My boyfriend of over a year has lied to me about going to a club with three chicks. he says he is so sorry and sent me the biggest bunch of flowers ever but then lied to me again! once again he is begging forgiveness. we have just bought a house together? should i except he is willing to change or move on?
2006-12-05 12:57:58 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
you know the answer to this question, he's imature, dump him unless you are willing to share him. Is he willing to share you. Find out !
2006-12-05 13:02:01 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I usually give long answers to people because some situations, I believe call for good thought provoking replies from people who are responding...In your case, I don't think I need to devote a lot of time, because I really don't think you ought to give it any more time yourself...I think you should do yourself the favor of taking a bow and junping off the stage...if not you will continue to be a puppet in someone else's play about how they want to live their lives and not giving much consideraton to how you want to be and should be treated in you life...you deserve loyalty, respect and truthfulness...none of which you are getting...you know the song by Elton John "Sorry Seems To Be The Hardest Word" is not necessarily the case for some prople...it is rather the easiest word because it comes to their mouth just as easy as a lie...face it, a leopard does not change its spots...if you really like this guy and are willing to put up with a life of what you now have with him, that's ok...if not, tell him the puppet position is now vacant and to start interviewing for dummies, because this dummy found it's brain...(just a little humor to help you smile in your diofficult time)...I wish you the best...hope this helps you.
2006-12-05 21:10:48 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
To me once a liar always a liar and he seems to have a little nasty habit of lying all the time and then turn around asking for forgiveness. I would say move on because who knows what else he is lying about? But if you really do love him and you want to stick around and deal with it by all means do that.You can't change from lying all the time he have to willing to change and stop lying.
2006-12-05 21:04:46 · answer #3 · answered by Vilady5 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Give up on this relationship. Giving from a guy point of view.
If this guy cheat on you once, there bound to be more cheating in the future.
If a guy cheat on you, it only prove one thing, he only take you as a subsititue. He think he might still have a chance with other chicks so he is waiting for them, secretly cheating behind your back in case he got lucky and found another prettier gf.
Trust me, he wont change.
2006-12-05 21:07:37 · answer #4 · answered by Kean K 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i would not tell u to move on it is actually up to u. but consider this, he lied to u once and he begged even buy his way back to ur trust. he lie again u tell me does he sounds like he is goin to change. changing is knowing about ur first mistake and try ur best to never make it again, but obviously he didn't care. so he go do the same thing again. think bout all the other days he is goin to lie to u when u let him get away with his nonsense. now u tell me if he is sincere or not.
2006-12-05 21:11:14 · answer #5 · answered by sweet143 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Move on! If you just bought a new house then you are not that financially tied to him yet. As I have learned from my cousin's experience, once a liar always a liar!! Also, another saying comes to mind... lie to me once, shame on you; lie to me twice, shame on me!! Guys don't change! If the flowers fixed it the first time, he thinks that money will fix everything. Good Luck!
2006-12-05 21:04:24 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well as God forgives us so many times who are we not to forgive.being that he is really begging for,forgiveness maybe he really means it this time.I say give him one more time,also being that you both just bought a house. but do let him know that because you love him you are giving him this one last time and if he does it again house or no house you will be moving on.hope and pray it works for you.
2006-12-05 21:14:32 · answer #7 · answered by BABY GIRL 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
shoot i had a girlfriend who was the same way. unfortunately they never really change. Most likely he'll get worse as your relationship continues. why be with someone who you will always second guess. most likely he's probably done stuff with at least one of the girls as well. he sounds like a chronic liar, they are the worse.
if he really valued you, he would bring you to the club with the other girls. if you don't know these girls or he doesn't introduce you to them then you definitely know that this relationship is worthless. cut your losses and move on
2006-12-05 21:01:47 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Move on girl. He shouldn't be lying about things like that. He might be asking if you want to move in with him, because he felt really guilty. He already disrespected you twice, you know he will definetley disrespect you again and keep doing it, because he would have you trapped in the same house.
2006-12-05 21:04:25 · answer #9 · answered by tweety 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
YOU SHOULDNT EXCEPT IT BUT IF U REALLY LOVE HIM AND IF HE REALLY WORTH IT 2 U THEN THE CHOICE IS YOURS U GOTTA REALLY THINK WILL HE LIE 2 ME AGAIN...SEE I LIKE GIVING PEOPLE CHANCES BUT NOT ANYMORE IM LIKE A BASEBALL GAME 3 STRIKES AND YOUR OUT!!!!!!!!!!!!BUT YEA U GOTTA REALLY THINK THOUGH AND YALL BROUGHT A HOUSE 2GETHER AND IF U GOT A GOOD MAN AND DATZ DA ONLY TIMES HE EVER LIED 2 U THEN KEEP HIM THE PRICE IS RIGHT I MEAN SURE HE LIED 2 U BUT WHO DONT LIE U GET ME SO WATEVA THE CHOICE IS YOURS!!!!!!!!!!!
2006-12-05 21:15:47 · answer #10 · answered by lilgivaris88 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Move on. Why getting yourself into this mess. There are a lot of nice guys out there, who would appreciate you more. Dont make yourself too depress.
2006-12-05 21:02:42 · answer #11 · answered by ♥♥Pro♥♥ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋