My boyfriend and I took a break because we lost our individuality in the 'us'. I have already felt like he's gone and because of that i realized how much i really did love him. I know he loves me back because i can tell it's there but he thinks i'm still here and I'm not. He hasn't felt as if he's lost me. It's like i'm his safety net and i really want him to feel that lost feeling to help him realize how much he loves me and how to "figure things out because i want to make sure i can take this next step". We had been dating for a year, but 5 months in some thing told us that we were meant for each other. Help me. I'm so confused and lonely.
2006-12-05 12:42:16 · 18 answers · asked by MickeyD 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I'm so sorry but you can't make someone realize how important you are, he needs to realize it himself.
And sometimes, they never realize it.
2006-12-05 12:45:21 · answer #1 · answered by Yeah. 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I guess for this my advice would be to be a little less available. Go out with friends, be busy, don't call and IM or text him...EVER. Let him come to you. If you see him out be friendly but get rid of the puppy dog look you give him that shows how much you miss him. Get on with your life.
But another word of advice, stop with the game playing. Don't scheme or plan or manipulate. That is not what I am saying. Right now you are not together, at his choice it sounds like. Behave like you are mature and confident enough to understand and respect that. If he really loves you and you aren't just a habit then he will come back, but you really need to think about why he needed a break if everything is so great. Usually people take a break if there is something they are having trouble accepting about the other person or relationship, or if there is someone else. Really look around and see what is going on.
Good luck
2006-12-05 12:50:36 · answer #2 · answered by micheletmoore 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Obviously you have given him or are giving him the impression that he has not lost you and he feels he can count on you even if he chooses to date someone else. In other words he is taking you for granted. Don't think that you know how he feels because you don't and he doesn't know how you feel but believes you will never leave him. The thing to do is to tell him that you want to date other people and you want him to date other people as well. Then just walk off. If he really loves you he won't let you get very far until he runs up to you and begs you not to date others.
2006-12-05 12:48:40 · answer #3 · answered by Lewis P 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry, I'm only going with what little you have told me here but if you two are already "taking a break" after only dating one year, that does NOT sound good in my book.
This kind of thing, trying to make someone "feel" a certain way, is a mind game and always backfires.
Leave the man alone. If he does miss you ,he'll come back without any help from you. If he doesn't , it will hurt, but you are better off that way.
My apologies is this sounds harsh.
2006-12-05 12:46:45 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yeah. That's one of the biggest differences between men and women. Men are self-sufficient and complete in ourselves. Women are not. There is nothing you can do to make him feel the way that you do. And, if you could, he wouldn't be a man. He'd be a woman.
Quite frankly, your idea for a break was stupid, especially from your point of view. Instead of trying to play manipulative little games, suck it up and admit to yourself it was a mistake. Then approach your boyfriend directly (being direct, open and honest with men at all times is the most successful way of dealing with any man) and tell him you've changed your mind. Ten minutes later, things will be back the way they were as if you never separated.
Concentrate your effort on having a healthy and happy relationship. Instead of trying to manipulate your man, focus on getting what you want. If you want something, ask for it. Nine times out of ten, he will happily give it to you.
2006-12-05 12:47:46 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i believe that things will work out if the realations were meant to be, however, for me all i did was think about the person ask god where is he an boom. we be walking down the same street. he was walking up the way and i was walking down the way. many times this happened. it was god send for us to meet in that way. why the other person ask god the same Q most likely at the same given time. when this happens don't ignore the moment. find a quiet place to sit down an talk. no monkey business or the situation will get worse if your not careful. just work on yourself an yet manage working on the us part by taking time out from simon says an talk with each other in order to feel the connection between the two of you. notice the little things for they'er the moments you'll treasure the most. become friends completely before the monkey business takes place. it will inhance the realationship through a greater level you could ever imagine. G.L.
2006-12-05 12:59:36 · answer #6 · answered by Lisa C 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-03-13 03:50:33 · answer #7 · answered by Ellen 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you want him to realize that he has lost you, you will need to no longer act like his girlfriend. Make sure not to give him the privledges that a boyfriend would normally have. If at all possible...leave him alone. Let him know that if he doesn't want to be with you that you will have to move on and not waste your time with him anymore. Let him know that you are not trying to be mean but it is just to hard for you to see him if he is not going to be with you. Try not to contact him and he will start to feel the void that you used to fill in his life...hopefully. Whatever you do...If he really wants to be with you...he will come back.
2006-12-05 12:49:45 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i feel like you can't make someone realize how important you are to them they have to figure that out on their own but one way that helps them realize they lost you is by showing no affection by letting them no that somehow they are pushing you away and soon enough it will just break your heart someways to do that are not looking at him much or even talking to him much
2006-12-05 12:52:30 · answer #9 · answered by huntress2022 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he hasn't realized it yet he probably never will. You can't make someone feel like they have "lost" you. Maybe he has already moved on and you are they one that's "lost".
2006-12-05 12:46:52 · answer #10 · answered by He_Knows_Me 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋