answer your question, I wanted to make sure I was reading it right.
Yoy want to know who the abuser is, right? Well you won't like this answer, so you might want to stop reading here.
You son are the abuser. You said your Dad was rude to you, your friends and your Mom. Well, your Mom is a lot older than you and if she wants to put up with it that's her business, you on the other hand have NO right to elbow, sock or push him. You NEVER gave one example of his abuse towards you or your Mom other than he's rude. Well being rude is not abuse. I have a feeling your one spoiled kid. One of the first things you said was "We have lots of money" well you don't, your a kid and I doubt you earn lots of money. That is your Mom and Dad's money. You said your Dad made you sell your "kid" stuff. Well who bought it? And didn't he just want half? Pretty generous if you ask me. Most parents sell the stuff and keep all the money or donate it. And your mouth. If one of my kids had ever ( or did today as adults) used that language with me I'd slap them silly. You show no respect at all. I hope for your Mom's sake that she does go talk to someone and is 100% honest with them and learns to put you in your place. You call her your Savior, well sounds like she's your Dad's Savior from your letter. IF your Dad is really ABUSING YOU or your Mom, call 911, but it had better be for real or you'll be in big trouble

Answer 4

Okay, to all you people.....
you cant really answer this question. because you dont really know Jacob.
I do.
Im his best friend.
And let me just say,
that I have heard on more than one occasion about there fights.
His mom is in fact one of the people saving him from fights.
And I think that Jaocb and his family should get conceling.
And he should talk to the Valley Oak phsycologist about this.
So they can get you and your dad help.
I love you Jacob!
So be careful with yourself.
<3 love always, Tk Massacre.
And he doesnt need to watch his mouth smiley_1
its a free country damn..........

Answer 5

dear Jacob, i am truly sorry for you . i do believe you are the victim here ,you are only 13. have you tried speaking with your mom privately? perhaps she is afraid of your father. i would definatly find someone proffesional to talk to or at the very least speak to another adult that you trust. in the meantime, do your best to control your anger and don't go out of your way to piss off your dad. it will only make things more difficult for you and your mom. best of luck to you. i really hope this all works out.

Answer 6

I recommened going to a family therapist

Answer 7

sorry hon, but I can't read all of that and go to the links.. I would suggest going to a forum where people read longer things and you can type it all out...

Answer 8

your 13. i think you need your mouth wahed out with soap.

Answer 9

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