my kids (4 and 5) know all the curse words and curse me out!?

Question

my kids picked up words from the R movies my wife watches and now they curse at me!!!!( F### you, go to hell dad, dinner was S###) WHAT DO I DO?!!! THEY ARE 4 and 5 years old!

Answer 1

I have a 7 and 8 year old and i screen what they watch do to the same problem. However they still hear the language when we are in public such as mcdonalds, walmart etc...
It only takes one time for them to hear it at those ages for them to pick it up. If you tell them its a bad word chances are they will say it for a reaction out of you. You have to tell them and then back it up with a punishment. So here is how my husband and I solved the problem....We bought a small bottle of tobasco sauce every time we heard a NEW bad word we would tell them ..."that is a bad word that we shouldn't say I dont want to hear it again. If i hear it again i will have to get out the bad word sauce." If we heard it again we would get out the tobasco sauce and put just a small drop on our finger wipe it off then rub thier lip. Dont put the drop on there lip cause that is to much for a child. But if you rub it off then touch there lip they will most likely lick there lip. then it gets on thier tounge. It doesnt burn the lip it tingles alot but doesnt burn its a sensation that they aren't use to. I tried it to myself it isnt harsh but its just enough for them to get the message. We haven't had that problem since they were about 5 and 6 years old. We call it the bad word sauce. it works better than anything we tried even spankings. It took about 2 weeks to stop the language problems we were having.
We were at wendy's when my oldest son was 4 years old and heard the man behind us use the
son of a bi*c* phrase. That was his favorite thing to say for awhile we tried everything but when he called our church pastor that we knew we had to get a plan together and quick. Give it a try. And tell whoever is letting them watch those movies...nothing over pg without adults around...and nothing over pg13 with adults that way when they do cuss you can stop it before it starts.

Answer 2

I am a mother of six, and other than the occasional dam***, I have never heard of this happening. First thing to do is tell your wife to stop letting the children watch such things, her being a mother she should have more sense than that. Secondly, they have probably heard someone else speak to you that way and believe it is ok. Third, start taking everything away and I mean everything. Ground them in their house, every single time this happens, send them to the room and remove any entertainment, this will show them that what they say is very serious. When the seriousness of their words are understood calmly explain why they are not nice to say to people, how it can hurt their feelings, and ask them what they would do, feel, or say if it was said to them. Though this is a lot, make short, quick, to the point statements that are like five word sentences. Because after that, the attention will be lost. This is the best I could think of, sorry, I have never experienced it this bad though. Good luck!!

Answer 3

Firstly don't let them watch those movies, or ask you wife to watch them when the kids aren't around.
Start off sitting them down when you aren't cranky in a quiet room with no distractions. Ask them if they know what these words mean, if they don't explain that these words are used mainly by people who aren't clever enough to think of better words to use. Tell them that they are yucky words and people will get cranky and not like them if they use them. Think of someone they really want to impress (Grandma, fav.Uncle) and ask what they think "Grandma" would say if she heard them say such yucky words.
Give them pocket money for doing basic jobs around the house (making their bed, cleaning their room etc...) then have a list on the fridge that they get a cross everytime they swear. At the end of the week they lose x amount of money for everytime they swear. Make a deal that you will take them to the shops/cinema/video arcade if at the end of the week they stll have enough money left...Just a few ideas. Hope it helps...

Answer 4

well for one blaming each other isnt gonna solve anything,your both the parents,& it is both your fault..second you both need to sit & discuss how to discipline your children when they use theyre potty mouths.Since they are only 4 & 5..I'm assuming they are not given allowances so that is outta the question,what you can try & do..is everytime they say a bad word or disrespect you or your wife,take them & put them in a timeout..be consitent & firm..everytime they get up from timeout corner,go get them & sit them back there,and when they do get up..they will be testing to see if you are for real..YOUR THE PARENT,YOUR IN CHARGE!
after awhile they will eventually learn & get tired and stay put.Once they have sat in the amount time you punished them for,go to them & and ask them if they have any apologizies & then you explain to them that cursing & disrespecting is not nice..and have them apologize to you.It's gonna happen alot before you start seeing some change but if you want change in your home.I suggest you & your wife straighten up and put your foot down,otherwise this battle will never end.
As for the "R" movies..hey every man & woman has the right to watch an "R" movie in theyre home but how about waiting till the kids are in bed..and enjoying the movie in peace.
I hope you try this & everything straightens out..take care!

Answer 5

If the mother of these children allows them to use such words at you, what is wrong with this woman or with your marriage ? Seek help for that first, and once you two are in agreement, the children need to be next. With both of you working on this, it should take no time at all for the children to fall into line with both of you and have some fun learning a totally new vocabulary as a family. My very best wishes and Happy Holy Days

Answer 6

Ok tell your children its wrong to curse and should never curse anyone out especially their mother. and make sure they apologize and make sure they learn their lesson in cursing. cursing is for adults not children. but watch what you say around them because if you dont they will just pick the habit back up again. and dont watch the r rated movies in front of them make sure they are in bed when you watch the r rated movies.

Answer 7

Lots more discipline and a TON less TV!! Talk to your kids about appropriate behavior and language, be firm and consistant, because if you don't, it's only going to get worse. And you need to have a talk with your wife about what's ok and not ok to watch in front of the kids. Maybe she can watch in another room, or tape these shows to watch them after the kids are in bed.

Answer 8

I would take all the R rated movies, and hide them somewhere where my children couldn't reach. If your kids are still watching R rated movies on tv, You should put a lock on the channels they don't need to be watching. If your kids don't behave right, I would put them on a punishment. For your wife, I would tell her she has to go to parenting classes, or she needs to spend more time with her children.

Answer 9

Since you haven't told them the consequences, yet, of using this language, the next time it happens, warn them that if you hear it again, you will put soap in their mouths. The next time, do it, and then make them stand in a corner to think about it. A little ivory soap scraped on the teeth makes a lasting impression. Once the incident is past and everyone is calm would be a good time to talk with your children about acceptable and unacceptable behavior.

Answer 10

Call NANNY 911 and get rid of the wife. I think your past "time-outs". Get some professional advice for the wife and yourself and FOLLOW THROUGH. If your wife keeps watching these programs with the kids, it won't stop. You need to be serious with the kids and the wife