Okay, so my mom is not talking to me..?

Question

2 nights ago, she was having a fight with my father, and like she was hitting him and like she pulled a knife on him, and like, me and my brother held her back and stuff and calmed her down.

She thinks im taking sides with him. And I'm not, he's my father and I love him greatly.

And now, she's acting like I'm just someone taking up her happiness for her daughters, or so she says.

I don't know. I didn't do anything wrong and I tried talking to her but she just turned the other cheek.

Im mad at her, and Im not saying sorry for something i know I had t do.

I'm not tlaking to her till she says sorry.

What should I do?

Answer 1

What kind of mother pulls a knife on a kids father, in front of the kids? I would suggest you let her calm down, make sure there are no knives around when you talk to her, and keep the police and child services on speed dial. You were right when you tried to keep her from hurting your father.

Answer 2

I don't think you should worry about it. I know that's impossible but it's a start. All my parents do is fight and throw dishes (we spend more money on china than our house costs). They act like 5 year olds, and I'm only 15 but act more mature than they do. Getting in the middle of it is never a good idea. Just give your mom time to cool off, she's obviously going through a lot. When she calms down she'll realize just how foolish she has been and apologize to you. It's always better to get an apology rather than to give one. So don't worry too much about it, things will work themselves out.

Answer 3

i think you are on the right track, definately don't apologize for some thing you know you didn't do and are still getting accused of doing it by your selfish mother, but i think that you should still make the first move to push her to make a little better decision so that she will apologize to you ..... . . . but make sure that you do not push her enough so that when she does apologize , you will not feel like you apologized to yourself!!! if you do decide to take my advice . . . . . . . . let her know that you weren't taking sides because you love both your father and her very much so after all of that accusing for nothing you don't fell like you are the one who needs to apologize first , tell her that you do not want her to just apologize to stop your complaining and keep the peace but take a minute to understand and agree with what you said and to make the comparison. . . . ask her to do the right thing and be your mother again because you still love her so very much. good luck!!! it is also a good idea to let her know that you were not only protecting your father from getting hurt but you were protecting her from getting in trouble or for doing something stupid like that and going to jail and regreting it later.

Answer 4

oh gosh.
i'm sorry.
i think you really did do the right thing..because that's wrong what she did..i don't care what they were arguing about..you don't pull a knife on someone...especially in front of your children.
you did nothing wrong..just remember that much.
if she doesn't realize sooner or later that you are her daughter..and you did do the right thing..and forgives you..i know this sounds very strange..but she's still your mother..and if things are still the same in a few weeks or so..where you guys aren't talking..just talk it out with her..tell her what she did was wrong..and you love her and your dad very much..and you don't want to see either one of them hurt.i've gotten into some pretty bad arguments myself with my mom..she actually kicked me out of her house a few times..in the middle of the night..for no reason really..and i don't drive..so i have to like walk aimlessly until someone picks me up..but after a few weeks i realize she's my mom..i didn't choose her..but she did alot for me in the past..and i still love her.you only have one mom..and you always will.even though what she did was wrong..and she should apologize..she might not..but you have to be the bigger person here.
best of luck to you..hope this helped..

Answer 5

Your mum is obviously hurting an awful lot and perhaps it is a lot of stuff that you don't understand or don't know about. Try telling her that you need to know the truth about what is going on as you are old enough to, and let her know that it is upsetting you too she may not realise this. Also let her know that you are adult enough to love both of your parents and not take sides, but that it is hard to be caught in the middle of two people you love.

Answer 6

Best thing to do is to bring her to a psychologist. Probably that, u can't do. Try talking with ur uncles or aunts (her siblings) or talk with ur grandparents. Any one with a fine mind can understand so well that u'r right. They'll help u to settle this. Everything should be cool after that. Try to get her to listen to soft music. Prevent her from watching any drama show, cauz she's the drama queen herself already. I hate all the shows on TV, especially the People's Court (it has different names, though). Wat the heck, ppl having fights on TV??? That's f*ked up. Oh, one more thing. She might be getting stress from work. U can't stop her from work, so try to comfort her when she gets home from work. U have to be active to make her mind pleasant. Anyway, cool things down first.

Answer 7

your mom has a problem. pulling a knife on someone is serious what if you both did not stop her and she stabbed your dad she would be in jail. no need to apologize. let her know how you feel you should not have to take sides as far your parents are concerned. this is a situation you should not have been in at all.
both parent need to wake up and see what this does to their family

Answer 8

You did the right thing.

Nobody should be pulling a knife on anyone. She should be glad you didn't cause the police. That is sure what I would have done, even if it was my mom.

Answer 9

you shouldn't say sorry because you didn't do nothing wrong,he's your father and of course you'll defend him,try to talk to your mom even though she may not be looking at you just say it,tell her its not your fault about what happen you love them both and you dont want to get in the problems between eachother.

Answer 10

The heck with her i went over two years with out talking to my mother,you should just go about your business and not say a word to her until she speaks to you.