What are wrong with parents these days?

Question

Okay what is wrong with all these parents who don't spank their children?they say they talking to them,taking away the telephone or computer or video games.And OMG some parents even give their kids "time out".What happened to spankings?Nothing works better than that.Can't they see that nothing else works as good if it works at all.And when your kids get to old for spankings (14-18) slap 'em.Cuz at teen age taking away a couple luxurious privileges ain't doin nothing either.White people these days.uhhhh.tell me what is up with parents who resent in spanking thier children?

Answer 1

I totally feel you on this. I wonder myself. I have 2 children that rarely get spankings even though I grew up getting them from my parents. I have to tell you, though, my son has had 2 spankings at school this school year. I thought that was illegal. Of course it doesn't bother me for them to do it so it's ok. If he needs it then I say go for it. I do wonder, though, why they didn't get my permission beforehand just in case I was a parent that would go crazy on them.

Answer 2

Most parents "these days" still spank...

and if you have to start slapping them across the face as teens, clearly the spankings you gave them earlier didn't work. Shouldn't a kid behave better and know right from wrong more and more as they get older? If you STILL can't control them without physical discipline when they are teens, you have a problem. But that's what happens when you rely on smacking them around and beating them into submission when they're smaller. Not that I'm totally against spanking, but it should only be the last resort. The other forms of discipline you listed can still be used in conjunction. Spanking for every little thing WILL backfire.

Answer 3

I totally agree with you, with the exception of the slapping across the face. All spanking must be done on the bottom. As long as the parents are not in a temper, and have cooled off. A good old fashioned spanking can be very productive. On the bottom, never leaving a permanent marks like a bruise, and done in a calm manner, I don't care how parents spank (paddles, pants down, what ever works) as long as the above mentioned are followed. I agree with you though, spanking works! We try other methods first, these other methods serve as a warning to shape up or ship over my knee.

Answer 4

I do not believe that only "white" people do not spank their children. But as for your statement and question....... alternative punishments have come about from harsh treatment adults afflicted on their children as a result of the harsh treatments they received as children.

Child abuse is more rampant these days. Children being locked in cages like dogs and children left alone for 8 days with no food or adult supervision.

Parents strive to give their children too much these days.Ipods are handed out like candy but when the child misbehaves the reward is taken away. What they fail to realize is the toy or gadget did not mean that much to begin with cause it was not earned.

Spanking is necessary but not only by white parents.

Answer 5

The problem is that people who don't think kids should be spanked got lawmakers to pass laws that all but take away a parents responsibility. They limit what a parent can do as far as punishing a child. If you spank the kid its physical abuse and if you make them mad,its mental abuse.
I don't know what they teach in school now,but when my son was in elementary school,they taught the kids that they didn't have to do what the parents told them to do and gave them a number to call if the parents didn't let the kids have their way.
Once you get turned in,you have to prove your innocence and then it is kept on file for so long just in case another complaint is filed against you.
In 1982,I watched a talk show with parents who were turned in for child abuse.
One woman was turned in because she made her child return stolen merchandise to the store,apologize for stealing and pay for it,but not allow the child to come home with the item.
Another couple was charged with molesting their children,after a long investigation that cleared them,they found out that the children had been molested by the foster parents.
Child psychologists have even told delivery room doctors not to spank newborns because it made them angry and caused them to have severe emotional problems later in life.
Another story said a lot of kids had wished their parents had been more strict with them and spank them when they needed it.

Answer 6

people think that its violent ... these are probably the people who were the worst kids ever and got spanked a lot!! I was spanked or threatened a spanking as a child and boy did I learn not to sass my parents and/or act up ...

where i work it seems to be all the races ... some ignore thier children ... they just had them for the money the gov't will give them and some have them and have them and then they just let other people raise them ...

i'm for spanking ... when it is warranted, not out of anger ... but to show a child NO ... and I agree children today need one very badly!! (but so do the parents)

Answer 7

I agree with you. My son had xbox live (he is in his early 20's) and he would go live to play with a buddy of his that was several states away. There were other players--that my son and his friend did not know and some of the talk was unbelievable. I could tell from the voices these kids were probably not even in their teens yet (a few even admitted as much). Where are their parents?

Answer 8

Kids today have way too much and don't do anything to get those things. Parents today don't want to be uncool and want to be their kids friends. Me and my wife don't have children, but we have a lot of nieces and nephews. I'll be damned if any of them are disrespectful or stepping out of line. Too many children have no respect for authority. When teachers are cursed out and parents allow this, what are we to expect. I promise you that I would have gotten my teeth knocked out if I did what these kids are doing today.
Also, at least in New York, corporal punishment is permissible. As long as you don't bloody or bruise your kids, a slap or spanking is fine. NEVER be afraid of your kids. I would go to jail before any of my children disrespect me or my wife.

Answer 9

I agree with you, but that doesn't mean other people won't. Just depends on the kid and the parent. That being said, my mom beat my a** when I was rotten, and I deserved every bit of it. I turned out just fine, I am not hiding bodies in my basement or anything. When I got swatted, I knew she meant business. Sometimes, taking stuff away and grounding just doesn't work. That is just my opinion though, I am sure others will disagree.

Answer 10

God! I know what you mean! A good friend of mine recently moved here from a state where if you look at your child sideways they'll (the state) yank 'em away. Here, in the South, we spank our kids...we even do it in Wal-mart with crowd of onlookers. Now, don't get me wrong, I don't beat my kids, but when they need to be "reminded" not to mouth off to strangers, or not to pick the cat up by her hair, I'll be more than HAPPY to oblige.

I went to Maine a couple Christmases ago, and while in Wal-mart (yes.. I shop there a lot) my 6 year old daughter told some lady to "get the hell out of her way"... so I smacked her bottom and told her to never talk that way to another person...that SAME lady lectured me on how to raise my child....go figure!

The friend of mine who moved here is in a sad predicament. Her teenaged daughter didn't want to move to VA, so she told her teacher that she was being abused (even though she wasn't)...my friend hasn't seen her since...it's been more than 2 years. The State of Maine has given this 12 year old girl more rights than her mother, and is constantly being given her own way... I'm sorry, but if I'd done that at her age, my mamma would've taken me back behind the wood shed and splintered my butt!

Now, I'm not downing "time outs"... they do work when used appropriately (down here, it's not "time out" but time in the corner...I've got a nice one that is slowly being freed of its wallpaper) But, when a spanking is needed, I say "use it".
Hurah for spankins