If you have a boyfriend....but your friend wants you to get together with another guy that asked you out cuz she thinks thats what is best....(she hates my boyfriend) but the only thing is she already has a boyfriend so she must not want mine for herself... what do i do??
2006-12-05 13:13:14 · 14 answers · asked by brown_eyed _blondie 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Do what YOU want to do.. not what she thinks.. She might not be around after you dump your boyfriend.. then you'll be all alone.. unless he is absolutely evil towards you follow what your heart says.. not hers..
2006-12-05 13:17:41 · answer #1 · answered by lilmisscantbewrong 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's real easy........do what makes YOU happy. If nothing is wrong in your current relationship, why end it for other people's satisfaction? Even though your friend may not like your boyfriend, that's her problem - not yours. You live your life how YOU want to live it. You can't please everybody - you can't make everybody happy. But you CAN make YOU happy. If you ditched your boyfriend because your friend doesn't like him - what if one day, she decides she doesn't like the one she hooked you up with - anymore? Then what? No. What if you didn't like HER boyfriend? Do you think she would dump him too? It doesn't work like that. You can nicely tell your friend that you appreciate her concern - but if nothing is wrong with the guy your with now - then keep that. Oh, and another thing......just because she already has a boyfriend.....that doesn't mean anything either. People do A LOT of things to play stuff off. There IS the possibility that she may have something for your boyfriend and her "boyfriend" may be just someone she knows and is like, playing along to make you think one thing...when really, there is a lot more going on than you think. I've seen that happen before and it didn't turn out pretty if you get my meaning. You live for YOU - not for anyone else.
2006-12-05 21:31:59 · answer #2 · answered by apache_lizz 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well...That is a good question.
The thing is... it is you and your life.Do you love the one you are with now.Does he love you?Do you both respect and treat each other right?There are alot of questions you have to ask yourself.Also does she not like the b/f you have now cause you are both happy and have everything going for the both of you and she may be jealous,or do other ppl side with her?
It all depends in the situation.It all depends in how you feel at this point and in your current relationship.If you have been having doubts and not completely happy it may be something you want to consider,but,if that is the case you do not want to jump into something right away as you will be on "rebound" and not given yourself enough time for you.You will be filled with confussion and emotion and it is not fair to anyone.
How do you feel about this?...(obviously you at the least feel flatered about another guy liking you interested in you ).How well do you know this other guy?How well does your friend know this other guy?Is the other guy even interested or is it just a match making thing and hope for the best.?
If you are happy,in love,respected and treated right why let that all go...for what?perhaps,maybe's,what if's it will make my friend happy...that is not enough.
All I can say is that if you are happy keep it.If not you may want to consider the break but take time for you to clear your head/thoughts,straighten out your emotions and figure out what you truly want and are looking for,then maybe get to know the other guy and see if it can go where or if he is someone you would want or looking for.
Your friends have their own lives and they will live it as they wish friends come and go as we all do life sometimes move us in oppisite directions but true love is for ever.
I hope this helps alittle as you do not give alot of details.
Just remember to follow your heart and what you want
good luck
2006-12-05 21:50:46 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you and your boyfriend truly have something then dont mess this up, but if your friend has a boyfriend then she must not like yours for some reason. If she has a really good reason for not liking him and she is really a dear friend to you, you might want to look at that situation first. but if everything is fine then dont go, and if you do, let it just be a friendly thing.
2006-12-05 21:18:05 · answer #4 · answered by mizz_toree 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell your friend that while you appreciate her thinking about your happiness, you're entitled to date who you think will make you happy, and if you're wrong about him, you hope that she'll be a good enough friend to see you through the hard times.
You're the one who is dating your boyfriend. You know if he's right for you or not. Don't let her make up your mind for you.
2006-12-05 21:17:11 · answer #5 · answered by mikah_smiles 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it depends if you like ur current boyfriend or not.
if you dont rlly like him-and you do like the new guy ur friend is introducing to u-then go out with the new guy-just MAKE SURE your old boyfriend wont be terribly hurt.
this is pretty tricky.
good luck!
2006-12-05 21:17:38 · answer #6 · answered by skiingymnast93 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ignore her. You obviously love your boyfriend, so there's no need to dump him just because your friend told you to.
2006-12-05 23:48:13 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your friends are not always right. She probably hates him because they're not compatible, but that's got nothing to do with you and your man.
2006-12-05 21:15:34 · answer #8 · answered by ßαßε 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Stay with your boyfriend.
2006-12-05 21:16:25 · answer #9 · answered by Stephanie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
do whatever you feel is best. it isnt her who is going out with the guy its you. so whatever makes you happy you should do!
2006-12-05 21:16:08 · answer #10 · answered by courtney5839 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋