am I right or my parents?

Question

I moved to this town like a month ago, and it's in a really nice area and all the kids wear nice clothes from the mall. I ask my parents if I can get some clothes from thew mall, and my dad is like NO!! Only Wal-Mart. I have been in this school for like a week now, and no one will talk to me. All they do is ask me where I get my clothes from, and I was Wal Mart, then they laugh and walk away. I told me dad about this, and all he said is that I will thank him for this later. BTW I'm 15 and in the 10th grade

he can afford, we live in a nice home. He just wants to teach me a lesson

Answer 1

You have been there only 1 month, you are being pretty hard on yourself. It's going to take a little longer than a month for you and the other kids to get used to each other. If someone doesn't like you because of your clothes...it says more about them than it does you.
I am a Dad of a 15 year old boy that wears designer clothes. He buys them with the money HE works for. You should do the same if you feel so strongly about it.
Your Parents are right. Don't wait until later to thank your Dad, go do it now.

Answer 2

Well, you're both right in some regards.

Your Dad is right in that clothes are material and it is not material things that make a great person. I think this is the lesson that he is trying to teach.

However, you are also very right in wanting to be accepted and make some friends. Unfortunately kids these days are into material things and they do matter.

Maybe come to a compromise and ask your Dad for just a couple sets of clothes from the mall so that you can wear one outfit per week from the mall vs. Wal Mart. Also ask for 'mall' clothes for Christmas. Maybe you will get something there.

You can shovel snow and mow grass to earn money to buy your own clothes from the mall. This is a very valuable lesson that you dad is probably trying to teach you.

Good luck.

Answer 3

Your Dad sets the rules and I give you 10/10 for respecting that and abiding by them.
Maybe though, you can offer to do some work around the house for more pocket money to get new clothes. Sit him down and explain to him that he must remember what it is like being a 15 year old and trying to fit in with other teenagers and this is something that is important to you, even though it may sound petty to him.
Also, at 15 I don't think you would have a full understanding of what your parents financial situation would be to know if they could afford it or not. So sit down and have a chat so your Dad realises it's something that you are serious about. Good luck.

Answer 4

What your dad is trying to say is that you shouldn't be so concerned with what clothes you wear...and others shouldn't be concerned with what clothes you wear either. Would you rather people like your for what clothes you wear or like you for being you? If you're that concerned about your clothing, then find a way to make it yours. Fray up the jeans at the bottom, get some iron on patches to put on your shirt or jacket or jeans. Learn some fashion basics and go from there. I've seen many people make Wal-Mart clothes look HOT! Also, see if your town has any thrift stores near. Thrift stores are a way to find great original clothing at very reasonable prices.

Answer 5

You know... I'm not sure, because I haven't heard your parents' point of view on this. I know it's hard at your age with everything going on.

You would be better off not to get hung up on that kind of stuff. So, I suggest that you either join a club or start sports or some other activity where you can meet with and be with kids who are likeminded. That way, the focus will not be on your clothes.

Chances are also that you're not welcome immediately. One month is not a long time to be living in an area - these kids probably have known each other for many years. Be patient.

I know it's hard, and I feel your pain. Your parents, if they can afford the nice clothes, are probably thinking that they would rather you focus on your studies, get full scholarships, etc. rather than be caught in the trivialities of HS drama.

Good luck hon!

Answer 6

10th grade can always be the hardest, especially when you move to a new town. Wal-mart can have some pretty cool stuff, you just need to know where to look at how to piece things together. You're in High School. make your own style and be confident in what you wear. yes, others may have the latest styles, but who cares? you may now...but trust me, later down the road, who cares? Nobody. this kids are just trying to feel powerful, don't let them. I'm a college freshman and people are always asking me where i get my clothes, i'll sheepishly admit most of my stuff is from my middle-school days, and theres usually two reactions. 1) they raise their eyebrows and walk away or 2) they laugh and say cool. If you're confident in what you wear people will leave you alone, and who knows, if you find something others like (and they're not willing to verbally admit they like it) you may just see a few people walking down the hallway similar to you :)

Answer 7

Actually I think you are right. I think there is a generation gap between you and your parents. There always is.
Your parents have to realize that they spend about the same amount of money for those cheap looking clothes at walmart.
When there is a SALE, in stores like OLD NAVY, GAP, AEROPOSTALE, etc, you get clothes for cheap and they look good.
Your parents have to realize that you are young and you deserve to be stylish.
If they dont and you dont have any choice, then, try to find the best clothes in Walmart and dont ever tell anyone that you bought those from walmart.
If someone asks where you bought those clothes Just say, "Why does it bother you?".

Remember, your attitude and character makes a person more stylish rather than the clothes they wear.
Good luck, dude.

Answer 8

Well I could always give you the grown up answer and tell you that if they judge you by your clothes then they are jerks. But to a 15 year old in the 10th grade, that doesn't mean crap to you. You want to be accepted and that is normal. The best answer I have for you is to try and save some money to buy the clothes you want at the Mall. Ask for only money on birthdays and any other chance you have. Try and earn some money and save that too. Then buy the clothes you want and your father can do nothing but respect you for earning it yourself.

Answer 9

Well the only thing you are goint to have to thank your parents for about this in later life is something to talk about in your therapy sessions. (Just kiddin') It is important to fit in and feel good about yourself so here are a few ideas:

1.You don't necessarly have to tell the kids the clothes are from walmart. Just say you don't know for sure. Walmart sometimes has clothes that aren't too bad like basic t shirts, polo shirts and that type of thing.
2. I understand that your parents don't like spending the extra money, when (in their opinion), something just as good can be bought for much cheaper - offer to chip in with your allowance or part time job money for some expensive items. Like if your mom gives you 40.00 for jeans save up whatever you want to spend over and above that.
3. Look for deals in second hand stores - sometimes you can get really stylish barely used clothes for a fraction of the cost (again you don't have to say where you got them if asked). You can also look in outlet stores and on ebay for deals.
4. Ask for clothes or gift certificate for Christmas - your parents and other relatives may be a little more generous at this time of year. You can also request the same for birthdays and other holidays where you get gifts.
Good luck - hopefully you find some friends who care about more than just clothes. See if you can join some clubs or somthing at school and get to know the kids.

Answer 10

Sorry, but I think you're parents are right. I went through a similar thing in high school. The "popular" kids would make fun of me and stuff because I didn't have the best clothes. I would get my clothes from Walmart too. Hey, I still get my clothes from Walmart. If they want to make fun of you because of your clothes then you don't need them to be your friend. They have to belittle you because it makes them feel like a bigger person. Think about it this way. If they make fun of you because of your clothes they have nothing else to make fun of you for. They need to make themselves feel good. It surprises me how many people act like that. Just give it some time. You'll find someone there who is the same as you. Besides, do you really want to be friends with those people now that they have made fun of you? You'll be the better person out of all that.