I've been dating a guy for a month that I like a lot and I think we just broke up today!!! I was pushing for a r/ship or at least trying to find out where our r/ship stands and he got weird. So I got kind of psycho and broke it off with him. Then he got honest with me and said there is an obvious physical attraction between us (THERE IS!!!) but he doesn't think we are compatible in other ways. The problem is, I think we are, it's just I like him so much I get kind of nervous and clam up around him. This has happened to me before in the past too with other r/ships. Well now I think I ruined it with him because I got psycho when he didn't agree to having a r/ship. What do I do??? What do you think he is thinking? Is it just an excuse because he really doesn't want a r/ship with me? The sex between us is phenomenal, by the way. Thanks!!!!!!
2006-12-05 13:25:53 · 11 answers · asked by bellyyo62 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Well...firstly, nothing's wrong with you, this happens to a lot of people. Secondly, look, if he doesn't want a relationship with you, then you have to be honest with him. Tell him that you only broke up with him because you thought that he doesn't want you. If you think you two are compatible, then tell him that. If he doesn't agree with you, then he obviously isn't good enough for you. If you can have sex with him, if you can tell your whole problem to the Internet, you can tell him that you think that you two would be a good couple.
2006-12-05 13:29:46 · answer #1 · answered by treerose810 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try to talk to him and tell him what you are telling us here. If he doesn't think you guys are compatible on another level (other than sex and physical attraction) then it's not going to work. Maybe you should have waited before having sex, because he really had no reason to commit to you if he was already getting some. That might have turned the relationship into something purely physical.
Good Luck.
2006-12-05 21:30:00 · answer #2 · answered by xo0ox143 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
my advice is instead of backing him into a wall with relationship mentions, just let it build and happen....
Many people find it scary the thought of getting tied down, but if it just builds to that point it is much more graceful. however, if forced, many people will simply get out.
Take time honey, chances are you or him are not going to die, and getting married to tomorrow should not be the priority. A relationship is built on trust, respect and understand of each others feelings, wants, and needs. The thought of love for life is awesome, but forcing the issue will certainly backfire as it has for you today. It will happen for you, but you have to let it happen.
Good luck, and remember patience is truly a wonderful thing.
2006-12-05 21:28:39 · answer #3 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
write a letter to him explaining how & why you get nervous around him, tell him you think oyu can be compatable & ask him if he's willling to give it a try, leave the ball in his court, keep in mind he may be having phenominal sex with someone else too & he may not be willing to give that up which may be te reason he is unwilling to commit to a serious relationship, the compatability thing may just be an excuse
2006-12-05 21:42:30 · answer #4 · answered by mathyu 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's just using you for Sex. STOP! I've been there done that. Its true just because you say you have great sex does not mean you both are good for a relationship.
You best listen to what he says. He does not see you for anything more than that. You will drive yourself nuts. You sound like you are in a one sided relationship.
If things are meant to be it will.
2006-12-05 21:32:35 · answer #5 · answered by homesweethomediana@sbcglobal.net 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
so this guy doesn't want to be in a relationship with you, basically all he wants is to have fun w/ you right??? well i think if this is what he wants and not you then its not going to work out. What's the point of being with him if he doesn't consider it a relationship....i mean all he's going to do is mess around with other girls too and well that's obviously something u dont want...Dont worry about it..let him go its not like he's the last man in the world...sometimes you have to be patient with these things...if it doesn't work out dont stress out about it, theres nothing you can do anyway....guys like that most likely wont ever settle dont so dont even bother with them....
2006-12-05 21:30:21 · answer #6 · answered by Buttercup 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is probably thinking hmm this girl is a total freak! you need to chill girl. Calm down or you are never going to hang on to a guy.
You can try telling him that you just freaked out because you like him so much and you were afraid to loose him.
good luck with that
2006-12-05 21:30:10 · answer #7 · answered by Atllas 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you need to get yourself together first, because it seems to be affecting your relationships. Realize that you don't need him anyway, because he sounds like he's been with you just for the sex.
2006-12-05 21:29:36 · answer #8 · answered by tweety 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think he doesn't want anything to do with you. it might just be a sex only thing.
seriously, there are 6.5 billion people in this world, only half are married, so theres another guy out there that likes your pyscho attributes.
2006-12-05 21:28:45 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think that he was just scared. most guys split at any sound of commitment.
2006-12-05 21:29:17 · answer #10 · answered by supercool5788 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋