Heyif any one can give me a good answer I need help with my feelings I kinda of like this guy but I don't want to put all my trust in him I have a hard time trusting people but I really like him I don't mind the thought of having sex I never had it before so I am like not wanting to i know he wants to do it and I am not so sure I don't want to get hurt and evrey one says your first time hurts is that true
2006-12-05 12:49:19 · 18 answers · asked by girly girl 2 in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
Yes yes and yes. Go ahead a do it and learn to be EZ or slow down and wait to find a guy who respects you and treats you good. Then you'll really appreciate your first time.
2006-12-05 12:51:23 · answer #1 · answered by Rez 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I support what Elis says; the design for sex is within a marriage. Sex outside of marriage is dangerous, you are giving away part of yourself and you will not get to take it back. It will absolutely hurt, I guarantee the emotional pain will by far exceed the physical discomfort.
You asked this in religion & spirituality so I'll answer accordingly: God has given you free will...the power to make your own decisions. He certainly does have a design and a plan for your life but He will not force His will upon you. The choices you make carry consequences: if you choose to follow God's design He will have blessings for you like a satisfying relationship with your spouse. If you follow the worldly philosophy of "do what feels good now" then you will reap what the world has to offer which is obvious everywhere you look: pain, suffering and separation from God's perfect plan for you. Stay strong and treat yourself right!
2006-12-05 22:01:11 · answer #2 · answered by Irish 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is different for everyone, It's not an unbearable pain it kind of feel good but it aches a little, and it depends on how big the guys penis is, but just to shed some true light on the situation, have the physical part of sex is not the only way you can get hurt. their is the emotional side of it. and I think if you get hurt that way it is worst so just be careful. sex is not like the movies it's not gonna make the guy fall head over heels for you, He could have sex with you today and have sex with someone else tomorrow, it is defiantly not a way to get or keep a man. If it was me I would make him fall in love with my mind first. That is the real way to keep or get a man. because when a man gets bored with he sex ( and they will) what else will be there to keep his interest. If he loves your mind that is something he will never loose interest in.
2006-12-05 20:57:12 · answer #3 · answered by Proverbs 31 women 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
To be honest with you.....it is better to wait until you're married for sex. Never "prove your love" or get pressured into sex. If you don't want to put your trust in this guy, then there's probably a reason for this....a gut feeling. He may not be a good guy. The best advice I can tell you is for you to take your time with this. Don't be in a hurry, don't make snap decisions. Best of luck to you..........
2006-12-05 20:59:22 · answer #4 · answered by cajunrescuemedic 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It hurts most girls the first time. You shouldn't be worried about the physical pain, though. You say you "kinda like" this guy. I think you should save yourself for someone special. Trust me it is not losing your virginity. Like they say when in doubt, don't put out.
2006-12-05 20:52:47 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He may be a player and have sex with you and dump you. God says that it is a sin to have sex before marriage because he is like our heavenly father and he puts those rules in front of us to protect us from things like aids, herpes, warts, pregnancy heart break, and also giving a guy a piece of your heart that you will never get back. Please wait until your married and don't listen to what the world says.
2006-12-05 21:04:42 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
my advice is to take things slow for a while to make sure he has feelings for you. let him make the first move. that way you will know if he likes you.i dont know how long you have known him but takethe time to get to know him, get to see the real him before you jump in. see how he acts around other people. is he a great guy. how does he treat you. the main thing is to gain his respect.dont give yourself to him if he really likes you he will wait till your ready. its usually after that when it changes. so be careful. good luck
2006-12-05 21:00:59 · answer #7 · answered by candy cane 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hurts like hell. I'm 22 and had sex for the first time recently. Hurts like hell.
PS Don't be afraid to use punctuation.
2006-12-05 20:51:27 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your hesitation suggests to me that you are not ready. get to know this guy as a friend, maybe even a boyfriend. But that does NOT mean you are required or obligated to have sex with him or give him all of your trust.
Blessed Be
2006-12-05 20:57:13 · answer #9 · answered by Celestian Vega 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The only thing I can say to you is never have sex outside of marriage! It ruins the relationship completely. Espacially if/when you end up breaking up.
2006-12-05 20:52:27 · answer #10 · answered by sashromancefreak 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋