I have 2 boys, ages 10 and12 and we are talking fist fights!!!
2006-12-05 12:04:51 · 6 answers · asked by redy2screm 3 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Grade-Schooler
You don't have to put them in the marines, lol. You can do it yourself. Number one, discipline them. I mean take away everything. There life would involve school, homework, chores, bed. Until they learn to get along.
I would then get them involved into something they have to work together on. Building something, etc.
I am assuming this would be the opposite of their current lifestyle.
2006-12-05 12:34:37 · answer #1 · answered by sp 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
With two kids there's bound to be lots of physical fighting. I think making sure they have seperate spaces to be alone and away from one another is essential in minimizing brawls.
Especially at their ages, they are going to be wanting more privacy and they don't know any other way to get it.
Try to get them involved in different activities from one another and help them to maintain friendships which are mutally exclusive (different circles) so they are able to build their own identities.
Ask them what the catalyst is most often and help them find ways of avoiding the situation. They still need lots of guidance on how to deal with stressful situations and learning conflict resolution so with a bit of your own observation, I bet you can help keep the fights down to a reasonable level.
There's no way to completely get rid of fighting, but as they learn better ways of dealing with their conflicts, they will become less intense and less frequent.
2006-12-06 01:54:49 · answer #2 · answered by mutherwulf 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Me and my sister fought alot.. pushing, punching, whatever. Finally my dad designed a unique and successful punishment. We had to do a whole bunch of chores around the house together. We also had to eat our meals together, alone, in our room. We had to face eachother as we ate. As we spent time together washing dishes, and much more, we began to see we could control our tempers. We had to. We didn't want to spend that much time around eachother. We are best friends now. We look back on it now and laugh. Imagination is the key.
2006-12-05 18:32:22 · answer #3 · answered by kiki 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's called sibling rivalry and is quite "normal". Just send them outside with a "I don't want any blood on the walls or carpets", if there is blood shed show them where the bandages are. If there is vein or arterey severing take them to the ER. Otherwise ignore it because that is WHY they are doing it to get YOUR attention.
2006-12-05 17:25:02 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
look'em in the eye, growl a bit, and say that if they can't live by your rules then they can pack their bags and leave.
2006-12-05 12:54:35 · answer #5 · answered by emma 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
put them in the young marines
2006-12-05 12:06:29 · answer #6 · answered by alisha m 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋